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 Sep 9 2004, 10:00 PM
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You guys are dumb.  Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094  |
Tell her down the road, not across the street.
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Sep 10 2004, 10:09 AM
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 because i'm worth it Group: Member Posts: 990 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,643 |
QUOTE(DrEaMgUy2K1 @ Aug 13 2004, 2:33 AM) u cant really tell her to stop, u gotta tell her how U feel, and u gotta know why she does it, and then after a while she feels comfortable talking to u about it u should suggest some other method to relieve pain i agree :/ |
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Sep 11 2004, 06:40 PM
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 bang bang! my baby shot me down! Group: Member Posts: 754 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,848 |
*sigh* yes help your friend talk to her.
ok im kinda annoyed with ppl who are saying "i think cutting is bad". i bet some cutters know that its bad do u know even y ppl do it? most likly its because they cant talk about there emotions so channeling it though physical pain numbs there emotional pain. even if they know its bad and dont want to do it its like eating mcdonalds and knowing its going to make you fat. |
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Sep 11 2004, 06:45 PM
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 old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
Yeah you should. I found out that my friend cut herself, and now she stopping. I guess people just need someone to talk to sometimes.
But I still think it's not solving anything. |
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Sep 11 2004, 08:30 PM
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bang bang! my baby shot me down! Group: Member Posts: 754 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,848 |
its solving the emotional pain for a few minutes wich is what somoene wants
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Sep 12 2004, 09:52 PM
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 babygrl23 Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,911 |
QUOTE(highly_evolved @ Sep 11 2004, 6:40 PM) *sigh* yes help your friend talk to her. ok im kinda annoyed with ppl who are saying "i think cutting is bad". i bet some cutters know that its bad do u know even y ppl do it? most likly its because they cant talk about there emotions so channeling it though physical pain numbs there emotional pain. even if they know its bad and dont want to do it its like eating mcdonalds and knowing its going to make you fat. I completely agree. |
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Sep 13 2004, 05:53 AM
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bang bang! my baby shot me down! Group: Member Posts: 754 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,848 |
^ thank you
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Sep 14 2004, 08:28 PM
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..i cut....well im trying to stop, because my friends found out and this whole thing happened, and now im trying to stop my bad habits
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Sep 14 2004, 08:31 PM
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 I <3 profanity Group: Member Posts: 2,910 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,774 |
QUOTE(highly_evolved @ Sep 11 2004, 4:40 PM) *sigh* yes help your friend talk to her. ok im kinda annoyed with ppl who are saying "i think cutting is bad". i bet some cutters know that its bad do u know even y ppl do it? most likly its because they cant talk about there emotions so channeling it though physical pain numbs there emotional pain. even if they know its bad and dont want to do it its like eating mcdonalds and knowing its going to make you fat. Yes I agree with you there. But it's become so much of a trend now. I can name more than 10 people at my school who cut and show it off. It's ridiculous. |
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Sep 14 2004, 08:51 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 13 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,073 |
..if they cut and show it off...it just means they want attenetion..that they really dont have any big issues, well thats MY opinon anyway
...and i know about cutting and acutally i wasnt gona post it on here that i cut..but yea...i ended up sayin it..and i had my own good reasons why i cut myself..and it WASNT for attention, hell i kept covering it up by wearing sweatbands and sweaters |
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Sep 18 2004, 03:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 115 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,809 |
Well what can I say? It's wrong It's terrible...and let me get this straight...how does making yourself RELIEVE the pain? And then again...somethings solutions are so limited that you make the mistake of thinking that cutting is the only way out. So whatever it is that she is going through....tell her it could be 50x times worse. Trust me...it could get so much worse.
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Sep 18 2004, 06:23 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 72 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,383 |
stop her
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Sep 18 2004, 07:38 PM
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 *rawr baby* Group: Member Posts: 821 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 48,941 |
i dont know anyone personally that cuts themselves. but i think you should tell her because she it inflicting pain upon and anything that draws blood from yourself is not good. if i were you i'd tell her in a heartbeat cos i'm a straightforward person when it comes to things i think aren't good/wrong. so tell her that you think she should stop. and it's because your care about her and you don't want to see her hurt herself anymore cos you care.
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Sep 18 2004, 07:45 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,968 |
QUOTE(sailornaruru @ Aug 13 2004, 2:31 AM) HHm....my friend started cutting herself and im woried  She says that she does it to relieve her paine and suffereing, but i dunno, I've tried cutting myself before, and it hurt, so i stopped and to me, it doesn't relieve pain [IT HURTS] I want herto stop, but she said that shewants to keep doing it because it makes her feel batter Should i back off and let her do it? [im sorta backing off right now] but i still want her to stop I think its bad to cut..what do ya'll think? And Do you guys think i should back off and let her do it?  I've delt with this problem before. No Matter what they say or what is happening (and I mean anything) all they're looking for is "attention"!!! One action could be to listen to what she has to say, if she acts in a 'no talking' matter then keep asking till she'll give in, but if she walks off in an annoyed attitude then you know she wants to hide it. If you're already past that stage, slap her. This will get her attention and tell her life ain't all flowers and pixies, she needs to learn to deal with it. This is where you or someone else helps her open her eyes to this fact of life.  ~\m/ |
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Sep 18 2004, 07:53 PM
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 the chick with rainbow hair Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,484 |
QUOTE(th5418 @ Sep 9 2004, 10:00 PM) Tell her down the road, not across the street. Defintely DONT do that..heh. The point is to make sure if shes going to keep doing it, shes causing as little harm as possible...and this is coming from a cutter, so I do know what Im talking about, for the most part at least .....  First off alot of the people here are right about the 'why'..Its a coping mechanism. And it comes from craving attention. Maybe she doesnt know that yet, but in her subconscious (sp?) she feels lonely. You gotta explain to her that you want to support her in everyway but you dont want her to hurt herself. Also it is very addictive. Take it from me, its like smoking or doing a narcotic..remind her that even though its helping her now, eventually she will wanna quit, and if shes been doing it for awhile, she might not be able to quit by herself...Just keep helping her find other ways to express her pain. Finally...if all the good advice that people here are giving doesnt work, and you know you cant get her to stop...at least make sure shes safe about it..at least convince her to do as little as possible and not use something bad like a huge knife or something really dirty...  I wish there was more to tell you Im sorry hun
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Sep 18 2004, 09:46 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,102 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,162 |
Cutting can help her stay in control of herself.
It can also help with emotional pain. Ack, I didn't get it at first, but reading The Luckiest Girl in the World really helped. It helped me understand the reasons behind cutting. |
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Sep 18 2004, 11:30 PM
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 say maydayism. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,447 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 26,344 |
It's really wrong.
If you're depressed or stressed, just find someone to talk to and NOT HURTING YOURSELF. |
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Sep 20 2004, 11:01 PM
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 my <3 is in Ohio Group: Member Posts: 899 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,599 |
i was a cutter but stopped about a year ago but i have long since gotten over that. i was like depressed and had a ton of stress with school, and just life in general. what happened with me was i cut myself then the pain got kind of addicting and it felt like it was something i had to do. so yeah just talk to your friends. if it wasn't for my friends i would have never gotten out of that stage. i actually never intended to show anybody but wearing long sleeves all year round may draw suspicion and my friend kinda grabbed my wrist and lifted up my sleeve. and i owe him sooo much because of it.
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Sep 20 2004, 11:05 PM
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what's love anyways.? Group: Member Posts: 297 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,198 |
cutting's just plain wrong. it doesn't do anything but make things worse. if suicide's the deal here, then it's pointless, it shows you're a coward, u gotta face facts and juss try to start over and make the best of what you've got. what i gotta say: suck it up. i take these meetings where i tell cutters not to be cutters and for good reasons, so i strongly stand for that.
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Sep 20 2004, 11:07 PM
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SOS Brigade!! Group: Member Posts: 2,573 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,775 |
my sister use to do it but i don't like her doin it...
i think its wrong.. |
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Sep 22 2004, 06:42 PM
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 I'd like to have u for dinner. Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 23,224 |
NO!! NO!!! CUTTING YOURSELF IS BY NO MEANS AT ALL RIGHT IN ANY WAY AT ALL!!!
I don't know the whole situation, but from what you said I think you need to help your friend and help her STOP CUTTING HERSELF. The only reason it feels like it helps is because it helps relieve the pain by taking away your blood, which harms your body even more. That's like killing yourself after you scrape your knee so you won't feel your knee hurt anymore. Please help your friend stop cutting herself... In my opinion, there are two kinds of people who cut themselves: people who are truly depressed and desperate posers seeking attention. The people who are truly depressed deserve help and the desperate posers deserve to die in the process.  Sorry for being a bit vicious, but I'm that way when it comes to things like cutting.
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Sep 22 2004, 10:38 PM
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 The Bone Collector Group: Member Posts: 2,860 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,162 |
cutting yourself is scary. when i saw thirteen the movie, she was all cutting herself, it effing bleeded a lot! so crazy
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Sep 22 2004, 10:40 PM
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 Want fries with that? Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,652 |
I wouldn't cut myself...if i felt bad about something..i'd confront my pain...stabbing yourself to relieve pain...doesn't really make it go away...does it?
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Sep 23 2004, 02:53 PM
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 no more tears will fall <33 Group: Member Posts: 20 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,590 |
well some of mia frensz do it. ionno ive never done it but i dun think i could stand hurten myself ta relieve pain..i dun get it.
its sad tho. wish i kould help 
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Sep 23 2004, 04:02 PM
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 Feeel X Group: Member Posts: 2,814 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,498 |
no i dont not suggest u ppl going around cutting yourself. because it would hurt and it is not worth it.
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