i have a problem..., friends ex off limits? |
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 Aug 30 2004, 04:39 PM
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ok my friend dated this kid ryan a couple months ago. they only went out for one month, and we're only 15 so it def wasnt anything serious, plus at the time i also had a boyfriend. now since then, my friend has gotten with 2 other guys, including one of ryan, her ex's, best friends...but still remains friends with ryan. lately, ryan and i have been alot closer, i really consider him one of my best guy friends. he always hints that he would like to be more than friends with me, just casual flirting and such, and i admit i do flirt back. but would it be wrong for me to hook up with him? i'm kind of afraid my other friends will think thats unclassy (i admit, i probably would if it were someone else)... but i do really like him. can someone please give me an outside perspective, because im hesitant to take this issue to a friend (all my friends are really gossipy lol) thanx u so0o0o much!!
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Aug 30 2004, 05:26 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
*shrug*
I don't really see how it would be wrong to go out with him. |
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Aug 30 2004, 05:53 PM
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Talk to your friend about it. And what does them being 15 have to do withthem not having a serious relationship?? I don't see anything wrong with you wanting to go for it... You can't help who you like. Your friend should understand, but it would be best to talk to her about it.
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Aug 30 2004, 06:04 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
My signature will answer all.
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Aug 30 2004, 11:51 PM
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since it didnt work out for him and your friend it might for you, but you might want to let your friend know first
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Aug 31 2004, 02:34 AM
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 carmi Group: Member Posts: 106 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,020 |
go 4 it, if u liek him...but dun hide it frum ur friend- coz it ll spread that ur goin out some how..if she s a real friend - she d b happy 4 u guys
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Aug 31 2004, 02:49 AM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
jus tawk to ur frenz about it...
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Aug 31 2004, 02:56 AM
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 Until the end of time... Group: Member Posts: 456 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 460 |
should talk to ur friend bout it 1st. if she says no n still has some memories with the guy, then back off a bit. friends come first. but she should understand how u feel.
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Aug 31 2004, 03:02 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
well in my case never! but for normal people it depends............ u shouldnt let people limit ur choises.....date whoever u want...but maybe theres a reason why that person is ur best friends ex..... iono depends on the ex....
and yea if ur best friend just got out of a serious relationship with that person, i doubt ur friend would be happy about it at all |
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Aug 31 2004, 12:58 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
just talk to your friend about it before you ask him out or something.
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Aug 31 2004, 01:51 PM
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 dont do it. actually do whatever you want 
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Aug 31 2004, 03:59 PM
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 anGeLgrL53 Group: Member Posts: 27 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,899 |
i would say go for it if u realli lyk the kid. but the bigger picture here is tat can this "relationship" break up the friendship wit the friend tat went out wit the boy?. if u realli have a STRONG friendship wit the girl than i would take a sec n think bout it cuz u dont wanna destroy sumthing tat comes once in a life time (meaning the strong frienship). i wouldnt go out wit my bestfriends ex boyfriends cuz i just dont think its right but in sum situations its ok. ur friends may think its unclassy but lets c wut they would do if they were put in ur situation?.
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Aug 31 2004, 08:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 5,585 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,082 |
Well your friend isn't going out with Ryan anymore and she's into two other guys..unless I read wrong..(It was kinda confusing), so if she's into the other two guys, make your move. :D
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