ADVICE, im confused Options

[angelbabystar]

I need some advice....
Im in love with my ex bf he lives in RI and im in PA. Ive known him for 4 years n im still inlove with him. He is movin down in October for College. We havent talked for awhile and like 2 months ago we just started talking again n it's everyday we talk n he keeps tellin me that he loves me and that all the feelings he had are still there that he still loves me and when he talks to me his heart drops. When he comes down here for college we talked about me goin back up with him to RI. I plan on going back with him n living up there he say's he wants me to cuz he loves me and he wants to be with me, but then he always says sumthin like if I dont have a gf when I come back down there and he likes like 5 other girls I dunno I feel like he's tryin to make me jelious or sumthin by talkin about other chicks. Everynight when we talk he always says that he loves me and he said he wants to ask me back out if nothing changes. Im sooo inlove with him and he know's it. I told him it's hard n i tried to get over him but it didnt work, n he was like I dont want you to get over me. I cant stop thinkin about him I dunno what to do. The guys ive gone out with since him n I broke up I find myself comparing them to him n he's all I think about. I dunno what to do??

[cmgchica717]

Humm...well same thing happened to me...kinda...I was with my ex for 5years, got engaged the whole deal..Then he left me. Left me with an apartment and a butt load of bills. I kept on wanting him back, he would still come over and tell me he loved me and then I wouldnt see him for like days. It really messed with me head.

I say that he just wants to mess with your head just like my ex did. He would tell me that he likes other girls and stuff it really hurt me. Then finally I started dating again and I got over him. It took awhile and it was sooo worth it. To think I was going to marry him ugh..i could have killed myself.

I know its hard to let someone go that you once loved and shared your secrets with but I think you should just let him go so you avoid a heartache at all costs

IMO

Good luck

[Shattered_Hope]

I dont think you should move up there with him..if he loves you, 1. He would not talk about other chicks.. 2. Why do you have to move up there??You have a life too....meh, what can I say? Love is not something that is easily solved..you think you moving up there with him will make you two closer??Life is not about simple solutions much less love..I think you should give this more thought.

[angelbabystar]

I dunno it's a situation that's drivin me insane. if I never would have met him then I wouldnt be stuck. I thought if I move up there with him when he goes back it would be easier n things would work out. I duuno thanks for da advice I appreciate it it

[toodlepops.]

i think u should really see whats going on. does he really love you? or is hejust teasing you? maybe its time o have a good long and sincere talk to each other.

[ApunBindaas]

Long distance relationships are tough. There has to be a lot of trust involved. But you're still young. I just hope you move on because there are many other guys out there.

[jennyjenny]

Well..
what if you move up there and then he doesn't love you and just wants to like, have sex ? or something. Then you've given your life for him, for nothing.

And the other girls, maybe he thinks that you're seeing other guys, so he doesn't want to be the alone one?

[angelbabystar]

well im still a virgin and I do want him to be my first he's still a virgin he says he wants me to be his first. and I tell him about other guys I see if he asks ill tell him anything if he wants to know but b/c im inlove with him i cant seem to go out with other guys cuz I always end up breaking up with them so yeah i dunno

[xTINAA]

well, one possibility is that because he knows you still love him, he is using your vulnerability to his advantage and messing with you by saying oh i love you too when he really doesn`t. which would be messed up. but another possibility is that he could actually love you too but he is scared to get back together with you because of what could happen between you guys since you care for eachother so much, so he says stuff about other girls to i guess subconciously turn you off so that way you won`t love him anymore and then that fear will go away. orrrr haha another possibility is that he could love you and he could just be a jerk who is trying to make you jealous or something.

[177emories]

okay if you both still love each other... why not go out1? go out already and THEN plan anything thats needs to be planned when you think too much it wont work out.

[angelbabystar]

I still love him, I love him with everything ive got, he says he still loves me. He said he wants to ask me back out but after the break if nothing changes. I dunno what he meant by that but I guess ill just have to wait n see I dunno