Im so effin PISSED Options

[Oreo_bro]

yeah so usually im the guy who takes things calmy, reads everyones problems and gives me honest opion and trys to help them here...

i do that in real life too.

People always coming to me for advice *not saying you cbers do btw* and then guess what...sure they take it, tweak it to what they feel is right, then BOOM they mess up, blame it on me, then get all pissed at me WHEN ITS NOT EVEN MY EFFIN FAULT IN THE FIRST *** DAMN PLACE. OMFG. And then when it comes to relationships...omfg i seem to be able to do such a great job with helping my friends hook up with gfs and stuff, help them with their problems, tell them things not to do especally if its stupid, and just..BE THERE, yet when they screw up themselves they blame it on me. all-on-me.

WTF!

Now lets see...right right, i finnally got a gf, wow yeah finnally..felt so good, yada yada yada...we shared a few first *nothing in bed of course but i mean, lovly dovey stuff* and its all great, all fine. her friends like me, my parents like her...but guess what..yep..her parents dont like me. Why? well they were fine with us going out until they found out i was 2 years older then how, WOW A WHOLE 2 YEARS! WOW! Shes a sophmore and im a *gasp* senior! jeez boys and girls we all know what happens when a senior goes for younger girls right? yeah! you knwo it! omg that is what they thing! they seriously think that, they told her that! WTF, im not a damn rapist or a freakin pimp, unless u consider a counsler a pimp then woot i am but otherwise hell effin NO.

So her parents didnt approve of us but at first she didnt care, told me all these wonderful things how no matter what she wouldnt be influcenced by them, yada yada yada, how she cares bout me, yada yada yada..and well wadaya know i belive her. Yep i belive her.....

*commerical*

i would like to take this time to slap myself in the face 100 times, each time for ever thinking i knew what the hell i was talking about when i ever effin gave adivce to some one. What the hell did i think i was doing, i cant even have a relationship, what buisness do i have giving advice to others on theirs?!

*back to my rant*

So now we just got off the phone, i called her, and i asked her what she was up to, she said just playin some games *yeah shes a gamer chick, score there*, and i asked her what she was doing for thanksgiving and she said visiting some family friends i said cool. Then i told her i missed her, cause i hadent seen her in a few days cause she was sick. Well then she said "Gary i dont know anymore" and i asked her what she ment, and she was all like "i dont know hwo i feel anymore, maybe my parents are right..maybe i am to young" i just stoped there and my jaw seriously droped. What the hell was this? "maybe my parents are right, maybe i am to young". wtf, shes almost 16 and im almost 18, 2 YEARS! Her parents are 5 years apart. Then she went into all this stuff about how her grades have been improving since we havent gone out *we havent gone out in about a week and a half, but i was helping her with her school work*, and about how its, in her words "just easier if i think of it this way, i dont have to worry about other things like relationships, plus my parents will be happy, and i can focus more on school..".

I cant belive it. I helped her with her damn grades, i helped her with her self esteem, i was there for her when her aunt died, i was there for her when her parents were mad, i was THERE FOR HER, and now shes gonna throw it all away after all that, just cause shes feeling scared and cause her parents are displeased with her. I can understand if her parents were "angry" but they are more like "go otu if u want but we dont like it".

So..i dont know, i guess im sorry for all the jackass advice i've given all of you here at cb, its apparent that my advice sucks since i cant use it myself, i just feel used and a failure, and unable to handel anything.

oh have a great thanksgiving btw.

~Oreo


P.S. May all of you live healthy and happy relationships.

[Gypsy Eyes]

from what I have seen, you advice is pretty damn good. Don't blame yourself for her mistakes. Its not your fault. Trust me, she will regret it some day.

best of luck in future relationships

[misoshiru]

aww. i agree with gypsy eyes. you do give out good advice. good luck for the future.

[_sarcastic_]

i agree with both x__forever and gypsy eyes, you DO give out great advices, i dont think she knew how lucky she was to have you, She will realize it some day and regret it. don't be too hard on yourself, its not your fault.

[jennyjenny]

Your advice HAS been good.
And it's not your fault that people listen to your advice.
And if they screw up, it's not YOUR fault.

and the whole thing with your ex-girlfriend or girlfriend or whatever you wish to call her,
if she REALLY cared for you, she wouldn't care if her PARENTS hated you.
It seems like she's taken advantage...
I mean, you help her...
But what have you got in exchange besides getting mad?

[Nicolatofu]

If people switch your advice around, it's not your fault! Your girlfriend may just want to be in good standings with her parents. Don't hate her for it, although i can see your point, I personally don't think that's much of an age difference. She may be grateful for all you have done, maybe she just doesn't show it. Just treat her as a friend, and over time you will get over her. Maybe next time, you can try a senior. At least you know the problems won't involve your age difference!

[*Weird addiction*]

that sucks,that sucks ...u know what STOP giving advice...they take u for granted,u deserve more that that *i think*...dont be a fool,dump her!!

[ShadowPixie]

Man, I'm in an almost Identical situation. I gave all that I could, and yet in the end... I really don't know if I meant that much to her. It's the f**cking worst when it's sprung out of the blue on you. You don't expect a damn thing, then BAM! You're on your own. Everyone was mad at her, and they were telling her that she was making a mistake, so she got pissed at me telling me that I turned people against her..... but yeah, that's neither here nor there. I digress, I'm sorry. The point I'm getting at is this: my situation, and especially your situation, just goes to prove that the nicest guys truely do finish last.

[yummy_delight]

awww sorry man, that really sucks. but hey, i think she'll come to regret it later when her grades start dropping and she realizes that she threw away somebody who really cared for her just because of school and her parents.

best of luck to you.

[kyuubi319]

Dude. If she's willing to give you up that easy, she's probably a crappy g/f anyways. think about it. My parents hate hate hate the guy im with right now cuz hes THREE years olde than me and I don't really care what they think. I hope she realizes that she is making a HUGE mistake before she actually makes it.

good luck :]

[Oreo_bro]

thanks for all the comments guys, reading over it makes me feel like im not alone *nice guys do finish last lol*.

Hope everyone had a nice thanksgiving...im gonna try and talk to her again monday, who knows, but yeah maybe i'll try for a senior next time lol

[Shattered_Hope]

its ok. when asked for advice..you hav the right to give ur point of view..they can follow it or not..but the consequence isnt or shouldnt be yur fault..yur giving a point of view..a guide you would say...and what can i say?? but its not yur fault..and since when did any real friend cared what their parents thought of another friend???