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post Jan 13 2005, 06:38 AM
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OOOH ... ok .. here's the deal. I just moved to a new school. Now im pressured to be cool, have a boyfriend so on. and i have ... i never hadto do this in my old school. Im not used to it... my friends are having a party ... and they invited me. They are inviting boys and i come from a strict family where i am not allowed to go out with boys. I already lied to my parents saying that there will be more girls then boys, and that the boys are perfect gentlemens ( cough ) .. but ... i feel so guilty .. i hate lying ... i told my friends already and they said that its a way of life... i hate them .. but they are popular and if i express how i feel about them .. they will turn everyone against me .. help .. cry.gif
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 09:25 AM
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why do you try to be cool? why dont you just be your self. lying to your parents will be big problem. what will you do if they found out that your going to a party with so many boys around you? Trust is like a mirror, once broken you can never fix it like before. yeah every one lie but dont lie that big coz you might regret it.
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:01 PM
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It's stupid to be something that you obviously aren't. If you want to go to this party, then go.. but your conscience will eat you alive.. I mean, I'm sure we've all lied to our parents, but it seems you're a first timer?.. so it's different for you.. Do what you want... but just know their could be some regret..
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:04 PM
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Seriously like everyone else said why are you trying to be like everyone else. You do not need friends who try to tell you whats cool or not. Geez Get new friends
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:23 PM
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Just be yourself.
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:28 PM
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go and have fun. Once you start having fun, the guilt will fade away ahahaha. I mean honestly, lying isnt that bad unless your lying about a murder or something...chillax, go to the party, have fun wit all em boys, etc.
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:42 PM
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u will have to start hanging out with boys someday... so yea
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 06:47 PM
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we have the same situation, except that i just don't go to the party and i obey my parents' wishes, i mean, i am scared of the consequences if my parents actually find out
 
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post Jan 13 2005, 09:15 PM
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you should stop making such a big deal out of things, people aren't going to hate you if you don't go to some party, high school isn't going to be hell if that happens, there are people better than that, if those girls were pressuring you when you told them how you felt about things, then what kind of friends will they turn out to be?

would you rather be popular and have empty friends or be less popular and have great friends who are there for you?

if you want to be popular then go, if not, stand up to them and stay home or go somewhere and make better friends thumbsup.gif
 
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Your parents must be pretty stupid.
 
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post Jan 14 2005, 12:12 AM
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Be yourself. Just go, if you hate them, why are you still friends with them? make friends with the non-popular.
 
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post Jan 14 2005, 03:02 PM
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there comes a time where you gotta start doing your own thing regardless of what your parents wishes are. the question is when to start making those judgements for yourself. (i think i big thing people leave out of their posts is how old they are) dont get drunk. dont get pregnant. dont get killed. you gotta think (i wish i knew how old these people are) about the likelihood of thes things happening are. liek okay. if you know theres going to be boose there, be careful. if theres gonna be drugs there, be a little more careful. if theres boose and cars, get your own ride. im never one to turn down a good time, but not at the expense of yoru life. thats ungood. and yeah, be yourself. people that are your friends who ARE your friends because of who youve become arent your friends. you gotta get the friends that like you the way you are (for the most part at least). i know peer pressure is a difficult thing to break free from, especially when you havent come of age, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt try. im all for experimentation, but only to the point where peoples lives are in danger. but yeah, get yourself a dood. are you asian? i know what its like to have an asian girlfriend. that was a bad deal... crazy as hell, but it shouldnt have happened the way it did.... ANYWAY! just use your own judgement. dont get drunk. i think thats the biggest danger i see. just have a good time.

DO YOUR OWN THING =be yourself
DONT GET PREGNANT
DONT GET KILLED

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post Jan 15 2005, 12:45 AM
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wow....you'd do that for popularity??*lol* *ahem* but anywayz, there are some people who err..hate these girls too you know...no matter how popular someone is...there will always be some..who don't like them. IF you don't think these people..are your real friends [I don't think they're your real friends...] then tell them...if peer pressure bothers you and they're the ones that are giving you peer pressure...then go elsewhere..to make it up for lying to your parents just tell them you decided to not go to the party..you'll feel less guilt that way... console.gif
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 04:49 AM
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if u really dont want to, then dont. make yourself cool, in ur own unique way. dont follow the crowd just because they're popular!
*cough* but yeah.. lying to ur parents *cough* is a way of life *cough*
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 08:55 AM
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like above said, you shouldn't be something you don't feel comfortable with. well be yourself, and if you don't wanna go to the party don't, you'll spend more time feeling guilty then having fun
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 09:50 AM
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why do you try to be cool? why dont you just be your self. lying to your parents will be big problem. what will you do if they found out that your going to a party with so many boys around you? Trust is like a mirror, once broken you can never fix it like before. yeah every one lie but dont lie that big coz you might regret it.

I Think So To->Dont Be COol Be Yourself.
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 10:05 AM
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QUOTE(travnewmatic @ Jan 14 2005, 3:02 PM)
there comes a time where you gotta start doing your own thing regardless of what your parents wishes are.  the question is when to start making those judgements for yourself.  (i think i big thing people leave out of their posts is how old they are)  dont get drunk.  dont get pregnant.  dont get killed.  you gotta think (i wish i knew how old these people are) about the likelihood of thes things happening are.  liek okay.  if you know theres going to be boose there, be careful.  if theres gonna be drugs there, be a little more careful.  if theres boose and cars, get your own ride.  im never one to turn down a good time, but not at the expense of yoru life.  thats ungood.  and yeah, be yourself.  people that are your friends who ARE your friends because of who youve become arent your friends.  you gotta get the friends that like you the way you are (for the most part at least).  i know peer pressure is a difficult thing to break free from, especially when you havent come of age, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt try.  im all for experimentation, but only to the point where peoples lives are in danger.  but yeah, get yourself a dood.  are you asian?  i know what its like to have an asian girlfriend.  that was a bad deal...  crazy as hell, but it shouldnt have happened the way it did....  ANYWAY!  just use your own judgement.  dont get drunk.  i think thats the biggest danger i see.  just have a good time.

DO YOUR OWN THING =be yourself
DONT GET PREGNANT
DONT GET KILLED

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ok then! l'm 19, am l that old?

and l think that, that is not a good idea bro. she have to listen to her parents because they know what is good for her. dont give her that kind of advice, like
dont get drunk. dont get pregnant. dont get killed and about that if theres gonna be drugs there, be a little more careful. if theres boose and cars, get your own ride. im never one to turn down a good time, but not at the expense of yoru life.
If there wil be drugs then she should'nt have to go with these kind of people. they up to no good. So stay away from them, find someone you feel comportable with like what _sarcastic_ said. real friends accept you, who you raelly are and where you come from and what you have done before they knew you.

yeah l know that she have to decide for her self. You have to be think about it.


quess what, l have been in her shoes before and they found out that l am lying to them. l lose their trust on me and they dont trust me anymore. they even start to hate me.
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 02:46 PM
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be yourself..dont do something u dont want to..
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 08:34 PM
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you shouldn't have to lie to yourself, your friends, and your family to be "cool"...how old are you? if you're still in middle school, then i understand why you want to be popular soo bad...news flash-after 8th grade, there is no real popular crowd in highschool. people realize what bullshit it is and just become who they are and have a group of friends who are true and real. Don't ever change yourself to be on of the cool kids, those kids aren't even cool. They are usually the most hated ones in school. Stop being so shallow and find people who like your for YOU.
 
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post Jan 15 2005, 11:14 PM
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You don't have to do all that stuff to be cool!
Haven't you ever watched those peer pressure videos in school?
Doing all that stuff is stupid.
 
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post Jan 16 2005, 12:47 AM
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omg the conformity is overbearing. STOP AND THINK FOR YOURSELF ppl dont like fake ppl. if u act like ur crazy cool self, den ppl will love u. and lying is part of a teenagers life.
 
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post Jan 16 2005, 12:51 AM
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blink.gif Don't try and act like someone else. Be yourself.
 
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post Jan 17 2005, 05:05 AM
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why don't you just ditch the party and be yourself, don't try to fit in, because some or should i say most people hate those kinds of people, the populars and stuff...
 
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post Jan 17 2005, 12:39 PM
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Be yourself.
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post Jan 18 2005, 10:48 AM
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QUOTE(broken_lance @ Jan 15 2005, 10:05 AM)
ok then! l'm 19, am l that old?

and l think that, that is not a good idea bro. she have to listen to her parents because they know what is good for her. dont give her that kind of advice, like
dont get drunk.  dont get pregnant.  dont get killed and about that if theres gonna be drugs there, be a little more careful.  if theres boose and cars, get your own ride.  im never one to turn down a good time, but not at the expense of yoru life.

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i know i didnt quote your entire thing, but, how is not getting drunk, pregnant, and killed bad advice? and yeah, i think 19 is getting up there. not old persay, but thats getting to be about the age to start stepping out of your parents comfort zone. they know whats best for you, yes, but the whole point of parenting is to pass on to you the skills necesary so that you will be able to make those decisions by yourself when your parents arent there to tell you what to do.

lemme guess, are her parents asian? that would answer a lot (statistically speaking)

you gotta get out. theres a whole world out there (not necessairly a bad world) taht youre not gonna see if you stay couped up inside. i watched ferris bueller this weekend.

Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

get out of the goddamn house!
 

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