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 Mar 26 2004, 08:47 PM
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questions make me blue.  Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796  |
the topic name maybe nice looking but..
my friend wanted to get married to her boyfriend (1 year and 4 months) and shes only 14 and hes da same age..both of their parents wanted were urging them to get married fer some reason and she said that they really loved each other and all...but i thought that was a horrid idea...i kept on sayin 'what if you lose attraction toward each other in da future??...why can`t you wait `till yur 18?'...still she was stubborn and wanted to get married but she was unsure...she kept on askin her other friends but they would give diff answers...i didnt want her to waste her teenage years, married already...she`s not pregnant or anything...she`s not in a hurry to have sex...she friggin told me she was gonna do it when she`s 18...thats like...kinda stupid...(how can someone wait that long?!hahaha..)..but she`s not married yet...she has second thoughts whether or not to get married.. point is.. when you think you`ve found the "one"...should you get married to that person?...are teen marriages an 'okay' thing?...and when would be the right age? there are too many divorces in america nowadays...and we are the future...we should cherish our love...and obide by the words "`till death do us part.."..i know all of you know the words during a wedding ceremony... and we, girls, love to dream about our future weddings! 
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| *CEP* |
Mar 26 2004, 09:00 PM
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QUOTE when you think you`ve found the "one"...should you get married to that person?...are teen marriages an 'okay' thing?...and when would be the right age? When you've found the "one" first thing you need to do is MAKE SURE that that person is teenagers(like myself) have an obscured(sp?) perseption on "love". So I guess my answer to the second question is a NO. And the right age to get married is definitely after 21. Because when you're at that age, you're mature enough to know what you really want. And you're financially secure also. - Chinkieeyepdnoi |
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Mar 26 2004, 10:52 PM
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 heart broken x Group: Member Posts: 247 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,259 |
i wouldnt wanna get married now think about it im only 13 isnt dat a lil to young?? and y would u do somthing like dat??? come'on now think about it its like oh yeah we're married and den like a couple of monthz lata u find out dat ur pergnant wif his child and ur only 13 or somthing like dat what r u gonna do have da kid and drop outta skool??? dats jus gonna make ur life worse.....so i still think i would do sumthing like dat
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Mar 27 2004, 01:30 AM
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 ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 |
Hmm ... I don't thnk it's a good idea to get married that young. It's just not right. Think ahead ....
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Mar 27 2004, 03:39 AM
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i think its scary to marry at a young age. i mean, i thikn i would get doubts like "omg he's cheating on me...?!" and stuf... and plus, being a tennager= hsavent lived out life to the max yet... not even half way there i think* so like... i think she should marry him wen she's a bit older (like 20 or so) and wen she TRULY knows that he's the man. i mean, if she is having second thoughts, that means that she could be doubting... and that's not good if she's planning to marry him.
is it common to get married at such a young age anyway?  first time i've heard of this kind of situation...  hmm... one more thing.14 is such a young age to be fully admitted to someone as future "wife or "hubby." so like... they should at elast date for like a really long time before marrying... i heard that people who marry at a younger age tend to divorce alot...  and sometimes marriage in can lead to problems in career lives, etc... so i think she should wait until she is at least 21. or at least that's my opinion.woah... crazy parents. i would never let my child marry at such a young age...  they must like their future daughter-in-law and son-in-law a lot.  my mom would kill me if i said i was gunna marry. 
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Mar 27 2004, 09:27 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
just because you think you found `the one` doesn't really mean that they are in reality .. it takes a lot of time and experience with that person before you know for sure if they're IT for you. she most definitely is extremely young .. she may still be experiencing a case of infatuation or puppy love and that's not real love. there's so much out there she should see before she commits herself to one for the rest of her life. she has plenty of time to get married. and if it ends up being that person in the future then good for her .. but there's really no reason to rush it.
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Mar 27 2004, 02:01 PM
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QUOTE(ThePrincessofTKD @ Mar 26 2004, 8:47 PM) she friggin told me she was gonna do it when she`s 18...thats like...kinda stupid...(how can someone wait that long?!hahaha I'm 17 right now and I'm still a virgin, like many others. I plan to do it after I'm married. |
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Mar 27 2004, 02:46 PM
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 pixel hybrid Group: Member Posts: 6,410 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,081 |
Yeah I agree with everyone it is young to get married. Plus, that would be okay.. IF we were in ancient Egypt where they got married when they were like 12 years old. Or 10.
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Mar 27 2004, 02:49 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
(lilangelgurlpnai Posted on Mar 27 2004, 2:46 PM)
QUOTE IF we were in ancient Egypt where they got married when they were like 12 years old. Or 10. haha.. it also complies wit "arranged marriages"...those are so wrong..some parents jus believe in dat crap.. |
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Mar 29 2004, 03:52 AM
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 Graphic Designer (>_<) Group: Member Posts: 82 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,467 |
I would wait it out... check out my other options... if i were you i would slap your friend in the head til some sense gets into there... nah... just joke!!! lolz wellz she should wait... maybe she might find someone esle and she probably mihgt find another side to the person she gonna marry
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Mar 29 2004, 10:45 PM
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 muted imperfections <3 Group: Official Member Posts: 3,295 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,260 |
14 is way to young to get married or even be responsible enough to be married. if they're in love then whats a couple years of waiting right? plus how much experience have they had u know with love?? i mean first love is always the most wonderful feeling in the world u know. how do they know that they're not infatuated with the idea of being in love? all those things they need to put into perspective. i think they're too young to get married.
 jackie
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Mar 29 2004, 11:01 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
It is pretty young to get married at the age you specified, but well, if that girl truly lvoed the guy, then I mean, I guess it's okay. Personally, if I could, I would marry my bf early =P Because I feel like we're meant to be, but I probably shoudl wait anyways (marrying at age 25, anyone wanna come to our wedding?)
aww, Seon Ho, abstinence, good job =D w00t!  You're not in a hurry for anything, you take it nice and easy, and slow,a t your own pace. Very cool what d'ya know, TDK, my bf and I have been together for 1 yr 4 months lol |
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Mar 29 2004, 11:02 PM
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QUOTE(krnxswat @ Mar 27 2004, 1:01 PM) I'm 17 right now and I'm still a virgin, like many others. I plan to do it after I'm married. yay! its always good to know that not every guy wants to do it be4 marrige 14 is way tooo young to get married, im 15 and i still dont want to get married until i have done soooooo many more things |
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Mar 29 2004, 11:41 PM
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muted imperfections <3 Group: Official Member Posts: 3,295 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,260 |
im glad to know that there are a lot of ppl who are holding off from sex. i am as well and im gonna wait till im married as well because theres no such greater gift that u can give ur spouse. lOL!
jackie
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Mar 29 2004, 11:44 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
it`s jus ppls do the most stupid, craziest, retarded things....without even THINKING!!!
which is terribly sad... |
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Mar 30 2004, 12:02 AM
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 We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
okay if you can see a future with your partner, like - you can see yourselves living together, supporting each other for a long time, then there's no reason not to do it. legally everything is fine, since parents have given consent.
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Mar 30 2004, 12:58 AM
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no.. NOO.. NOOOOSSS ! ._. horrible idea to get married as a teen..
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Mar 30 2004, 02:38 AM
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 i will be LOVED, some day. Group: Member Posts: 238 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 263 |
QUOTE(krnxswat @ Mar 27 2004, 2:01 PM) I'm 17 right now and I'm still a virgin, like many others. I plan to do it after I'm married. It's okay. I am too.. Why rush right? But wow! Your friend is weird, so are her parents. No offense! I mean, if she wants to get married she shouldn't be having second thoughts in the first place. When 2 people want to get married, they have to feel it in their heart and soul that they truly want to tie the knot. And your friend already discussed it with her parents.. Haha, I'm almost 18 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, we've thought about getting married in the future but that'll when we're like 26 or 27, just not now.. and we don't even have the guts to tell both of our parents about our future together. I mean just as long as she and her boyfriend stay together and have a healthy relationship, then it'll be just fine for now. They don't need to get married at such a young age just to prove their love for each other. That's just crazy.. |
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Mar 30 2004, 08:02 AM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
(COLDasICE Posted on Mar 30 2004, 2:38 AM)
QUOTE But wow! Your friend is weird, so are her parents. No offense! i hate the things she said... one time we had a racist talk and she was angry at me fer being too much "azn pryde"...and i was blamin` the reason why her parents and herself along wit her boyfriend..were stupid...(cuz she white) and she said the most stupidest things...and she friggin` criticized all da asians...and i got my AZN friends to kick her a$$ man...crappin` deserved it...sayin` we`re stupid...look at her!wanting to get married at such a young age.. so i`m not talkin` to her ever since that inccident..cuz she can`t accept the fact that there are asians in da world..
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Mar 30 2004, 10:07 AM
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i think it's different in every situation. your friend might *think* she's ready, but when it comes down to it, she might freak out and realize how big of a step that is. my boyfriend of two and a half years asked me to marry him when he was 20 and i was 19...and a month and a half later, he bailed on it. did a 180 and changed his mind. it's one thing to think about it, but it's a totally different thing to actually do it.
either way, i hope everything works out for the best!! |
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Mar 31 2004, 03:55 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
umm no offense or n e thing but ur fren is kinda weird but yea lotz of gurlz feel that way wen they r realli in luv no matta wat age dey r. hmm i wonder y
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Mar 31 2004, 05:24 PM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
(COLDasICE Posted: Mar 30 2004, 2:38 AM)
QUOTE But wow! Your friend is weird, so are her parents. No offense! (dani41790 Posted: Mar 31 2004, 3:55 PM) QUOTE umm no offense or n e thing but ur fren is kinda weird but yea that`s the same friggin` thing... like i said...i don`t care...`cuz she white...and SOME white ppls do that...not all...but SOME...like hilary duff...haha! |
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Mar 31 2004, 07:11 PM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
you know what, i'm not even going to tell you how stupid you're being. i'll let you figure it out on your own. that is, if you can handle it, little girl.
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Mar 31 2004, 07:22 PM
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i will be LOVED, some day. Group: Member Posts: 238 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 263 |
About the whole racist thing, people can be very ignorant now-a-days that's why people hang out with people they feel most comfortable with. If one race talk about another race then that's just plain stupid but I could careless what other races think because they never take the time to see the good side.. I mean every race has its good and bad sides right?? It's just that one takes over more than the other.. which creates either a good or bad reputation..
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Mar 31 2004, 08:21 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
wow.. ur friend is amazing.. her parents are even more amazing.. well i think nowadays in america.. girls should be successful first with their careers, u never know what a guy will do to u in ur life, yea they can say they'll take care of u and all but if they cant even care for themselves and u rely on them then ur in trouble... i think girls should do good in career first then think about marriage
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