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 Jan 11 2005, 07:40 PM
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How do you break up with someone who is depressive and totally obssesed with you?
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Jan 11 2005, 07:51 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Eek. That's a hard one.
I don't really know. I'd probably just be straight-forward with it and not hint around. Don't say anything about anything that they may have done wrong. Just be straight-forward, but pleasant. I'm really not sure, though...  HIYA, JAMIE! |
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Jan 11 2005, 07:56 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,628 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,359 |
Alright, I'll try my best... this is really hard
oh, and Hi |
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Jan 11 2005, 08:00 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
Tell that person straight up, but be soft and kind about it.
Say that you want to continue being friends with them and let it softly die out ( that's if you don't want to be friends with them ) 
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Jan 11 2005, 08:20 PM
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SAY "i think you should chill....being totally obsessed with me has gotten me to the point that i dnt wanna be with you anymore..."
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Jan 11 2005, 08:31 PM
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The worst thing you can do to her is to keep the relationship with her/him. If you drag the relationship too long she/he can get more depressive when you finally break up. Like other people have said, you want to tell her/him how you feel truthfully without those common phrases like "oh, it's not you, it's me" crap.
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| *Azarel* |
Jan 11 2005, 09:09 PM
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Don't sugarcoat it with bullshit. Be blunt. Don't drag out the relationship because you feel sorry for him/her either. It only makes it worse in the end.
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Jan 11 2005, 09:14 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
do it quckly...just tell the person: i really honestly care about you but i just don't feel the same way, i'd love to feel the same way but for some reason i just don't...you shouldn't be with me, i'm such an ass, i'm sorry our feelings aren't mutual, you're is a great catch, there's someone out there who'll be equally devoted to you as you are to me...i'm really sorry...it's okay if you don't want to remain friends but i would want to
something like that 
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Jan 11 2005, 10:18 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
just tell that person straight out, be honest.
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Jan 11 2005, 10:24 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
"you are obsessed....find a hobby...play a sport...but whatever you do, stay away from me, we are over"
say tht to the obsessed guy *shrug |
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Jan 11 2005, 10:26 PM
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 The Bone Collector Group: Member Posts: 2,860 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,162 |
Bluntly Honest. Tell him that you guys are over! Done! Or you can just give him some clues, like ignore me, and stuff like that.
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Jan 11 2005, 10:31 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
you: it's over. done. it was never meant to be..
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Jan 11 2005, 10:34 PM
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uhh .. say it's not working out. PEACE. *holds up peace sign & walks away.*
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Jan 11 2005, 10:41 PM
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dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Jan 11 2005, 10:24 PM) "you are obsessed....find a hobby...play a sport...but whatever you do, stay away from me, we are over" say tht to the obsessed guy *shrug  QUOTE(tooeffingcrazy @ Jan 11 2005, 10:26 PM) Bluntly Honest. Tell him that you guys are over! Done! Or you can just give him some clues, like ignore me, and stuff like that. hehe, i believe dukesoccer07 is a straight guy |
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| *krnxswat* |
Jan 11 2005, 10:44 PM
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Tell her you're gay.
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Jan 11 2005, 10:46 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Jan 11 2005, 10:44 PM) Tell her you're gay. Hahahhhahahaha. He's right. |
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Jan 11 2005, 11:23 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
idk. thats too hard for me. what i would do is make them like dislike me and break up with me. i know its kind of dumb but ive found it to be less hurtful. haha sean ho your idea is good too i guess
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Jan 11 2005, 11:30 PM
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QUOTE(lilangelgurlpnai @ Jan 11 2005, 10:46 PM) Hahahhhahahaha. He's right. hehe, ok that may be wrong... on many different levels.... but I think I got it, thanks guys |
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Jan 12 2005, 12:14 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
Being straightforward is def the best way. And don't be too harsh...
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Jan 12 2005, 03:04 AM
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QUOTE(say_what_you_mean @ Jan 11 2005, 8:00 PM) Tell that person straight up, but be soft and kind about it. Say that you want to continue being friends with them and let it softly die out ( that's if you don't want to be friends with them ) the friends thing again? im not sure it'll work..  . just.. dont hide it, u have to tell them about it. then, whether or not they would accept the truth.. it wouldn't have anything to do with u. becos.. u are over.
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Jan 12 2005, 03:58 AM
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hahahahah i went through this same thing. the guy i was dating was obsessive and crazy like. anyways, i didn't really see that he posessed any depressive like qualities but after we broke up i guess he was depressed for a while and now he changed into this guy who always does drugs and drinks. but yeah, i hope your situation doesn't turn out like mine did
anyways, i think the best way to break up with the person is to just tell them the truth. it will be better that way because if you lie, it doesn't help them to "fix" that mistake so they won't be like that in another relationship. also don't try to sugarcoat it too much because then it just starts to sound like a lie. be straightforward and honest and not too harsh. don't straight up tell the person "YOU ARE SO OBSESSIVE!!" tell that person that you feel like you need to breathe because they are not giving you enough room. let them know that the times you had together were good but you just aren't feeling it anymore and how it wouldn't be fair to them if you continued to be together because the feelings you had for them are gone. also tell them that you do still want to be friends with them because although the romantic part of the relationship might be gone, you still want to hold on to the friendship aspect of it. hope things work out =) |
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Jan 12 2005, 01:37 PM
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 i ish bored Group: Member Posts: 23 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,210 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Jan 11 2005, 9:24 PM) "you are obsessed....find a hobby...play a sport...but whatever you do, stay away from me, we are over" say tht to the obsessed guy *shrug oooH, kinda harsh, don't ya think??? i mean, the person is depressive and obsessed. i just agree, let them down as soft as you can. |
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Jan 12 2005, 04:21 PM
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=\ That's a hard one.
Break it off EASILY... |
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Jan 12 2005, 05:54 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
just tell them the nicest way possible! if you are mean, they might hold a life-long grudge!
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Jan 12 2005, 06:38 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
QUOTE(Azarel @ Jan 11 2005, 9:09 PM) Don't sugarcoat it with bullshit. Be blunt. Don't drag out the relationship because you feel sorry for him/her either. It only makes it worse in the end. HAHA i love it! sugarcoat it with bullshit. lovely. talk to him how you feel about the relationship and how its going and just say like 'i dont think we should go out anymore' |
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