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 Aug 26 2004, 01:07 AM
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 'The Tiffi'  Group: Member Posts: 99 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,713  |
I posted about this in the girls' locker room, and so far I've had no advice from any of the chickas, so maybe you guys might be able to give me your insight on this...
To sum it up, me and this guy are kinda falling for each other. Problem is, I'll be moving away from him - for good - in 6 months. Not military or anything, but I move around a lot (a new state every few years or so) and we both really like each other. We've known each other for 5 years. What would you guys do in this situation? Would you try to date the girl anyway despite the distance, or would it be best to not go for it at all? |
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Aug 26 2004, 01:14 AM
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Well, everyone is different.
But if I was to be in that case, I'd probably try to start something, but that's just me. After I move, we'd probably end up breaking up with each other. Trust your own judgement. =) |
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Aug 26 2004, 01:14 AM
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best not to do it at all... ppl cheat
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Aug 26 2004, 08:02 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Hm.
I might do something about it. But then again.. I might not. Make sure you let him be able to contact you.. (phone #, IM, email addy, etc..) You can make up your mind then.. or now. I'm not sure what I'd do. I might start something.. but, I don't know.. 
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Aug 26 2004, 08:15 AM
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just end the relationship once u go
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Aug 26 2004, 09:00 AM
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long distance relationship don't usually last.
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Aug 26 2004, 09:55 AM
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QUOTE(aznriceboi @ Aug 26 2004, 10:00 AM) long distance relationship don't usually last. I don't know about that, if you two love each other enough, it'll work out. |
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Aug 26 2004, 11:49 AM
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QUOTE(waccoon @ Aug 26 2004, 10:55 AM) I don't know about that, if you two love each other enough, it'll work out. im not saying that it never last, its just that alot of things you have to take into effect before you actually put in the commitment to go though with the long distance relationship. theres trust, trusting that your signifacant other won't cheat on your while you're away. commitment: if one ones commited to the relationship then it ends because theres no point in going on with it. asking yourself if you REALLY know this person. he or she might be some rapist or some killer that might just be trying to trick you. you could never know. theres more but i can't think of any right now |
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Aug 26 2004, 11:53 AM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
QUOTE(aznriceboi @ Aug 26 2004, 12:49 PM) im not saying that it never last, its just that alot of things you have to take into effect before you actually put in the commitment to go though with the long distance relationship. theres trust, trusting that your signifacant other won't cheat on your while you're away. commitment: if one ones commited to the relationship then it ends because theres no point in going on with it. asking yourself if you REALLY know this person. he or she might be some rapist or some killer that might just be trying to trick you. you could never know. theres more but i can't think of any right now Won't love and trust make it work in the end? If you trust them not to cheat on you and if you love them enough, it'll work out. |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:00 PM
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QUOTE(waccoon @ Aug 26 2004, 12:53 PM) Won't love and trust make it work in the end? If you trust them not to cheat on you and if you love them enough, it'll work out. its depends on how strong it is though |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:01 PM
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i wouldn't you don't know what there doing behind your back
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Aug 26 2004, 12:10 PM
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QUOTE(volcomstone @ Aug 26 2004, 1:01 PM) i wouldn't you don't know what there doing behind your back That's where the trust comes in. I'm in one right now, I love her more than anything and would trust her with my life. |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:17 PM
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QUOTE(waccoon @ Aug 26 2004, 12:10 PM) That's where the trust comes in. I'm in one right now, I love her more than anything and would trust her with my life. well you don't know if she loves you |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:22 PM
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QUOTE(volcomstone @ Aug 26 2004, 1:17 PM) well you don't know if she loves you love could mean a lot of things, it doesn't always have to be a feeling, i looked it up in the dictionary because i was bored. 1. feel affection for 2. enjoy greatly 3. stong affection 4. warm attachment 5. beloved person maybe she might not love him (in your defination of love) but she might care for him or apprieciate him |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:26 PM
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how do you know that she love you?
how do you know shes not using you? |
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Aug 26 2004, 12:32 PM
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personally i wouldn't know, so i can't answer it, ask waccoon. thats why as I said before, "trust" plays a big role in any relationship. without it, it wouldn't last
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Aug 26 2004, 12:36 PM
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sorry i was being stupid
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Aug 26 2004, 12:41 PM
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its ok don't worry about it
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Aug 26 2004, 12:43 PM
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QUOTE(volcomstone @ Aug 26 2004, 1:26 PM) how do you know that she love you? how do you know shes not using you? Nobody would talk with me that much, both on the phone and online, and deal with all my crap if they didn't love me. |
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Aug 26 2004, 02:25 PM
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go with what your heart tells you to, anything can happen if you make it happen.
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Aug 26 2004, 03:02 PM
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yes i would :O , probally try to convince my parents from making me move too :O
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Aug 26 2004, 06:29 PM
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'The Tiffi' Group: Member Posts: 99 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,713 |
Yeah but see I'm kinda livin' on my own - I just have plans to move back to some other states
But I really appreciate all the guys advice on this, love and trust are a definate thing in it, and I definately know he likes me coz he wouldn't have put up with me for over 5 years if he didn't...lol but thx for the posts guys ^.^
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