How to get over him, ...and hopefully find someone new Options

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

Well, I don't want to get into the whole story, and I don't want to seem like I just want pity -I don't. I want help.

My supposed best friend stole my boyfriend, in October. It's now near the end of November and I'm still not over it. More like over him.

Don't you think I should not like him anymore?? I mean, I should be over him, and maybe even HATE him, considering what he did to me. But the sad, honest truth is that if I could, I would have him back.

All my friends tell me he's a jack-donkey and that I should never talk to him again, but... I don't know, something tells me [maybe it's wrong] that he might fall for me again, if I'm not mean and a mother-dog to him.

But I really don't know. I need advice. My friends also tell me that I need somebody else. I've thought about guys that could be possibilities, but nothing happens, even though I really want it to. Kind of.

So if you have any advice, please post. I need all the help I can get.

[me1issaaaa]

ahh sweetie, believe me. i know EXACTLY what you're going through. haha, i just made a topic about the same thing pretty much. wow, we're like twins lol. same exact thing happened to me last month too.

anywho, i thought i was just gonna stay depressed forever. i honestly didn't think it'd get any better, but you know what, it did.

just be storng. i promise you it will all be alright.

if you ever need to talk, i'm here

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-meli

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

Ohh, really? I'm sorry, I didn't see it.

Anywho, I'm glad to hear I'm not alone. 'Cause I feel desperately alone right now. Yeah, twins -awesome!! Hehe. So, I am just trying to figure out what to do while I wait for it to ... END. I need someone else to obsess over, but... it's just not happening.

Thanks for helping, I really appreciate it!!

Tell me though, should I hate either of them?? [My ex-bf or my bff ]

Maybe I can think of other things, happy things, and my bad thoughts will go away!!

... ...

Not working.

[Nicolatofu]

Ugg, i have gone thru the same thing, and it's even worse when you still want him back! But here's what my act upon it was- I kind of like not talk to him that much, or just like a normal person and stuff, so that he gets the point i'm over him (even if i'm really not) So that he doesn't feel bad for me or anything (( I HATE IT when people treat me different out of pity, it bugs the shit outta me ))

And basically the same thing i said in the other girls post. Don't let him think he can come back to you just like that and everything's better, cuz trust me, he'll prolly take advantage of it.....

[*krnxswat*]

Primarily, change your member title; then come back.

[ShadowPixie]

Don't fret about it being a month or two. It's been close to six months for me, and I still get emotional at the thought of..... her. Whats funny, is I have that same feeling you do. Maybe we're both naive, but I too feel like maybe if I still be the best person I can, then she'll come back to me too. So thats another thing you aren't alone on. I mean, if that counts for anything.

[inthemudhole]

Just.. don't think about it.
Any break-up is painful.
Just go about your day like it doesn't hurt you.
Then he won't be so satisfied.

[xheavenzcentzx]

wow you sound like me

You should always try to be friends with him but its not worth your time if he leaves you for your best friend tahts just messed up and wrong. You could always find someone better than him that would make you just as happy. Dont be too harsh on him he can't help it

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

xkali_chik_4_lifex - Yeah, I know. I want him back, but if he did come back to me, I wouldn't have him. It's hard to explain.

krnxswat - Umm, please explain??

shadowpixie - Yesh it means something -a great something!! Thanks.

inthemudhole - Well i never see him anymore, but yeah I totally play it off to him. He doesn't even ask me how I'm doing conserning that anymore, he thinks I'm over him.

I just hate the fact that I wasn't good enough, or that I did something wrong. But then again, I can totally see why he picked my bff over me. She so much more ... happy than me. She's so bubbly. Well, actually, she's not. She's a drama queen and she acted this whole thing out. I better go before I start venting any more. Thanks for listening, everyone.

[me1issaaaa]

Ohh, really? I'm sorry, I didn't see it.

Anywho, I'm glad to hear I'm not alone. 'Cause I feel desperately alone right now. Yeah, twins -awesome!! Hehe. So, I am just trying to figure out what to do while I wait for it to ... END. I need someone else to obsess over, but... it's just not happening.

Thanks for helping, I really appreciate it!!

Tell me though, should I hate either of them?? [My ex-bf or my bff ]

Maybe I can think of other things, happy things, and my bad thoughts will go away!!

... ...

Not working.

no, no, no. don't hate either of them. believe me, i know it seems like the easiest thing to do, but in the end, you'll be the better person out of it all. also remember... karma's a bitch they'll get what's coming.

but just so i get this straight, did your friend know you liked him? if she did, did she atleast try to talk to you about it before she said yes?

oh, don't even worry bout it, hun!! anytime, i like to help. like i said before, if you ever need to talk about something, just PM me of my SN on AIM - cow lxlSQUEElxl

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[ShadowPixie]

shadowpixie - Yesh it means something -a great something!! Thanks.

I'm really glad I could help out .

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

no, no, no. don't hate either of them. believe me, i know it seems like the easiest thing to do, but in the end, you'll be the better person out of it all. also remember... karma's a bitch  they'll get what's coming.

but just so i get this straight, did your friend know you liked him? if she did, did she atleast try to talk to you about it before she said yes? 

oh, don't even worry bout it, hun!! anytime, i like to help. like i said before, if you ever need to talk about something, just PM me of my SN on AIM - cow lxlSQUEElxl

<3333

Who is Karma?? Yeah I know it will turn back on them some day, I just hope I'm around to laugh. But then again, I don't.

Yeah my "best friend" stole my BOYFRIEND. I think she might have known. Just maybe. Yesh she knew, she knew very well. So what is a best friend? A best. friend. The best of friends. I think she kind of dropped that title, don't you??

Alrighty, I will take you up on your word about that!! I just have to re-install AIM, the darn thing did something stupid and now it won't work.

I'm really glad I could help out .

Yeah, it always feels good to help people. So... I'm really glad that I can relate to someone on so many things... it is encouraging, you know?

So anywho, I feel a super-duper late night coming on, who's gonna chat with me?

Muahahahaha...

[Shattered_Hope]

yur not alone.

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

[da infamous pnai]

to me i think u shud move on.. its not easy i went out wit this guy last may n im still not over him eventhough i went out wit 2 other guys after we broke up its not easy you`ll find alot of new guys out there

[Just_Dream]

It's terrible that your best friend stole your boyfriend away. And plus, if he really did care for you, he wouldn't have don't what he did and he would at least try to fix your relationship with him, because it seems that you're "being mean and female-doggy." Don't EVER think you're not good enough. He doesn't deserve a great person like you, because you seemed to truly care alot about him. I can't say love, because you didn't say you loved him. But anyway, you should move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea. And remember, be the bigger personand move on, show that you don't care anymore. It's better that you do and not cling to the past. You supposively best friend backstabbed you and just don't talk to her anymore. You don't need backstabbers like her and players like your boyfriend in you life. Hopefully you find someone new that could make you happy and be there for you.

[ShadowPixie]

Yeah, it always feels good to help people. So... I'm really glad that I can relate to someone on so many things... it is encouraging, you know?

So anywho, I feel a super-duper late night coming on, who's gonna chat with me?

Muahahahaha...

yeah, IT DOES feel good to relate to someone. Just the fact knowing you're not alone is a real help. Hehe, I have super late nights too, as I have been battling Insomnia for a few months now. Sounds like something out of a f**king movie, but even so, the point I'm getting at is I'll chat with you if-in you wouldn't mind me donig so. I'm always on the lookout for a new friend, or at least someone I can relate too. Let me know.

[me1issaaaa]

Who is Karma?? Yeah I know it will turn back on them some day, I just hope I'm around to laugh. But then again, I don't.

Yeah my "best friend" stole my BOYFRIEND. I think she might have known. Just maybe. Yesh she knew, she knew very well. So what is a best friend? A best. friend. The best of friends. I think she kind of dropped that title, don't you??

Alrighty, I will take you up on your word about that!! I just have to re-install AIM, the darn thing did something stupid and now it won't work.



Yeah, it always feels good to help people. So... I'm really glad that I can relate to someone on so many things... it is encouraging, you know?

So anywho, I feel a super-duper late night coming on, who's gonna chat with me?

Muahahahaha...

wow. hate to say it, but she's not a good friend at all... just dump her. and he's not worth it, either, if he goes out w/ someone like her.

lol karma's like... you know the saying "what goes around comes around"... basically, if she f**ks up, something f**ked up will happen to her. don't worry, she'll get what's coming.

alright hope to hear from ya soon!!

<333

hope everything works out for you!! you're a great person, i know things will be fine. hugs+kisses!

[oO_BrItTiShBaBe_...]

It's terrible that your best friend stole your boyfriend away. And plus, if he really did care for you, he wouldn't have don't what he did and he would at least try to fix your relationship with him, because it seems that you're "being mean and female-doggy." Don't EVER think you're not good enough. He doesn't deserve a great person like you, because you seemed to truly care alot about him. I can't say love, because you didn't say you loved him. But anyway, you should move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea. And remember, be the bigger personand move on, show that you don't care anymore. It's better that you do and not cling to the past. You supposively best friend backstabbed you and just don't talk to her anymore. You don't need backstabbers like her and players like your boyfriend in you life. Hopefully you find someone new that could make you happy and be there for you. 

Yeesh. That was really cool. Alot of things that you said, totally clicked. I now realise so much... thanks.

wow. hate to say it, but she's not a good friend at all... just dump her. and he's not worth it, either, if he goes out w/ someone like her.

lol karma's like... you know the saying "what goes around comes around"... basically, if she f**ks up, something f**ked up will happen to her. don't worry, she'll get what's coming. 

alright hope to hear from ya soon!!

<333

hope everything works out for you!! you're a great person, i know things will be fine.  hugs+kisses!

Yeah I know she and he are not worth it... but then again they are!! I hate it, but it's like one of those dumb hate-love relationships... and it is SO confusing. Well yup, he decided to rag on me today. Had me crying. Scared my sisters cause I would no tell them what was wrong. I see how he walks all over me, but I duon't know how to change it.

yeah, IT DOES feel good to relate to someone. Just the fact knowing you're not alone is a real help. Hehe, I have super late nights too, as I have been battling Insomnia for a few months now. Sounds like something out of a f**king movie, but even so, the point I'm getting at is I'll chat with you if-in you wouldn't mind me donig so. I'm always on the lookout for a new friend, or at least someone I can relate too. Let me know. 

Heck YES!! I see late nights as a good chance to spend hours online, talking or w/e while my family is asleep, so I have no one to bug me... *laughs evily* Muahahaha. lol. Yeah, I don't mind talking, lol, that's why I asked. I know what you mean, and I am always on the lookout for people who are worth it. [B]Quite a few of you seem to fall into that category.
So yeah, talk to me any time... I think it shows what messengers I have. [If not, I have all three. Ask me and I will give. ]

agh g2g sister naggin me... hate her... oooooooooooh