new boyfriend trouble, sorry if it's long... Options

[cutey2kc]

well let's see... before i went out with my new boyfriend now.. he used to go out with this one girl... and.. well he flirted ALOT with me before and with other girls too...sometimes infront of his gf! ... well.. then somedays when he still was w/ his girlfriend.. he'd say to me "if i didn't have a girlfriend, i'd ask you out" and blah.. then after he got suspended for fighting this one dude for his gf.. he came back.. and broke up with his gf.. cuz he said she didn't tell the principal why he defended her from this one guy.. so he broke up with her.. then like right after .. he went to me and said.. "wanna go out?" and i was said "you're always kidding about that".. and i just wanted to make sure he wasn't kidding.. so after like 4 days he kept on asking me every single day.. then finally on the 5th day.. i said "yes".. and now we're bf and gf... well.. the thing is..

i'm so worried about if he's not a loyal boyfriend.. i'm worried about him flirting with some other girl saying the same thing he said to me "if i didn't have a girlfriend, i'd ask you out." ... i'm worried about him flirting with other girls... i mean.. isn't a relationship based on trust? .. so my question is...

do you think i should be worried he's flirting with other girls .. (as i heard from my friends) ... or no?

ah sorry so long.. and.. when we're alone together.. he puts his whole attention to me.. and when we're not together... he's .. flirting w/ my friends! and they say "you know you're with kC (me lolz)".. and he says "yanno i'm just kiddin'"

thank you for who ever replies back with advice

[inthemudhole]

Maybe you should tell him how you feel.. tell him that you're worried he may flirt with other girls while you're together.
I don't know, just tell him what you told us, basically.

[MrElsewhere]

maybe he's just a flirty kinda guy.
despise is correct. you should tell him what you've told us. he'll understand if he really has feelings for you

[*mishyerr*]

he sounds like a loser who gets off of flirting with chicks. seriously, he asked you out wayy too soon. if he had respect for his ex AND your feelings, than he would have waited til the time was right. and also, what he does FOR you is what he will do TO you. that is the most true quote.. and people in relationships dont notice it. it might be kinda hard.. but try to look at your relationship from an outsider's point of view. do you think that he is flirting with other girls while dating you? a little flirting isnt bad.. but it grows into dangerous things.

[x shootingstar x]

i dun like ppl like that.. (guys and girls) but then.. i really can't say anything because i duno how come they're so FLIRTATIVE.. and i don't knoe what they're thinking.. maybe they have reasons... BUT YEAH> .whatever.. i still don't like it. ppl can call me narrowed mind or watever.. but i think it's jsut wrong.. having a gf or bf.. and STILL flirting? nah.. first.. TALK To him.. if he still does that.. and it bothers you.. DUMP Him.

[*tyedyefroggy*]

Sounds like he isnt loyal enough to be your boyfriend. Maybe you should talk to him about what you just told us and see what he says....but if I were you I wouldnt have said yes.

[Rachel]

he sounds like an ass...and you sound kind of desperate...and so does he actually...

dump him, your probably too good for him anyways

[_sarcastic_]

he doesn't sound like a loyal bf to me you deserve someone better
yeah of course you should worry bout him flirting with other girls who knows what he might do *looks around*

[sheddingtears]

don't be so attached to him since you're unsure about his fidelity to you. and yeah, he might hurt you in the end.

[asdf]

those ppl are really hard to trust.

first. tell him how you feel and you don't like it.

if he stops or decreases it shows he really cares about how you feel.

if he continues. he dont care. and that should tell you something.

[shortiiex]

you should talk to him and say what you need to say

[sweetdreamsx3]

He sounds like someone who COULD be a player to me. Even if you have someone, I don't like it when they flirt. Tell him all of this that you said to us. If he doesn't care, LOSE HIM.

[*x____duckii*]

He doesn't sound like a loyal boyfriend to me. Trust your instincts—it's usually right. Try talking to him about this. If he keeps on doing it, breakup with him.

[WishfullDreamer]

aw...i'm sorry to say this but he doesn't sound like a very good guy. You seem WAY too good for him. Of course you're worried about his flirting problem thing, i would be too! that totally sucks that he doesnt know how to act around his gf. If you stay with him i think you're setting yourself up for heartbrache. You should talk to him about how his flirting makes you feel and if he doesnt stop or at least lighten up, dump him. Hopefully he'll stop though