Hitting your girlfriend., Has any guy ever done it? Options

[jaeman]

I don't hit anyone, male or female.

[MeanBastard]

I don't hit anyone, male or female.

What if you were being beaten by someone from a country who has waged war upon you?

[you suck]

wow. u shouldnt hit each other when ur mad and u shouldnt expect NOT to get slapped back but he shouldnt have slapped u he is an ass if he hits a girl.

[x____Broken_doll]

I agree, i did hit him first and i know it was wrong, but what he said to me was cold. I'm not gonna get into this right now because i don't wanna get mad, and i don't believe that because i slapped him he has the right to slap me back - who the hell made up that stupid rule? His hands are like 4 times bigger than mine, meaning the impact on my face in 4x stronger. I don't care, he shouldn't have hit me. I think the people who said i should break up with him are right - i think this relationship isn't working out, he's got an anger problem that he needs to sort out. Fast.

[sammi rules you]

if you know what you're going to do, why did you ask?

[mz anita xP]

hm...hes wrong to start the argument but every relationship gets that, and the problem is always over the most stupidest thing. you need to understand there must be something for him to argue wtih you. why didnt he jus leave? becaseu he still wanna be with you, he doesnt wanna end the relationship. relationship still needs space, dont be too insecure. well like you said, you did hit him first, he might not have tend to hit you back, but his anger might've normally made that move. i dunno i guess you guys really need to talk to each other. its hard for now, give a little bit more time, but seems like you still love him, should try talking and not get this to cause and end to your relationship

[mouse_3k]

I slapped him in the face and he slapped me right back.

u slapped him first, so he slapped you. honestly, i think you deserved it. you basically asked for it. heck, if I was a guy and a girl hit me, i would hit them right back. just because ur a girl dont mean you get special treatment.

You hit him first, so you deserved to get ur assed kicked.

[wayne]

i play figh with girls/girlfreinds. but i never hit them to give them pain. hitting a girl to me seems like hitting a little child. its sometyhing u dont do.

[pinayprincess]

break up man!!!!

[iheartjohn]

My boyfriend used to beat me up really badly. He pushed me down a flight of stairs and even broke my arm. I decided to leave him, right then and there but it took a lot of strength because I thought I loved him.

If he continues to hit you, then leave him. But inyour situation it sounds that he did it out of instinct. It probably won't happen again.

[mouse_3k]

who the hell made up that stupid rule? His hands are like 4 times bigger than mine, meaning the impact on my face in 4x stronger. I don't care, he shouldn't have hit me

yah well u got nails, u could have scratched him. if u slapped him first, then honestly, u dont deserve a bf period. i say the bf should break up with YOU. YOU shouldnt have hit him, its your fault why he hit you back. stop complaining that he hit you cause you did it first, you basically asked for it.

yah and its possible to have a gf abuse a bf and what you did, it was abuse so maybe it was self defense on his part. oh well, i would have hit you back too if you hit me first even if I had bigger hands n stuff, i would have still hit you back


just be lucky that he only slapped you not punched the heck outta ya

he's got an anger problem that he needs to sort out. Fast.

no little lady, you the one with the anger problem. u shouldnt have slapped him in the first place and since you did and he hit you back, i applaud the guy. at least you know he aint gunna take any of your abuse and crap. *shrug* you had it coming.

[MrElsewhere]

^ agreed on the bf abuse.

dude has anger problems and so do you.

[mouse_3k]

I mean [f]eleeza's case seems more reasonable since she didnt start anything and didnt do anything and her guy continue to beat her. thats bf to gf abuse. (sorry [f]eleeza if im putting you on the spotlight but im proud that you got the strength to leave)

NE who, but for x____Broken_doll, eh, u hit him, he hits you, its equal now

[heyyfrankie]

You slapped him first. What doesn't give him the right to slap you back?

men shouldn't slap girls, ladies or women.

[to-devastate]

woww.
as everyone said that you should of suspected him to hit you back.. i totally disagree.
This guy needs to know what respect means. I mean. Slapping a girl is not right- even if you deserved it. It's just wrong. You guys need to break up if its obviously not working out.

[*[2]Nekked*]

just because someone hits you...that doesnt give you the right to hit them back. its not self defense or anything... its just payback...

and i think that it's different when a guy hits a girl... im all for feminism, but let's face it... men are just stronger than women. he handled it badly. maybe she was immature in hitting him first.. does that make him any more mature than her for hitting her back?

and i dont think shes trying to say that it isnt fair or anything.. i think what she's trying to say was that she's hurt that he even would... like yeah she hit him first, but she never thought he would have it in him to hit her back.

and also.. in any fight, really... if someone hits you... if you're really a man, you should think whether its worth it to fight back... if the person is like 4 times smaller than you... what do you think you'll accomplish by whooping their ass? nothing... you can defend yourself without hitting the other person back.. do you WANT to hurt the other person?

if her boyfriend cared about her, he wouldnt have hit her back, for whatever reason; even if she hit him first. he knows he could damage her 10 times more than she could damage him.

what does it mean when your boyfriend hits you? he WANTS to hurt you. in my opinion thats more dangerous than you wanting to hurt him; and that puts you in a bad position. break up with him.

[mouse_3k]

woww.
as everyone said that you should of suspected him to hit you back.. i totally disagree.
This guy needs to know what respect means. I mean. Slapping a girl is not right- even if you deserved it. It's just wrong. You guys need to break up if its obviously not working out.

well i say if a girl hits u, then u have the right to hit them back. man or women. if you hit, then u deserve to get hit.

[blackbow]

wow.. you slapped him? why? wasn't he angry? what were you expecting would happen after you slapped him? since when did hitting people fix anything?

he slapped you back? thats pretty dumb too, but he was angry and i think most people would want to fight back in some way if they were angry.

so many people have said that guys should never slap a girl, but they never said why. are you sayign that girls should be respected just because they are girls? dont girls want to be equal to guys?

to me it sounds like you consciously decided to slap him. and he only reacted to you slapping him.

WHAT IF YOU DIDN'T SLAP HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE? MAYBE YOU WOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SLAPPED BACK! and then maybe you wouldn't be thinking about breaking up right now.

slapping, ha, like that helps?

[picaso_smile]

A gentleman wouldn't hit a lady. . . But some people have difficulties. If you ask me he shouldn'e have touched you.

Psh. Jerk.

[edit] My opinion is --to answer why you don't hit a girl-- this:
Males have more upper body strength. They could hurt the girl. (not cool) Also, the guy should be treating the girl well, taking her out, showing affection, etc. Affection. NOT violence.

And did you really hurt the guy when you slapped him?

[jennyjenny]

Well you slapped him. So he slapped you. You should've slapped him back.

[captured_serenit...]

well, i'll tell you my code of ethics about hitting girls. 

1.  hitting for no reason, if it isn't hard, is ok.
2.  don't hit, poke (if possible)
3.  if she hits you, you can hit her back equally hard. 
so basically.  you slapped him.

for once, i really agree with this person! =o) it's true, that's how i see it too, so i think there is a problem but you shouldn't have slapped him...sorry

[PersonalJesus]

This really pisses me off because a women can hit a man all she wants and the second that he defends himself (pushes her away, un-knowingly slaps back) and he is in deep shit and in jail.

I think you brought it on yourself. But a guy should never hit a girl ever, but if she hits him first then I think he had the right.

Sorry if I sound rude.

The law these days is just messed up.

[MeanBastard]

Answer me this. Why shouldn't we be able to slep women when they slap us? Why should women be able to slap guys? Why cant we slap women?

[mouse_3k]

^ thts my question. even though im a girl, i think everything should be fair so i say the guy can hit us if we hit them first..

[Stupidxaimee]

hmm i guess him slapping you is wrong but in a way you slapping him is wrong too, but i guess wit was just like a sudden thing where u didnt have the time to think? ..yeah, well i think you should wait it litltle bit, let things cool down, then go talk to him