Approaching a Girl, How do I approach a girl? |
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 Oct 15 2004, 07:50 PM
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The Shoobster  Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,455  |
Ok people,
There's this girl......lets keep names a secret right now. I've liked her since the........4th grade (I'm in 8th right now). I've always wanted to express my feelings, but I'm afraid of rejection. Ya see, I'm not exactly the........coolest or best looking guy around. I don't want this to be something where I go into depression. So, is there some way I can approach her and tell her my feelings, but not be afraid of rejection? Peace, The Shoobster |
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Oct 15 2004, 07:58 PM
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neat banner Group: Member Posts: 281 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,994 |
well yes u gotta be tough and keep repeating to yourself i can.. if u realli lyke her and u realli noe her it shouldnt be a problem just talk to her and tell her what u feel and ask her out to a date.. Dont be nervous be yourself...
good luck.. be brave |
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Oct 15 2004, 08:05 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 110 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,849 |
okay gonna ask for help on this one...
-He has to get to know her better/become friends with her. Without having a decent person-to-person relationship..it probably won't work out. -tell him to have his friend ask her friend if she would ever concider going out with him...and then maybe ask her to the movies or something, but make sure he BRINGS a FLOWER -take it slow and steady. dont rush into things but get to know her first. then call her once and awhile, hold an intersting chat, but dont blurt thigns. -yea through a friend of course or else he could just jokingly say i love u and see her reaction choose one or wait for other people |
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Oct 15 2004, 08:14 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,928 |
if you really like her, then you`d show your feelings for her. just.. make sure you`re comfortable with her, and maybe.. you should get to know her more if you don`t know that much about her.it`s cute that you don`t want to get hurt, but just let it all out, `kuz it`s better to let things out, rather than leaving them inside. also, don`t act like someone else, act yourself, `kuz if she ends up liking you back, it has to be `kuz she likes you for you. =]
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Oct 15 2004, 08:43 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
first things first.. if u wanna express ur feelings witout feeling hurt sorry that cant be possible unless she feels the same way about you. so its either u tell her and get over it, or hide in that corner and mope about it. =] and of course i think u should confess.
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Oct 15 2004, 08:59 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Look down, see those two feet? Start moving them.
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Oct 15 2004, 11:40 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Oct 15 2004, 8:59 PM) Look down, see those two feet? Start moving them. lol n e wayz... u knoe.... girls love guys with confidence. be confident first...smile alot.....u knoe.. u can HINT that u like her first without actaully saying it... if she's smart she'll get the messege..n if she likes u bak then she'll do smthn abbt it...but be friends first right?. n yea talk to her n stuff... display confidence n HINT it first..jus to get ant idea of her response///////// TRUST ME... girls know alot... 
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Oct 15 2004, 11:44 PM
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The Shoobster Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,455 |
This is what I wrote to her
Dear <person>, We've known each other as friends since the 4th grade. Sure, we've been friends and all. You've considered me as a friend, I consider you as one. We even joined band together. I just wanted to know I've secretly liked you since I met you. You were always so kind to me when others thought I was a geek. And the letter goes on and on for about 3 paragraphs. I hope she checks her mail |
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Oct 15 2004, 11:54 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
You are a geek. Email? Puhlease....
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Oct 15 2004, 11:56 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
QUOTE(shooby @ Oct 15 2004, 11:44 PM) This is what I wrote to her Dear <person>, We've known each other as friends since the 4th grade. Sure, we've been friends and all. You've considered me as a friend, I consider you as one. We even joined band together. I just wanted to know I've secretly liked you since I met you. You were always so kind to me when others thought I was a geek. And the letter goes on and on for about 3 paragraphs. I hope she checks her mail nice job * personally, i love reading loooong letters.* but anywho....yea good job... *fingers crossed* hope for the best to you..n keep us posted ^^ n btw--nerd n geeks are hot LOL |
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Oct 16 2004, 12:00 AM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Seriously, email is the WORST possible way ever......
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Oct 16 2004, 10:02 AM
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The Shoobster Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,455 |
th, you're right. She doesnt use email anymore. I guess I'll post on my xanga, or IM her when she's on AIM (which isn't often).
Which should i do?!?!? |
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Oct 16 2004, 05:31 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,265 |
Ummm.. why don't you try to give her a real letter. Like you write it your self in a paper. Wouldn't it be more special?? ;) Well, personally it's great to get some kind of writting from a guy when he writes it himself. It just feel special.. anyways you could always slip the note in her locker [from the holes..] if youre to scared to give it to her ;) Good luck =)
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Oct 17 2004, 02:35 AM
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yeh i agree wit th5418... if i got that id be like WTF!!! wat a freak!!!.... freakin hell tell it to her face! what you are doing is the cowards approach....
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Oct 17 2004, 10:37 AM
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 *lurks around* Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,932 |
Act NATURAL..if some dude comes up to me and starts stuttering like a maniac..I would be like..uhhh what the heck..instead of .. ohh hez cool..I like the letter idea..but maybe a more direct confrontation is to call her on the phone..you know? :shrugs: Just be yourself. That's all that counts.
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Oct 17 2004, 02:05 PM
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The Shoobster Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,455 |
Rejection hurts people
 Oh well, another day, another girl. I called her up, well, actually, I just talked to her through voice chat on AIM. This is how it went. After some ranting about good times. Me: Well, what I'm trying to say is.......I like you, liked you since the 4th grade. Her: That's nice to know, but I don't think I'm up to a relationship. There's school and stuff. Me: I didn't mean it that way, I just wanted to tell you. Her: I'm grateful for that, I'm sorry...... And then she hung up on me and signed off. Kinda sux0rz, but that's life right? I gotta deal with it. |
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Oct 17 2004, 02:38 PM
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Step 1.
Slap her hard on the face. This will give her the idea that you mean buisness and also says that you will be the one in charge in your future relationship. Step 2. Tell her you're sorry about the slap. This will tell her that you're sincere and that you care about her a lot. Step 3. Slap her again. Just incase she forgets the whole " in charge " deal. Step 4. Ask her out. Since you've already established dominance, this should be very easy for you. Ask her to the movies and see the latest "chick flick" or go to a football game with her. There.. not that hard. - Chinkieeyedpnoi |
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Oct 17 2004, 04:05 PM
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 she did that! Whoa!... at least she was ncie about it? ^^; It was really brave of you to go up to her and tell her that though well, technically "went up to her" LOL. At least now you got your feelings out and she knows how you feel... if she's not into a relationship then just drop it, continue being her friend and enjoy each other's company  who knows, maybe in the future she'll be ready for a relationship if you still like her
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