If you were offended/hurt/harassed/abused........., by someone you love... |
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 Dec 12 2004, 02:45 PM
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 [.:Wolf's Rain:.]  Group: Member Posts: 37 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,407  |
QUOTE(xj_liana_tx @ Dec 11 2004, 3:49 PM) omg that's horrible! so you still love him and you don't want him to go to jail?? do you guys still live together? My parents are divorced... he lives, who knows where! I want him to go to jail and he has before but not because of that. I just.... didn't want to tell anyone at the time because I was young and trusted him after all he was my dad. |
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Dec 12 2004, 03:20 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
My dad has hit me so many times when I was young..harassed too.. Actually I'm going to wait until I'm 18 so that he doesn't have any control over me whatsoever, so I can report him. it's a little late, but I'm going to make him get angry again, and then report him and get him sent to jail. Or even trick him and send him on a 1 way ticket back to vietnam with no money whatsoever. Haha even if he liked lviing in vietnam, he'll have no money and have to actually work hard for money over there.
I just don't want to report him now because I won't have anywhere to run to. At least when I'm older, I'll have my boyfriend to protect me and get back at my dad for all the terrible things he has done. |
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Dec 12 2004, 08:30 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,077 |
QUOTE(Just_Dream @ Dec 12 2004, 3:20 PM) My dad has hit me so many times when I was young..harassed too.. Actually I'm going to wait until I'm 18 so that he doesn't have any control over me whatsoever, so I can report him. it's a little late, but I'm going to make him get angry again, and then report him and get him sent to jail. Or even trick him and send him on a 1 way ticket back to vietnam with no money whatsoever. Haha even if he liked lviing in vietnam, he'll have no money and have to actually work hard for money over there. I just don't want to report him now because I won't have anywhere to run to. At least when I'm older, I'll have my boyfriend to protect me and get back at my dad for all the terrible things he has done. Wow wheres the family love? For me my parents used to spank me when I was little when I did things wrong. I wouldnt do it to my kids when i have them since its considered child abuse now. But I would have to say my parents knew how to do it. They didnt overdue it, just to get the point that what I did is wrong and I shouldnt do it again. Of course it all stopped when I was like 7, and from their discipline I can say I got very disciplined but then again all kids are diffrent, I guess I didnt think too much of it since it didnt really hurt me haha. In texas though, Capital punishment is legal! Teachers are legally able to hit students for discipline, such as spanking. I guess im lucky to have really understanding parents who know how to do the right thing. |
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Dec 13 2004, 07:13 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
QUOTE(justsomeboi @ Dec 12 2004, 8:30 PM) In texas though, Capital punishment is legal! Teachers are legally able to hit students for discipline, such as spanking. I guess im lucky to have really understanding parents who know how to do the right thing. oh my god... i remember that when i was in china, the teachers are like... UGH!!!! i hate them so F much! they have like no respect for kids... i mean, we are probably going to become better/richer people than they are... it's just so cruel, they verbally harass students every single day. i am glad i am out of that hell hole. |
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Dec 13 2004, 07:46 PM
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 thatoneguy Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,288 |
man... this topic brings back memories...
i remember when i was young.. my mom would come pick me up from school.. and shed always find out i had a "yellow" face.. back in the days of colors to represent behavior.. and yellow was only a warning.. so called.. and since i hadnt had a perfect day.. which was almost everyday.. shed race home.. throw me in the bathroom.. and make me wait about 10 minutes.. then come in with a spoon or a wooden stick or anything besides her hand and make me get on my knees.. and hold out my hands.. shed hit my hands as hard as she could.. and if i cried shed say shed smack me in the face.. i didnt believe her until one of the times i screamed because the wooden rice cooker spoon thingy broke off into my hand.. but yeah.. than she proceeded to smack me in the face with the spoon until i stopped shouting and crying.. (how that works i dont know) but anyway yeah.. i remember vividly of those days.. and my dad.. he worked in gatesville (texas) i live in killen.. have for the past 16 years of my 17 year life.. and so he never could really do anything.. but i remember i used to get "spanked" everyday from 1st grade to about the beginning of 6th grade.. but the thing i remember most.. as one day he was home.. and she went on with her usual "spanking" and he did nothing to stop her.. i know he knew it was wrong.. because hed just stay in the room.. but there was only one time he actually "saved" me because he was home and she was busy that day with her home business.. and so she told him to spank me.. so he took me in the room and took off his belt.. and then he spanekd me lightly.. liek he felt bad for me.. of course that sounds nice.. but i ended up hating him because he never told her to stop hitting me when he was home.. hed just hide.. and believe me.. he is one big man.. so if he wanted her to stop.. he had nothing to be scared about.. but anyway.. now what makes me mad.. is my mom will tell me i have no respect for her since i do bad in school.. (when she used to "spank" me i was making straight a's) but shed always spank me to the point of bruising or some crazy stuff like that.. i dont know.. the way i see it.. is either.. i shouldnt respect her because of that.. or i respect her to the fullest.. because i never reported her nor hit her back as many times as i wanted to.. but yeah.. those were horrible days.. she stopped around 6th grade.. cuz i guess she just was too old.. she was about 48 at the time.. i think cuz shes 54 now.. but yeah.. i remember those days.. and i guess thats what has formed me into the pessimistic low self esteem no hopes in life person i am today.. but yeah thats my story.. even if it may sounds fake or something.. i put it on my life all of that happened.. none of it is made up.. i hated those days.. well yeah.. theres my post on this topic.. later |
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Dec 13 2004, 07:48 PM
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thatoneguy Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,288 |
oh i had a lot of typos in there.. but its Killeen Texas.. and yeah.. everything im sure you can figure out anyway..
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Dec 13 2004, 07:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
^^man... do you hate both of your parents?? still?? do you still do good in school? so you didn't report them because you still loved your parents even though they hurt you?
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Dec 13 2004, 08:03 PM
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thatoneguy Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,288 |
yeah pretty much.. i do alright in school.. i faield my freshman year due to drugs and stuff.. but i quit and now im back into gettin like c's and b's.. i do hate them now.. i rarely talk to them.. i usually lock myself in my room or just sit on this computer or go out and hang with my friends.. i dont know.. never reported them.. and dont plan to even if i could.. jsut i donno.. sometimes life sucks..
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Dec 13 2004, 08:08 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
turn them in. you dont deserve to be constantly abused and such. sometimes u got to. to those u love.
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Dec 13 2004, 08:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
QUOTE(moralsdecayaway @ Dec 13 2004, 8:03 PM) yeah pretty much.. i do alright in school.. i faield my freshman year due to drugs and stuff.. but i quit and now im back into gettin like c's and b's.. i do hate them now.. i rarely talk to them.. i usually lock myself in my room or just sit on this computer or go out and hang with my friends.. i dont know.. never reported them.. and dont plan to even if i could.. jsut i donno.. sometimes life sucks.. i guess you probably will leave your parents as far as you can when you are 18 |
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Dec 13 2004, 08:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
QUOTE(tungtwista @ Dec 13 2004, 8:08 PM) turn them in. you dont deserve to be constantly abused and such. sometimes u got to. to those u love. see, then you might end up hurting yourself |
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Dec 13 2004, 08:21 PM
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thatoneguy Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,288 |
yeah.. i wanna get far away...
but right now the only plan i have.. is they are moving to austin soon.. so im gonna stay here with some friends.. and were gonna buy an apartment.. nothing big.. and we skate(board) so were gonna skate a lot and what not.. and maybe take a road trip.. once im away from them.. im gonna learn how to live life.. i donno i guess it sounds bad to some people that im not gonna go to college.. but i mean.. i dont plan on getting married.. specially since the girl i love right now.. were just friends.. and yeah im not sure its gonna go far beyond that.. but college isnt a thign for me.. i just wanna live in a small apartment.. be able to go out and have fun.. skate when i want.. do what i want.. and just have to worry about the bills later.. which we will split 3 ways.. so yeah.. i dont need a bunch of money to have happiness.. just be able to live my life.. thats my plan.. |
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Dec 14 2004, 02:47 AM
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 Pfft, your mom. Group: Member Posts: 21 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,358 |
Sad to say, one of my close homegirls was sexually harassed by her own grandfather. Her own grandfather. Do you know how badly it broke my heart when I had to answer the phonecall to hear her voice wavering because she didn't know what to do? And she hid it for months and never said anything about it although I told her to, but I guess one night she got into an argument with her aunt (which whom she was living with at the time as well) and her aunt ended up calling me to see if it was true. I gave her my side and told her that I believed her (homegirl) to the fullest extent because she's not one to pull stupid sh!t like that. Of course the grandfather denied it and the family fell apart and blamed her for it and it killed me. Months passed by and she ended up moving to NJ to get away from him but she's back now and it seems her uncle called her up one night and started to bring it up much to her saying she didn't want to talk about it and told her that she was going to hell because she was lying about it. WTF kind of sh!t is that? I was so heated when I heard that, but whatever. It's over and done with for now and that's all that matters to me, it's just... unbelievable the things that people pull.
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Dec 14 2004, 03:11 AM
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 :hammer: Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,849 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,700 |
QUOTE(BoogythatBe @ Dec 13 2004, 11:47 PM) Sad to say, one of my close homegirls was sexually harassed by her own grandfather. Her own grandfather. Do you know how badly it broke my heart when I had to answer the phonecall to hear her voice wavering because she didn't know what to do? And she hid it for months and never said anything about it although I told her to, but I guess one night she got into an argument with her aunt (which whom she was living with at the time as well) and her aunt ended up calling me to see if it was true. I gave her my side and told her that I believed her (homegirl) to the fullest extent because she's not one to pull stupid sh!t like that. Of course the grandfather denied it and the family fell apart and blamed her for it and it killed me. Months passed by and she ended up moving to NJ to get away from him but she's back now and it seems her uncle called her up one night and started to bring it up much to her saying she didn't want to talk about it and told her that she was going to hell because she was lying about it. WTF kind of sh!t is that? I was so heated when I heard that, but whatever. It's over and done with for now and that's all that matters to me, it's just... unbelievable the things that people pull. Wow that's terrible.. |
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Dec 14 2004, 02:30 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,957 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 51,665 |
QUOTE(BoogythatBe @ Dec 14 2004, 2:47 AM) Sad to say, one of my close homegirls was sexually harassed by her own grandfather. Her own grandfather. Do you know how badly it broke my heart when I had to answer the phonecall to hear her voice wavering because she didn't know what to do? And she hid it for months and never said anything about it although I told her to, but I guess one night she got into an argument with her aunt (which whom she was living with at the time as well) and her aunt ended up calling me to see if it was true. I gave her my side and told her that I believed her (homegirl) to the fullest extent because she's not one to pull stupid sh!t like that. Of course the grandfather denied it and the family fell apart and blamed her for it and it killed me. Months passed by and she ended up moving to NJ to get away from him but she's back now and it seems her uncle called her up one night and started to bring it up much to her saying she didn't want to talk about it and told her that she was going to hell because she was lying about it. WTF kind of sh!t is that? I was so heated when I heard that, but whatever. It's over and done with for now and that's all that matters to me, it's just... unbelievable the things that people pull. it is terrible, do you think that she would want to call the cops on her own grandfather? i mean, calling the cops is one thing, getting humiliated is another... |
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Dec 14 2004, 07:18 PM
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 your sweetest sin. Group: Member Posts: 416 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,960 |
QUOTE(broken_lance @ Dec 10 2004, 10:25 AM) l came from a broken family. when my mother died, my father took me and my little sister back to our old house. He keeps saying that l am not his son and l should pay him back all the kindness and things that he's giving me. My sister has his birth mark like him on the shoulder so he treat her very well. l start being a house boy and when l reach the age of 10, serving my cruel stepmother.One day he said that l was needed in the Armoring shop he own and every day after l came from school, l go there just to work.He took my childhood away from me and let me suffer every day. When he's mad, he always beat me up. l was 17 when l run away before he kick me out of his house. l really hate him for destroying my life. l dont call the police coz he really loves my sister alot. l'm even greatful that l dont carry his last name.  wow. my parents would "discipline" me. i guess i was used to it. but now, i know how wrong it is. so when the "discipline" my sister or my brother, i always tell them to stop. don't want my sibs turning out like me.  depending on how severe the beating//harassement was, i'd consider calling the cops. no one has a right to hurt you. |
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