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 Dec 31 2004, 07:43 PM
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Agh! Im about to blow!! This effin sucks so bad, and its supposed to be a good day but my freaking boyfriend ruined the 2005 spirit in me.
So well here was the deal. He was on the computer, and while he was on the computer i wrote him a little love note, telling how much i love him.. he read the note, and i said im going to sit in his lap, he pushed me away and said no im busy, and i got mad/sad. Then now since i wanted to get on the computer, he got all freaking butt hurt about it, and crying to me saying that hes way more important than the computer, and i dont know, it just hurts me that he does this to me, and just pushes me away from him when hes on the computer, and i when im on the computer, im still all over him. With him, i cant even talk to guys, be near a guy, have a guy as a friend.. He goes through all my stuff, and he reads everything that i have in my journal, and if i told him i wrote something and he asked me what i wrote, i just say " nothing really" then he starts saying "well you dont love me" or something like "Im going to break up with you if you dont tell me". Argh. I dont know what to do. I feel like crying, and just socking him repeatedly in the face and tell him that i f**king want a little privacy alone, and i dont need to be with you 24/7 of my f**king lifetime. Grr. Im sorry but thanks for reading this, it sounds all lame but i just need advice or opinions. I gave him a love note, and he pushes me away. |
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| *Azarel* |
Dec 31 2004, 07:50 PM
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Should be in relationships forum.
Don't be so dependant on your boytoy. |
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Dec 31 2004, 07:58 PM
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talk to him about it set things str8 ......... and if he's still doing that shit you need to move on girl ...
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Dec 31 2004, 08:08 PM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
I dont want my bf with me 24/7, either, though he tries. And, it sounds like he's a bitch. You should break up with him if you're up to it. =\ or.. just... talk to him. If he's bitching at you there then break up. =D
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Dec 31 2004, 08:16 PM
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QUOTE(Azarel @ Dec 31 2004, 7:50 PM) Should be in relationships forum. Don't be so dependant on your boytoy.  Oops. Im still a n00b i guess. Well Sorry.  "If you dont come over my house for new years, i wont talk to you anymore". AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH |
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Dec 31 2004, 08:19 PM
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Agh! Im about to blow!! This effin sucks so bad, and its supposed to be a good day but my freaking boyfriend ruined the 2005 spirit in me.
So well here was the deal. He was on the computer, and while he was on the computer i wrote him a little love note, telling how much i love him.. he read the note, and i said im going to sit in his lap, he pushed me away and said no im busy, and i got mad/sad. Then now since i wanted to get on the computer, he got all freaking butt hurt about it, and crying to me saying that hes way more important than the computer, and i dont know, it just hurts me that he does this to me, and just pushes me away from him when hes on the computer, and i when im on the computer, im still all over him. With him, i cant even talk to guys, be near a guy, have a guy as a friend.. He goes through all my stuff, and he reads everything that i have in my journal, and if i told him i wrote something and he asked me what i wrote, i just say " nothing really" then he starts saying "well you dont love me" or something like "Im going to break up with you if you dont tell me". Argh. I dont know what to do. I feel like crying, and just socking him repeatedly in the face and tell him that i f**king want a little privacy alone, and i dont need to be with you 24/7 of my f**king lifetime. Grr. Im sorry but thanks for reading this, it sounds all lame but i just need advice or opinions. I gave him a love note, and he pushes me away. and he just called and said that i dont go to his house tonight for new years he wont talk to me.  i hate when he puts me in this position
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Dec 31 2004, 08:27 PM
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Talk to him about it. If he still keep that act up, let it go.
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Dec 31 2004, 08:28 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Talk to him about it. If he still keep that act up, let it go.
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Dec 31 2004, 08:30 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Sorry for double posting. >.<
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Dec 31 2004, 08:30 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,564 |
I do, i tell him that i love him and ill never cheat on him, and say that i need my privacy, and he just says "ooh well you must be hiding something" and i feel guilty and say no, and give in to his pressure, or whatever.
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Dec 31 2004, 08:37 PM
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 your sweetest sin. Group: Member Posts: 416 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,960 |
Wow, he's a bastard. Just be like, "You push me away when you're on the computer. If you don't want me to do that to you, stop treating ME like that." Gr. I hate guys like that. And read his stuff too. Go through his room and read EVERYTHING.
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Dec 31 2004, 08:48 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
yeah, talk to him about it and about how you feel. if you don't think its working out, then you should probably break up with him.
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Dec 31 2004, 10:37 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Talk to him.
Tell him what you told us. If he doesn't get it, then he's not worth your time. |
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Dec 31 2004, 10:49 PM
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Yeah you both should talk this over and come to an agreement of some sort.
But honestly, he's not worth it. I think you should dump him.   ...........whatever works for ya, lol......talk it over with him
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Dec 31 2004, 11:31 PM
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aww.. he's a meanie
 . he's not worth it. i mean, what's the big deal with having guy friends?? either he's insecure, or that he's a moron. take a pick.
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Jan 1 2005, 12:00 AM
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gosh, guys need to learn that girls don't don't really like guys that are way to clingy. Luckily mine isn't :)
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Jan 1 2005, 11:33 AM
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 Ah, mon Dieu ! Group: Member Posts: 2,274 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,587 |
it seems as if he's using pointless threats to get everything his way.
stop following him; obeying him like you're his servant. we women need respect. |
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Jan 1 2005, 02:59 PM
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o.. that's pretty harsh.. i know guys that crave attention like that too.
talk to him about it.. or do sOOmething cuz invading your privacy isn't healthy in a relationship. i hate to say it but guys are somewhat selfish these days. |
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Jan 1 2005, 03:56 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
Please dont' make duplicate topics. I merged the original with this one. Anyway, it seems as if he's one of those.. obsessive kind of guys. But when you DO actually want to be with him and talk to him, he pushes you away. Strange... But you know what? He can't rule your life. Tell him that you need time alone, that you do love him. And tell him that if he truly loves and cares for you, he'll give you space.
When I first went out with my boyfriend, i got so jealous of him talking to other girls that I would sort of cling onto him hahah. But then he got jealous too. So we both gave each other space, that we could talk to other people of the opposite sex who were our friends. See, all you have to do is take time out with him and tell him how you feel. And if he pushes you away, then fine, just push him away! Aren't you tired of having to reassure him that you love him? Yet all he does is whine and "female-dog" about how you don't love him. And tell him that you wrote him stuff about how you love him. It seems as if he doesn't trust you at all. Tell him that love is based on trust and if you and him dont' have that, then the relationship will only go downhill. He goes through your personal stuff?! He shouldn't be doing that! Sometimes my boyfriend does that haha, but then in the end, I realized that there's nothing to hide from my boyfriend. I can tell him anything and everything. So tell your boyfriend that you've got nothing to hide and not be worried because he should be able to trust you. YOU seem the like the type of person who gives him trust and hopes that he'll give you his trust as well. Tell him that, that you're worried and you do care about him, that he should be able to trust you. |
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Jan 1 2005, 06:05 PM
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dont forget to smiLe today Group: Member Posts: 336 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,095 |
WHAT..HE GOES THROUGH YOUR PERSONAL STUFF. he has no right to without permission. i bet hes really insecure and hes embarrassed to admit his feelings. i talk back. you do deserve better.
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Jan 1 2005, 06:34 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
tell him how you feel; and if he cant appreciate you .. eh i don't think he's worth it. nd .. it doesnt seem like there is any trust in ur relationship.. soo thats not good either..
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Jan 1 2005, 08:09 PM
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QUOTE(strwbrrykiwi23 @ Jan 1 2005, 11:33 AM) we women need respect. No you don't. |
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Jan 1 2005, 08:55 PM
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 The Bone Collector Group: Member Posts: 2,860 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,162 |
You need to show him that he cannot boss you around, and especially blackmail you to know about your priavte life. He's probably just PMSing, or he is always like that.
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Jan 1 2005, 10:18 PM
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 I'm not mean; You're just a sissy. Group: Member Posts: 796 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,520 |
danny isnt it?
i think its wrong if he says "ill break up with you if blahblahblah". when he does that again, tell him "well if you really love me, you wouldnt push me around so much" (or whatever he's doing) tell him to have more respect for you and to trust you like you trust him. how old are you guys anyways? |
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Jan 1 2005, 10:30 PM
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sounds like your whipped by him... in other words his b!tch. you have to stand up for yourself... if you can have guy freinds then he can't have girl freinds in a way he seems insecure... anyways gotta tell him how you feel and that its not fair!! and saying that he will break up with you... omg!!! you should just break up with him when he says that... he'll wnat you back if he loves you... and if he doens't it was never meant to be, besides you deserve better.
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