my friends is cutting themselves, what do I do? Options

[you suck]

u should really tell someone

A MAD FRIEND IS BETTER THAN A DEAD FRIEND!!

[to-devastate]

You tell him that it's wrong. It's not going to make the pain go away. I think cutting is just a way to make people have sympathy for them. Talk to him about it. You never know what a friend can do. =]

[_confuzed_]

that's a huge issue in my school.. everybody cuts. you just have to tell them that they're not going to get anywhere with cutting; they're not gonna die for sure, and they're just going to end up with ugly-ass scars. if that doesn't do it then tell him that he's acting immature and that he shouldn't cut himself for that girl because if she's never going to like him then he might as well give up.

[pympgangsta4real]

I've been here before... there's a few things you can do. Some are harsher than others... but do to a great right sometimes you have to do a little wrong, so here they are.
1) There's the my way or the highway approach. You can't deal with a friend that injures himself to try to "ease the pain" or "show how badly he's hurt" over a girl. It's tough, but maybe that'll catch his attention, then again it could always backfire.
2) There's the friendly approach. Just sit down and talk to him calmly about it. Ask him why he does it, what good it does him, and if he can see he's not only hurting himself, but hurting you and the friend he likes that doesn't want him back. Make sure he realized all aspects of what's going on. Sometimes tears help... it stopped me before, and has stopped others.
3) Tell him to suck it up. If he really wants her, then what makes him think cutting himself could make her want him? Be a man, stand up and be someone who she would want to go out with, ya know? It's also harsh, but if you think about it, it's true, right?
4) Go to a counselor or professional help for it. I know that's happened to me before, and even though I hate hate hate psychologists and therapists, they work, and well, whether for simple problems or large disorders. First talk to him about the idea, see if you can get him to go on his own, or slightly coerce him into doing it. If that doesn't work... sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands. Either make an anonymous phone call tipping your school's counseling office as to what's been going on, and give them his name. He won't know what the hell hit him, but he'll be trapped in counseling and it'll help.

Hah hah scary thing is I've been in all of those situations, and they all have worked, and for those that're wondering, (if any), I also stopped cutting, and I never cut deep enough to risk my life and didn't cut for suicide, hell no lol. Either way, it's behind me and I'm trying to use my experiences for the good of others, so please don't judge me lol. Take it easy .

[leogirl73089]

.... i think he wants attention.... but u need to talk to him that he's hurting himself and u care about it and u don't want nothing bad happing to him. talk to him. tell him he needs help. if that dosn't work then tell his paretns, a school consclor and a therapest or something he needs to get over this. it could be somethign else in his life that he's cutting himslef.

hope thiz helps....

[staircase wit]

oh, the DRAMA

what an attention whore.

[azndragon157]

gosh, i don't know what is wrong with you people saying he wants attention, he might though, he might not you never know. but anyhow you just have to talk to him and help him thourhg it and if that doesn't work just take him to a counsler or thearpy..it should work.

[Ladii_D1809]

all i can say from being a victim of cutting, is don't yell! if you yell or scream it makes it worse...but other than that he sounds like he wants your friend's attention