How Do I tell my folks, about my boyfriend....? Options

[WhiteLotus*]

I am currently with my first boyfriend of 4 months almost and my paretns still don't know. I'm afraid they wouldn't accept him because he is 3 years older than I am and that he is of a different race. My dad is very racist and my Mom will probably get very mad for not telling her. They are BOTH getting suspicious.

I really like this guy and I don't want to loose him. How can I tell my folks about him?

[_sarcastic_]

i'm in the same position as you are but my bf's the same race as i am and he's only 2 years older. but i think my parents would accept him (he's a family friend)
Anyways, sit your parents down and just tell them calmly, and if they freak reassure them that nothing bad is gonna happen.

[br0ken smile]

just tell them abnout him and what a good person he is and all that. Tell them you really like him and it means alot to you for them to accept him.

[yukichan]

just tell ur parents the truth...good luck..

[to-devastate]

Tell your parents about him. It might be hard; and they might get mad at you for awhile.. but it's better then keeping a lie.

[Shattered_Hope]

you come asking for an answer you already know..
why postpone the inevitable?
tell your parents...sooner or later you'll have to..

[silver-rain]

i'm in almost the same situation- my boyfriend is the same race but is 1 year older. but my parents have met him, and suspect something is going on, and i don't feel like telling them anyways.
but, i think you should tell them who he is and how much he means to you, and state some of his good qualities and have him meet your parents. good luck.

[*stephinika*]

yeah i agree with everyone else...and it would probably be better to tell them sooner than later..

[sheddingtears]

show them that your guy is worth it. tell them all the good things that happened to you when he came into your life.

[lilJdawg]

Sit down & talk to them about it. Tell them how he makes you happy. Invite him over for dinner or something like that.

[mouse_3k]

How can I tell my folks about him?

easy...you dont

[FLIPxADDICTION]

i wouldn't ever tell my parents if i had a boyfriend. they would just lecture me.
if you love your boyfriend very much and think you will be with him for a while, go for it. it's your decesion. good luck

[sheepy]

actually im in the same situation too cept my bf is same age as me. but then my mom already knows him, and is suspious too but im not planning to tell.
hmms.. i guess you should tell if you're planning for a very long term relationship.

[WhiteLotus*]

Thanks, everyone..but..I also have another problem.

I asked my Mom casually when I'm allowed to date..she said when I am 16..I'm 13 now. >.<

So, how can I tell them now?

[Xprezsion]

Wow this is tough, hmm is there anyway you can keep it a secret? I know it's evil, but it sounds like they are strict and they won't accept him. Goodluck on whatever way you decide to handle it!

[whywasisostupid]

o god. i wuldnt tell them.
i told them about mine and they called him up and everything....i hate my parents

[cRaZiiXbEauTiFul]

well, when you say *suspicious*, what does tha mean? like do they know cuz your always on the phone with him or something?? keep in mind- what they odnt know wont kill them

[WhiteLotus*]

well, when you say *suspicious*, what does tha mean? like do they know cuz your always on the phone with him or something?? keep in mind- what they odnt know wont kill them 

No, he walks me home..I'm telophonophobic. I've been comming home later and later. She's even spotted me with him once.

[wrensong]

dude... in the same predicament as you as well. my boyfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months and my parents don't agree. (mainly because he's two years older and agnostic) hmm.... well... you could just NOT tell them... and it'll either blow up in your face or everything will work out some how.... but if you tell them and say in a firm, but non-defiant voice maaaaaaaybe things can be compromised. If your voice begins to waver (or you just start squeaking from the beginning) they'll know they've got you and go for the kill... (i.e. make you break up with your boyfriend or worse). If you stand strong and voice your opinions in a mature manner, they'll take you seriously. Have them both sit down one night and just tell them you have something important to tell them. Explain how you feel about your boyfriend, about the family situation, and what you would like to reach (that is POSITIVE for both parties) as a resolution to this issue. Ask them to have an open mind and an open heart. (and to just hear you out) Anywho, best of luck to you.

[captured_serenit...]

I used to be in that situation...because me and my boyfriend are of 8 months and some...and he is mexican and i'm half flip/white, but my mom is hating on mexicans and dad is ok, but doesnt like the fact that we are together, but they just have to deal with it, because he's year 85 and i'm 87 like what 3 years right? that's how much older he is than me, i'm 17 he's 19 and my parents don't like it at all...but i had to tell them... :satisfied:

[SilverPorsche05]

iono wut 2 do i m in a like 3 month relationship rite noe n i need help on how 2 tell my parents 2 lol

[istolearock]

i think they'd appreciate it more if you told them rather than have them find out when you were trying to hide it... haa haa...

[runforfun529]

Just tell them. They will probably overreact cause they are parents, but oh well. Would you rather live your life as a lie and always have that hanging over your head, or risk them getting mad at you?

[bad_girl]

first of all.. how old are u? u dont reall have to tell them if u dont want to.. wait for the right time. them being racist has nothing to do with u.. it's not who THEY like.. it's who U like.