is this my breaking point?, guys come & go right? Options

[inn0centmarianne]

Okay, so here's my crappy real life story, I started going out with a guy named JAN, I just recently broke up with him like a month ago, we went out for about a year and 4 months, my longest relationship so far. I started going out with my EX, MARK, and now I feel that I've made the worse decision, we were better as friends, I mean, he talks to me for like 2 minutes a day on the phone, and at school, he goes pulling off my earring, It's like wth? that hurts you know! So I feel that our communication with each other sucks really bad, then a week ago or something like that, a guy named MICHAEL, started talking to me and hes a really cool guy, he only sees me as a FRIEND, which totally sucks, I think I'm falling for this MICHAEL guy while I'm going with MARK, MICHAEL just found out that I liked him through a poem I wrote him, which is on my xanga, and he understood it, but he still only sees me as a friend, I know our friendship is better than nothing at all, but I fell HARD for MICHAEL, and now I don't know what to do, I dont want to break MARK'S heart, but I don't really feel anything for him anymore, what do I do? someone help me for real! I need advice, it's killing me inside, I'm hurting alot of people and I hate it, but I can't help stop my feelings? they are just too strong for me to handle! i'm going crazy here, and now this JAN guy, for a year and 4 months, wants me back, I don't want to go back to him, he put me through alot, and it's so hard to hear him cry, he said he sees me everywhere even when he tries being with another girl.. but what now? my head hurts... HELP! okay, wait theres more! this guy MICHAEL, hes my bestfriends EX boyfriend, she said it was ok to go out with him, but I couldnt hurt her like that, MICHAEL doesnt even like me? so this is weird huh?

[ThePrincessofTKD]

dang...

life`s a b---- isn`t it..?

jus...don`t go out wit anyone!!!

it`s straightforward bull...

i say you should go clubbing wit me and we`ll find a perfect guy fer ya!

it would be better (i think) to go out wit someone who`s never had a gf/bf..cuz daym..too much drama...

[oooduckz]

oo, that sucks. hey man, you ain`t the only one with them guy problemz. i wanna be with the guy i`ve liked for so long, but i can`t trust him. it`s bs..when you can`t trust the person you love..

[darkestdesire]

woah that was kinna confusin , which one do you really love, and which one really loves you . Just follow your heart and i guess it can lead you to the right one

[blah3868]

who do u realli love?

[*krnxswat*]

First, break up with him.

[xjjajeengx]

^ WORD up there by krnxswat.
break up with him.
i think you need time by yourself for a little while, cause it might drive you insane soon enough. (this happned to me...) you just need to break off the ties and just kind of think to yourself, (even for a day) and choose who you want. its not about who THEY want, its about YOU and who YOU want. just cause your ex wants you back and all doesnt mean you ahve to go back to him. and just because you ahve a bf doesnt mean that you acnt dump him and go for someone else. You can, just you have to realize that by doing so, you might hurt them. but im shure that since mark or watever was a frend before, he would be your frend after you guys break up as well, but it might take some time for him to "heal." also, dont rush into getting michael's attention. slow it down, try to be good frends first. that will help in the future if you guys decide to go out or something.
DONT FEEL STRESSED OUT!! good luck and whatever you do, dont hurt urself aiite?

[*CEP*]

5 Steps to Solve your Problem.

Step 1: Break up with Mark.
Step 2: Don't worry about Jan.
Step 3: Don't worry about your bestfriend.
Step 4: Just keep waiting for Micheal, he'll eventually like you back.
Step 5: Don't think too much. You think too much.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[wayne]

thinking too much gives you a headache, and that sucks, so stop thinking so hard first off. then brake up with mark, and keep tlaking to michael because eventually he'll get it.

[Just_Dream]

Wow, drama. Aww, well the best thing to do is to be true to yourself and MARK because just by STAYING with him, you're leading him on. The LONGER you stay with him, the harder it is going to be to break up with him. And the more you'll hurt him if you wait longer, because he will start to like you more and more each day (unless you do something bad to him everyday that drives him crazy, lol). Maybe you should get to know him (Michael) more, even though he KNOWS you like him. Wow, your ex, Jan, cried for you? It seems that he really cares about you and why did u exactly break up with him? If you do't want to share, its okay, but since you broke it, do you think you made a big mistake? I mean, this Jan guy seems to really care about you. And you seem to not be getting anywhere with Michael. Argh, lol, your love life is really confusing, someone loves you, someone doesn't, you like/love someone else, you're dating someone else, etc. You shouldn't have jumped into a relationship so quick. Maybe it's time to take a time out from love

[inn0centmarianne]

I have read all of your feedback, and thanks for all the wonderful comments, really helped me to think and realize what I, ME, MARIANNE, should do, I think I should just take a break from everything, and not keep mark waiting like this, being friends with michael, is always okay, and jan, I broke up with him because he didnt treat me with all the respect, fought everyday, didn't let me hang out with friends when i wanted to, but i cant blame him right? LOVE.. its your commitment, and its my fault for getting into this mess, thanks everyone, mark, i gotta let it down to him easy, anyone know any good things to say?

[xjjajeengx]

say:
sorry, your too much. ur a good person, and i hope you find someone better. byebye! hahaha i ono?

or just be plain honest and say:
let's just be frends.
he'll get the point even if he's stupid...

[*CEP*]

Tell him:
" Hey,[lie]I really don't know how to say this,[/lie]but I think you and I should part ways. This relationship is getting nowhere, and I need space [away from you.] "
It's generic, but it works.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[whomps]

whoa, nelly. haha conffo0o0sing xD that sucks.. i would hate to be in the relationshipp.. i think you should try to get over michael and just explain to mark that it's not working out and stuff.. you might feel bad but it'll be better than what you're in now right? =p

[inn0centmarianne]

yeah, I just don't know when the right time to do this will come, and michael, I can't give up on this guy, if he'll stay my friend, i'll be the happiest person ever, he has a good heart and told me a billion times how girls just leave him and BREAK this guys heart, I feel so bad when he tells me, because he deserves the best out there, not saying it's me, I wouldn't want to hurt him with anything...he just so different, gahh I'm falling hard for him you guys...

[inn0centmarianne]

okay, I finally broke it off with mark

[dani41790]

ok um sice u broke up with mark u can probably start to try n hook up with the guy u lyke.

[conster]

jan still wants u bak u cant do anything about it so... i guess ignore him so he'll stop thinking about you

mark - break up wit him before u hurt him anymore

michael - if he doesnt like u then.. well... i dont know u can still continue liking him but jus break up wit mark and reject jan like... totally so they both wont get any mORE hurt

[inn0centmarianne]

i broke up with mark already!!!

[conster]

oh im sorry.. lol well i guess move on then?

[Senorita_Babo]

ahh...the beauty of being single...

[inn0centmarianne]

yes yes, living the single life now

[xplicitmizz23]

go for whichever one you like the most!! keep em close though! incase it doesnt work out wit whoever..

HAHAH.. jk'n.. your pretty! why doesnt michael like you any more then a friend!!?!?

[inn0centmarianne]

I don't know what happened, I read his xanga and I saw some interesting stuff I never knew about, now I'm shocked and don't know what to do, he wants to go out with a girl that I HATED ever since 4TH GRADE!! grr, I feel bad... ahha why thank you xplicitmizz, but I think i'm ugly, thats why he doesnt like me, he only goes for pretty girls...

[Dr_Robotio]

homosexuality is always an option