Dealing with guys, how to... Options

[xheavenzcentzx]

How do you deal with a guy that doesn't wanna be with you, but doesn't want you to move on either? does that make sense? lemme explain...
So there's this guy.. who.. is a really awesome guy.. how awesome? oh he's got girls lined up for him. Anyway we had at talk.. and well.. He wants to 'wait' to consider 'us' until I'm a little older (cuz he's 2 years older) even though.. the age difference didn't matter 2 years AGO when I was a freshmen and he was a junior going to different schools... confusing? yah so welcome to my world. So I said.. fine.. be that way >< And so now I'm trying to get over him.. cept he's like.. not letting me? He gets way .. "angry" with me when i go talk to some other guys.. or when guys flirt with me.. and definitely when i flirt back. but remember.. he doesn't really want BE with me.. so technically he just wants me to chase him forever until he's "okay" with "us" >< what a jerk huh? well.. i can't just tell him to leave me the F alone because 1. he's my friend and 2. he's my brother's friend too.. and that wouldn't be fair to my brother. I see this guy.. WAY too much.. but h'es fun to hang out with i dont mind.. so how do i deal with this? I dont wanna keep pissing him off, but i dont wanna wait for him ><

[HaN4RaNg]

hmm. i wouldnt even put up with him. seems like he just wants u to chase after him, and only him. its not fair for u to wait until he's ready. he doesnt have control over u and u shouldnt let him. do what u want, u dont belong to him and vise versa. if he has a problem with u hanging out with other guys, thats his problem that he needs to get over. he's asking u to wait until he's ready? and so what if u meet a guy that u want to start a relationship with? as if ur gona pass up the better guy JUST BECAUSE ur supposed to wait for someone who doesnt measure up to this new guy. he can still b ur friend, but i dont think its right that u have to wait until he's ready.

[RIcEB0IAnTh]

r u sure he was angry about u talking wit guys, it might be sumthing else, cus if hes as great as u say he is, den I dun think he would get angry at stuff lik tat.

[Winter]

You should have a talk about him. Tell him that you're not with him so you have a right to see other people.

I've been in that situation before. My ex and I broke up for about 2 months already and I started going out with another guy. My ex didn't do anything to him, but he'd talk bad about him when he's with me.

After a while I had this talk with him where he admitted he had feelings for me. And I ended up breaking up with the other guy and going back with him.

So just talk to him. If he's a good friend, you guys will be able to work something out.

[_sarcastic_]

talk to him about it, its not very fair if you have to wait for him until he is ready to be with you. i mean its not fair to put your life on hold just to wait for him.

if he is a good friend then he'll understand

[Nicolatofu]

^what they said^

[Shattered_Hope]

im sry, but i was lmao when i read this..*ahem* but hmm he sounds kinda controlling and possessive..why dont you just tell him to make up his mind?? tell him yur not a second..your not an alternative for hi mwhen there is no one else left...tell him so you can decide..age does not matter......and what hes doing isnt right.

[simplyannoy]

hmm okkay.. oO First of all, he have no right to ask you to wait for him or "chase" him second of all, a woman's youth doesn't last foreva! <-- did that make sense? But you should really talk to him though because it's not fair for you to always wait for him. He needs to learn that he can't "hog" someone.