sex, i need advice badly Options

[theoneandonly_SC]

Well my bf and I are planning on doing it but he is freaking out because of protection and shit like that.

Whats the best type of protection to use?
and also...What is some good advice on this subject?

[whywasisostupid]

whoa how old are you.

get the pills, the condoms, (make sure there arent no holes) and thats it.

[DaTru KataLYST]

if he's questioning it, then you guysshouldn't take the risk of ruining your lives.

[ghjgfkgfk]

use a condom with spermicide . It kills the sperm. And the condom can prevent STD's

i actually heard that you shouldn't use spermicide because it can irritate the area which can make it easier to get an std. and because it has some of the same indgredents as soap. so i wouldn't use it at all.

i wouldn't recommend trogan because some people said they break easily. you should use lifestyles or durex.

try reading this article http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

i actually heard that you shouldn't use spermicide because it can irritate the area which can make it easier to get an std. and because it has some of the same indgredents as soap. so i wouldn't use it at all.

it does irritate , burns too!! , thats why i dont use it lol.

[audory]

are you in middle school?!
first of all, be sure you're ready and your bf is ready too.
remember, this could possibly change your life.

that's step one ^^^

step two.
condoms, pills, all that shite.

before you do any of this... be ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE about it...
think of the consequences: STD's// pregnancys (or both)= parents knowing about it.

good luck.

[azn_r4pf4n]

try reading this article http://www.scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html

that article says a lot. sex is pointless.

[misoka]

right dont do it don't rush wait for the right time when you will give that gift to the one who deserve you. If his love is true, then he have to wait for the right time when your both commited to each other.

dont make a mistake's that you will regret, like falling to a creap who will only bring you tears and heartache to your life. pray that it wont happen to you.

don't rush . Your too young to do these thing. Open your heart to the road to true love and please do control your emotions.

If the guy force you to do it, it will only prove that he do not respect you as his girlfriend and a woman.

Please think of it and don't do it

I agree completely~ It's best not to...There are a lot of consequences...

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her and got this freshman girl pregnant...that's some scary stuff.

[misoshiru]

condoms, the pill, spermicide. yeah..but if you or your bf's questioning about it, are you sure you're ready?

[xtrashx]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

DONT USE TROJANS!!!!.... trojans do break easily, and they have the highest leakrate..... just get really drunk so that way if there is any accidents their gone the next morning... if you drink enough you wont remember it anyway... and if you cant handle that then you shouldnt be....

doing it

...

[to-devastate]

condoms? lol. don't do it if you're not ready. sex is a thing that you both are commited to and there's no confusion. if you have even one little bit of confusion, best way is to not do it.

[simplyannoy]

It sounds to me that your boyfriend is not ready. He wants to do it but is scared of the consequences so what's the best davice I can give you? DON'T DO IT! Don't do it because you might regret it and if you think you can't handle the responsbilities then you shouldn't do it, it will cause harm to you and him and perhaps another life.

[ApocalypseAelis]

If you're unsure about sex, you're not ready for it yet.

Also, about your bf pulling out before he cums, that might not work because he might not have enough self control...I'm not saying he's weak or anything but it's risky.

The best protection is abstinence.

[leogirl73089]

Don't do it!!! u can get std! and how do u no that condoms are really going to work?! have u guys been tested? and u shouldn't do it! just wait and be patenced. it's natural 4 ur bf to freak out. wat happens if u get get a baby?! sure u can get an abotation but that cost a lot of money! u have ur whole life ahead of u! u could regret it! DON"T DO IT!!!
well i shope this helps....

[TrueLoveWaits]

one lil thing. if's he's freaking out, its saying to me he isnt ready. but i kno youre gonna do it so. heres my advice. if you want 100% protection go with abstinence, but the second source is a latex condom. afterwards, i recommend u go to a free clinic, get checked and ask them to perscribe u birthcontrol. birthcontrol pills and the condom is like full proof. they wont tell your parents or anything so youre ok. be safe. and i hope everything goes well. REMEMBER: CONDOM AT ALL TIMES!! AND MAKE SURE HE DIDNT KEEP IT IN HIS WALLET ITS TOTALLY BAD FOR IT! AND NEVER SKIP A DAY OF HAVING YOUR PILL. if u cant handle that kind of responsibility of getting yoruself checked and the commitment to taking your pill reconsider your decision.

[emmalie]

use a condom with spermicide... those trojan ones... and tell him to pull out before he ejaculates... that should do the trick

i agree

[alone in the wor...]

i heard & learned that latex condoms are good? but im not sure i've never done it ..

[my world]

omg DO NOT DO IT.. i know people have dif opinions.. but if your ready to do it.. then get married like right now! then do it..

[rockmyx]

I agree completely~ It's best not to...There are a lot of consequences...

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her and got this freshman girl pregnant...that's some scary stuff.

My friend's boyfriend cheated on her too. He run away after he got my friend pregnant. Yeah, she always say that she's scared of the things that might happes coz she is not ready yet.

[R|_|f|_|5]

Well lets see ;D condom pill and fire it up baby!
wtf is it with getting married? Being married at an age under 30 is being scarred for life...

[jesska17]

hm, i say abstinence ..there are tons of stds that condoms dont prevent, like hpv.. so ya.. thats my help. sorry, if you really wanna then use the pill and a condom.. hm ya idk what else you can do

the best way to have safe sex is to have no sex at all!

[aznxdreamer]

dont think your ready to have sex if you dont even know what kinda protection to use

[mouse_3k]

sex is pointless.

no it isnt..without it, we wouldnt have...well...us

it is useful but only to make kids so unless u want kids, dont do it

[KRicoBoriqua]

doesnt sound like your ready if hes scared and you dont kno what kind of protection to use...how old are you?

[AsianUniQ]

I think she's got all the advice she needs about what to use and what to do and what not. And yet we've over looked a more concerned question, "should I do it?"

It seems as if the term "love" and "sex" have something in relativity here. It works together for assurance. So if you are in doubt, the answer is an immediate NO. I've heard of couples having bad sex the first time, and some have good sex. This is due to lack of emotions, or lack of knowledge for this matter. Your bf had a good conscious, he's got a right mind. what he can do is seek for more information, do a research if you have to. Until he's to the point of certainty. Usually its forbidden for you to go thru it at this age, but its your life. So ONLY go for it when you're both are ready. And by the apparent doubt, its telling me that you should wait.

Trust me, wait til the time is right. Its worth the experience later on.

[KELLYYY]

^ if condoms have small holes, and you checked it, seemingly there are no holes but there ARE un-viewable holes then there is trouble there...
dont do it.
i got raped... and.. O_O and it was bad i wasn't ready.

Omg Toby. -.-

Anywho, I suppose..condoms? The safest way is to not do it. =]