I have a problem, im a mom |
 Mar 17 2004, 07:24 PM
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Daym im only 15 and i have a 3 month old daughter my husband divorced me. i dont know what to do and i know this isnt the place to talk about it but i cant find any other place i need advice. i really do.
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| *Podomaht* |
Mar 23 2004, 03:51 PM
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>__<
lets hope its not a joke. |
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Mar 23 2004, 05:19 PM
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heh...i dunno about that...did u see her xanga??its connected to another one
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Mar 24 2004, 06:05 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 4 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,204 |
im sorry but i dont have time and my friend made tis for me. she said it was a skin she got from here. but im not lying really.
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Mar 24 2004, 06:28 PM
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 DJ 2ru Group: Member Posts: 17 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,003 |
Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey.
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Mar 24 2004, 06:58 PM
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 original member. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,825 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,460 |
QUOTE(2ruPnoy @ Mar 24 2004, 6:28 PM) Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey. Woa...way to go!  Anyways...If you can't support the baby, I seriously recomend putting him/her up for adoption. If you really want the baby to have a better life, and if you can't support him, it may be the best choice. |
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Mar 24 2004, 07:52 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
QUOTE(thedilenquent @ Mar 23 2004, 12:51 PM) .... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life? I think she should give birth and put them up for adoption...so you know, they can have the best life possible with someone capable of taking care of them.. |
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Mar 24 2004, 09:07 PM
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 PHIL ˝ Group: Member Posts: 2,663 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,982 |
QUOTE Daym Yall. Leave the girl alone. She has a baby! and its a freaking skin! all skins link somewhere else yo! like mine except i changed it. thats right! back off the little honey. Thas Tru. |
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| *Podomaht* |
Mar 24 2004, 09:09 PM
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sorry, i didnt know. ill pray for you.
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| *CEP* |
Mar 24 2004, 09:26 PM
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Well, like a lot of people here say, put the kid up for adoption. You obviously are too young to support the child. Unless ofcourse, your with your parents. In that case, you're in the clear. I mean, even if you got pregnant and everything, your parents will still love you and their grandchild.
And how'd you get married? Isn't it illegal? You're still a minor. - Chinkieeyedpnoi PS: Podomaht's already praying for you, so I don't think I need to do that anymore. |
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Mar 24 2004, 09:42 PM
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 i am a smoe Group: Member Posts: 119 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,009 |
I don't really recommend adoption, just for the fact that you might regret it later
You seem to be trying to put your life back together, so I'm getting from that that you wouldn't want to give up your baby. I don't know you at all, so these are all assumptions, and I could be completely wrong. But my opinion is that should really look inside you, think about things, think about how you got in this situation. Talk to your parents, talk to your ex. You're korean, so I'm guessing your parents are typical rigid Korean parents, but you're their daughter, they'll help you through it all =] |
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| *CJ1* |
Mar 27 2004, 11:13 AM
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I think you should ask for real help cause most of the people here are still young and haven't thought about getting married... Anyway, rei, sorry... Just try the best you can in life and never give up....
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Mar 27 2004, 03:40 PM
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 ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 |
Best I can say is, Put your child up for adoption, or maybe let your parents take care of him/her for awhile? I really don't know . . sorry if I can't help
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Mar 27 2004, 04:49 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
QUOTE(thedilenquent @ Mar 23 2004, 12:51 PM) .... its not the babys fault that the mother didnt protect herself and got pregnant. i believe in taking care of your responsiblities. and abortion seems like a quick fix to the problem. but dont u think the baby atleast deserves a chance at life? yea, that's true. I'm sorry that I said the abortion thing. I wasn't htinking. The baby does deserve to live, and yes, adoption seems like a good choice. But the thought of the baby never having his/her real mother... =( But anyhow, try to take care of the child as much as you can. If it fails, then put him/her up for adoption. Even if the child "might" hate you forever, at least you know the child might haev a chance at having a better life.ps: I'm not a big fan of children..
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| *jooleeah* |
Mar 27 2004, 09:19 PM
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adoption seems good. but then again if you bonded with your child ( sounds corny i know) then i would think it would be too harmful for you to give it away. like silver said, you might regret it soon. talk to your parents about it. if they don't really respond the way you want them to, talk to a friend. ask your parents if they can take care of it. if they can't for some reason, ask another adult to help you out. you'll find a way to fix this problem soon.
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Mar 30 2004, 08:26 PM
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wow ur onli 15 n having a babii u should get a nice job
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Mar 30 2004, 10:23 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
O_o
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Apr 3 2004, 05:22 PM
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 >>LILY<< Group: Member Posts: 276 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,632 |
adopton would be the best thing to do.
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Apr 3 2004, 05:52 PM
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i just want to let every know that i think you guys are all great people for helping out this girl and you don't even know her. that's why i love creteblog. you can ask anything and a ton of people will relate, help, or just plain listen. sometimes thats all you need. thank you.
 rei: i am praying for you. |
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Apr 3 2004, 08:06 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
you got married and divorced already? are you sure that you even legally married??? anyways so your 15... it was your decision to have the child, cause if it was tooo late and u realized that u were pregnent, you could of have had an abortion... its more simple than having to take care of a child, especially when your still in high school!!! so its too late for an abortion of course lol... but now since u already have it... go to your ex-husband's family and demand to get a certain amought of money from them each month, like have your family talk to their family... if he wasn't going to be responsible for a baby than he should not be having sex with young girls in the first place, and his parents has got to be respnsible for their son who cause a teenage to be a mother at such a young age... no girl at that age should have to worry about a baby... they should be out having fun not having to take care of a baby... and ain't your parents there for you? to support you?? okay i'm typing too much...
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Apr 3 2004, 08:08 PM
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Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
QUOTE(angel_girl @ Mar 30 2004, 8:26 PM) wow ur onli 15 n having a babii u should get a nice job you should not get a job, you should stay in school and get a good education and put the child in daycare while your at school... |
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Apr 3 2004, 09:55 PM
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durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
QUOTE(177emories @ Apr 3 2004, 8:06 PM) you got married and divorced already? are you sure that you even legally married??? anyways so your 15... it was your decision to have the child, cause if it was tooo late and u realized that u were pregnent, you could of have had an abortion... its more simple than having to take care of a child, especially when your still in high school!!! so its too late for an abortion of course lol... but now since u already have it... go to your ex-husband's family and demand to get a certain amought of money from them each month, like have your family talk to their family... if he wasn't going to be responsible for a baby than he should not be having sex with young girls in the first place, and his parents has got to be respnsible for their son who cause a teenage to be a mother at such a young age... no girl at that age should have to worry about a baby... they should be out having fun not having to take care of a baby... and ain't your parents there for you? to support you?? okay i'm typing too much... Yea, I said that thing about abortion too, but thedilenquent told me that the chid does deserve to live, and well, I agree with her on that one. The baby should get his/her chance to live. It's not the baby's fault. =T |
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Apr 23 2004, 10:49 PM
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PHIL ˝ Group: Member Posts: 2,663 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,982 |
she quitted now even her xanga.
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Apr 24 2004, 02:29 PM
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QUOTE(waccoon @ Mar 23 2004, 3:27 PM) why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me. thats what i was thinking...it doesnt even sound believable |
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Apr 24 2004, 04:25 PM
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 heart broken x Group: Member Posts: 247 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,259 |
Posted on Apr 24 2004, 3:29 PM
QUOTE (waccoon @ Mar 23 2004, 3:27 PM) QUOTE why doesnt rei answer at all? she was the one asking for help, and it's been almost a week since your plea. you may be going through some shit, but asking people on a xanga forum for help? sounds just like someone who has too much time on their hands to me. thats what i was thinking...it doesnt even sound believable i agree shes da one whoz askin fo help so if it waz tru den she would have came and replyed |
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May 21 2004, 12:46 AM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
oh my god. i feel so bad for you. you are so young. did you have to drop out of highschool. why didn't you put your kid up for adoption or get an abortion? i sure as hell know that i would have!!! i feel so bad!
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