Steps to take to avoid getting hurt Options

[sweetdreamsx3]

Find Out Where You Stand
The unknown is a powerful force. It can drive you crazy, make you doubt yourself and potentially destroy a relationship. Don`t let this happen to you! Make sure you know where you stand in your relationship. In the same respect, make sure you continually let your partner know where they stand as well. You`ll both be happier, and you`ll have an easier time of communicating to each other.

Don`t Play Mind Games
The person you are involved with, or about to be involved with, is another being -- just like you. Playing mind games is just another way to increase your chances of getting hurt in the end. Personally, I feel that if you are willing to play mind games with a person, then you don`t respect that individual enough for a relationship anyway. So do that person a favor and let him or her go.

Don`t Sleep With Someone You Don`t Know Very Well Yet
This may seem obvious, but for many people it is not. I`ve heard countless requests for advice which involve a person not surewhere they stand with a certain person, yet they`ve been involved intimately with them. Now they are faced with a potential loveless affair, are completely unhappy, and are being driven by the fear of the unknown. No matter what the urge is, if you are interested in someone for more than just a fling, don`t do it until, at the very least, you are clear about the other person`s feelings for you. You can avoid many future downfalls by following this tip!

Be Honest With Each Other
Your honesty, or lack thereof, can either build or destroy your relationship.Be honest with your partner about everything, and expect the same from your partner. Too many times, I see people who have let their partner lie to them about everything, cheat on them, and worse -- yet, they continue to be with them all "in the name of love." That type of love is no love at all. It is clinging to the fact that being with someone, even though they are hurting you, is better than being alone. It is fine, and perfectly reasonable to have strong feelings or affection towards someone, but it is altogether something else when you allow yourself to stay in a relationship that has a negative effect on you.

Don`t Settle
If you know that a person isn`t right for you -- go find someone who is. Don`t wait to see if the relationship could turn into something better. You`ll only find yourself a few years down the line in the same, or in an even worse, situation than you are in now. If you find yourself nit-picking about too many of your partner`s traits early in your relationship, think forward to how much these "traits" will bother you after a few years. A relationship is 50% your responsibility, and 50% your partner`s. Sometimes those numbers change depending on the situation. If you find things going down the wrong path, speak up and do something about it. Don`t let it slide, thinking that things will get better. Proclaimed ignorance is not an excuse. This is YOUR life, don`t be afraid to do things that will make it better.

This should pretty much answer all your questions.

[ichiban]

Hrmm .. those seem really helpful :D

[MrElsewhere]

dose r pretty good..i think dis should be stickied or sumthin..

[sweetdreamsx3]

What's stickied? lol.

[Heathasm]

mind games are some thing i think girls do more often then guys to get attention lol
i usually find myself doing them just subconsciously without even thinking this is driving my bf away from me or hurting him so lately ive put that habbit to rest!

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

um... mind games are awesome....coming from u or the person ur tryin to hook up with, sometimes u should settle oO;

[sweetdreamsx3]

mind games are some thing i think girls do more often then guys to get attention lol
i usually find myself doing them just subconsciously without even thinking this is driving my bf away from me or hurting him so lately ive put that habbit to rest!

Yeah, it's more of a girl's thing, but either way, we shouldn't to avoid getting hurt...haha

[mizzinno]

sticky, pinned= same thing.

i agree with the dont settle thing.

mind games.. hehe

[WhiteLotus*]

That's awesome. I find this much more friendly and more helpful than the Guide To A Relationship one that's been pinned. Someone please pin this.

[x0143637x0]

this is realli helpful. helps a lot.

[sweetdreamsx3]

sticky, pinned= same thing.

i agree with the dont settle thing.

mind games.. hehe

Yeah, the don't settle thing is most of the things I've heard on CB. >.< It's pretty basic. If you feel that it's not working out, dump him and move on. It's like common sense, but some people find it hard to let go.

[silver-rain]

wow, those are really helpful. yeah, this should be pinned or something.

[SarahxJoy]

The first two paragraphs really impressed me, and I agree with them 150%. The first one is where I have the trouble.

[sweetdreamsx3]

The first two paragraphs really impressed me, and I agree with them 150%. The first one is where I have the trouble.

Lol same here. >.< It sucks munkie butts, but ehh, we'll figure it out eventually.

[conster]

awesome haha i hope this helps a lot of ppl

[sweetdreamsx3]

It should answer most of their questions. I had to answer "Don't settle for anything that doesn't feel right" to the majority of their questions. Heh.