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 Jan 16 2005, 06:58 PM
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 RiKACHANtEL  Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230  |
Whew! Where to start. Ok- to cut this short, here's the dealio.
I am a straight girl and i'm starting to have these thoughts about another girl. I've NEVER felt this way before and it freaks me out because it goes against what i believe in. I'm against homosexuality but, why are these thoughts slowly but, surely invading my head? There are plenty of lesbians at my school so if i was to pursue this it wouldnt be unusual. I wonder what my friends would think? I know some would have a lot of shit to say and some would just wish me luck. Its just all so confusing for me. I know my bf would be mad as hell. If i was to pursue this & my family found out I would die. My family is extremely religious so i KNOW this would be the end of my life. My daddy, several uncles, and my grandaddy are all preachers so i know this would be the end of it for me. I was jokin around the other day and told my mama I was gay but i think she kinda believed it...then i told her my gf was in the newspaper. I was joking (i dont have gf) but, i was talking about the girl i'm diggin'. I think Patrice (thats her name) tried to get w/ me at the beginning of the school year (way before i started the having these thoughts). I was in Journeys and she was all asking me my name and age and ish. I was freaked out at the time but, now i wish that i had went for it instead of looking at her like she was crazy. I wonder does she even remember that she tried to talk to me & does she like me or whatever....uhh I dont really know what i'm asking. What i typed probably doesnt even make sense but, whatever |
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Jan 16 2005, 07:11 PM
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 You Kicked My Dog. Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 69,782 |
whoa this is interesting .. just cause your having thoughts about a girl doesn't mean your gay.. maybe you are just wait untill your sure.
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Jan 16 2005, 07:11 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
it's karma!
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Jan 16 2005, 07:28 PM
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RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
QUOTE(roberts_pink_drums @ Jan 16 2005, 6:11 PM) whoa this is interesting .. just cause your having thoughts about a girl doesn't mean your gay.. maybe you are just wait untill your sure.  i dont think i'm gay...i LOVE boys...hella more than girls. This is the first time i've ever had these feelings.... QUOTE(airam @ Jan 16 2005, 6:11 PM) it's karma! how's it karma? |
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Jan 16 2005, 07:28 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
these teenage years, you are trying to find yourself. although it may seem scary, it's pretty natural. I'm sure you're not the only one who has ever thought of intimate relations withthe same sex. You're family should also love you no matter what gender you are attracted too. But just give it time before you make conclusions
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Jan 16 2005, 07:43 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
u r slowly become gay/bi? no worries. its all fine. i dont think ur become gay/bi though. I had thoughts about this girl once and it was like *ew* and im straight. and i never had thoughts like tht ever again. whoaw thank god tht stage was over lol
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Jan 16 2005, 07:50 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
this is karma because you were against homosexuality and now you might be bisexual or a lesbian
i personally think this is great, since you've disapproved of the gay community, you'll realize how closed minded people affect and hurt them |
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Jan 16 2005, 07:52 PM
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RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
i KNOW i aint becoming gay...usher is too sexxy to give it all up. I just think this one girl is the..ohh...she looks like an older version of little romeo...same skin color...dresses like a fukkin nigga...braids and everything..acts like a dude...just has girl parts..
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Jan 16 2005, 07:54 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
what is the exact thoughts you are having?
it could just be a friendship thought or like you think that girl is pretty..etc? |
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Jan 16 2005, 07:58 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
To be honest I've never been in this situation...but I think it could be that you're trying the possibility of liking the same sex..you are against it and now that this girl has made an approach to you..you can't help but overthink it. Meh, I doubt it's anything serious...
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Jan 16 2005, 07:58 PM
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 love sucks...big time jessir.. Group: Member Posts: 661 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,644 |
maybe you feel like that cuz she represents a "guy" since shes dresses like one.
Now , Its probaly a pahse because I know this guy who thought he was gay , had a BF and did everything possible guys could do with guys and then he realized it was just a phase.So chill and time will let you know. |
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Jan 16 2005, 08:36 PM
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RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
QUOTE(chii @ Jan 16 2005, 6:50 PM) this is karma because you were against homosexuality and now you might be bisexual or a lesbian i personally think this is great, since you've disapproved of the gay community, you'll realize how closed minded people affect and hurt them umm..no i dont think so because i'm STILL against it. I still think its wrong. I dont like it AT ALL. If i happen to be bi or gay or whatever i dont think i would be hurt by what people say because i know thats its not right. |
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Jan 16 2005, 08:48 PM
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POWAPOSTA Group: Member Posts: 3,169 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,725 |
QUOTE(miss barnes @ Jan 16 2005, 7:28 PM) how's it karma? lets look at the situation: you don't believe that homosexuality is right. you are now convinced that you might be gay yourself. you are facing the difficulties of questioning youself and telling someone about this. these feeling you experience are probably comman on what most homosexuals overcome. it's karma, trust me. |
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Jan 16 2005, 09:10 PM
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yeah, ill have to agree with airam. it's karma. i hope im not mis-using the word, but is this situation a little bit ironic?
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Jan 16 2005, 10:42 PM
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QUOTE(actionrobot_go @ Jan 16 2005, 9:10 PM) yeah, ill have to agree with airam. it's karma. i hope im not mis-using the word, but is this situation a little bit ironic? yup, it's ironic.i'd say get to know her, as a friend, and then you'll be able to see past the fact that she looks like lil romeo or whatever, you'll see the person she is. if you're still into her, then go for it! |
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Jan 17 2005, 12:55 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
You can be bisexual.
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Jan 17 2005, 01:22 AM
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 nOW wHY tHE hELL aRE tHEY bLINKIN'!?! Group: Member Posts: 116 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,739 |
Personally... I'm as straight as lines on loose leaf paper! But, I mean girls will judge girls and guys will judge guys.. we will all judge eachother... Even if you are diggin a certain someone more than just a friend... think about it truely as much as you know you can... Like these relationships we have in our teen years... are outrageous. If you do go lesbian theres like a 0.1% chance youll marry anyone you meet (thats a girl)... so even if you are thinking of this person more often then you used to doesnt mean your turning gay or lesbian...maybe your sexually deprived... not saying your man isnt doing anything for you can i dont even kno you two at all... (lol) but teenage minds are CRAZY! who knows what people think up.. im sure this will all eventually blow over...
gOOD lUCk Wit Luv, tORI |
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Jan 18 2005, 06:39 PM
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RiKACHANtEL Group: Member Posts: 3,876 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,230 |
QUOTE(dOyOOHtHINK @ Jan 17 2005, 12:22 AM) Personally... I'm as straight as lines on loose leaf paper! But, I mean girls will judge girls and guys will judge guys.. we will all judge eachother... Even if you are diggin a certain someone more than just a friend... think about it truely as much as you know you can... Like these relationships we have in our teen years... are outrageous. If you do go lesbian theres like a 0.1% chance youll marry anyone you meet (thats a girl)... so even if you are thinking of this person more often then you used to doesnt mean your turning gay or lesbian...maybe your sexually deprived... not saying your man isnt doing anything for you can i dont even kno you two at all... (lol) but teenage minds are CRAZY! who knows what people think up.. im sure this will all eventually blow over... gOOD lUCk Wit Luv, tORI ohh..thanks...like that advice. I'm not going to worry about that girl anyways |
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Jan 18 2005, 09:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
don't worry. make sure you really are thinking about this girl. i mean later on, you'll forget about her & you'll lose your bf because you went with her.
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Jan 19 2005, 05:27 AM
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everyone goes through a time when they think they're homosexual.. *that's what i read somewhere*. lol. i havent been through that yet, i wonder. try chatting her up again and see if u have any more interest in her.
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Jan 19 2005, 06:23 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
think really hard bout this. you don't want to make a decision without thinking then regret it
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Jan 19 2005, 07:55 AM
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 ~The CB Advice Giver~ Group: Member Posts: 505 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,021 |
You're not gay. But here is a warning. Dont joke around about it, especally in a religious family. I have no problem with gay people and or friends, but some others may,a nd if you start joking about it people may look down on that. Also, depending on your religion, being gay means you end up in hell, no ifs ands or buts. liek i said i dont know your religion but im just giving you fair warning.
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Jan 19 2005, 08:00 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
maybe you're bi.
just keeding. i agree w/ oreo_bro. someone who is a lot smarter than me. |
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Jan 19 2005, 08:31 AM
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~The CB Advice Giver~ Group: Member Posts: 505 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,021 |
QUOTE(x__forever @ Jan 19 2005, 5:00 AM) maybe you're bi. just keeding. i agree w/ oreo_bro. someone who is a lot smarter than me. oh come on..i am not... 
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Jan 19 2005, 08:33 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(Oreo_bro @ Jan 19 2005, 9:31 PM) oh come on..i am not... hahah who knows, you probably are. 
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