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 Mar 9 2004, 11:14 PM
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its all on how you are brought up.
if u're a strict follower of The Bible, then no, premarital sex is ok. but considering how there're many other religions and what not, there's no certain answer. who's to say what's really right or wrong? what do we really base our morals and ethics on? just know what you're getting urself into and if ur thinking of premarital sex, use a helmet. |
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Mar 9 2004, 11:30 PM
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who knows
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| *jimmyjackiechan* |
Mar 9 2004, 11:52 PM
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i think the votes are gonna come in mostly no, but it's easier for every one to say no than to actually do it. it's like smokers, u know darn well it's bad, but people still do it~
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Mar 10 2004, 01:20 AM
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 i'll treat you like milk.. i'll do nothing but spoil you Group: Member Posts: 257 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 577 |
i think that its ok just as long as both are doing it for LOVE and not for LUST.. talking about it before doing something is a great idea too.. you have to know if the other person is ready and most importantly if you are ready yourself..
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Mar 10 2004, 01:53 AM
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 AYYEEEE =] Group: Member Posts: 103 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,377 |
well to me, "WHO CARES"
if dey are fine with it, go ahead. xP |
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Mar 10 2004, 02:04 AM
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 !shobe! Group: Member Posts: 664 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 5,912 |
well.. it's kinda "iffy" because different people have different beliefs and backgrounds...
imho, if people really love each other and consent to it, then it's fine.. but if it's coerced, then no. |
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Mar 10 2004, 10:45 AM
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At least for me it's OK even tho I'm a Catholic...If there's love and trust I don't see a reason why not try sex..
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Mar 10 2004, 11:49 AM
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 wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
the reason not to try it is because there are risks involved...
Pregnancy STDs AIDS There are thousands of cases for pregnancies and STD's every year. Mainly because people are not being responsible for their actions... and then abortions come in... which could have been prevented if they hadn't been having sex too soon in the first place. And as I said earlier, no form of birth control is 100% effective except for abstinence. So I say, if you think you're ready for sex... you should also feel that you're ready to have a child... in case that does happen. If not, then I don't think you're ready, and obviously shouldn't be having sex yet. |
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Mar 10 2004, 11:55 AM
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QUOTE(xquizit @ Mar 10 2004, 4:49 PM) the reason not to try it is because there are risks involved... Pregnancy STDs AIDS There are thousands of cases for pregnancies and STD's every year. Mainly because people are not being responsible for their actions... and then abortions come in... which could have been prevented if they hadn't been having sex too soon in the first place. And as I said earlier, no form of birth control is 100% effective except for abstinence. So I say, if you think you're ready for sex... you should also feel that you're ready to have a child... in case that does happen. If not, then I don't think you're ready, and obviously shouldn't be having sex yet. so i guess you've slightly changed your argument from "premaritial sex is wrong" to "sex without thinking about the consequences is wrong". I'm not sure about the first one, but I agree with the latter 
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| *AngelicEyz00* |
Mar 10 2004, 06:11 PM
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If you're gonna have sex, then do it, but at least be smart about it and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons (if there are any "right" reasons
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Mar 12 2004, 11:30 AM
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I understand that there are risks involved..So if I don't wanna have a child EVER then I shouldn't be having sex at all, xquizit??
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Mar 12 2004, 01:20 PM
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rookie Group: Member Posts: 723 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,291 |
QUOTE(ana8 @ Mar 12 2004, 4:30 PM) I understand that there are risks involved..So if I don't wanna have a child EVER then I shouldn't be having sex at all, xquizit?? That's what SHE believes. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. Do what you think is right for yourself and your partner. |
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Mar 12 2004, 06:21 PM
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QUOTE(tkproduce @ Mar 9 2004, 12:45 PM) i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway. are you trying to say that a "title" is just a bunch of crock? i'm not getting mad or anything because i've heard this before. |
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Mar 12 2004, 06:22 PM
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LuShuZxLaNa Group: Member Posts: 606 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,854 |
QUOTE(jimmyjackiechan @ Mar 9 2004, 1:35 AM) So many people fall into tempation~ yeah, people do fall in temptations, but you know, they AT LEAST have to know when to stop. but even if they do have sex at an early age, i sure hope they protect themselves!! |
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Mar 12 2004, 06:40 PM
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I think it's wrong because when you do meet the "one" and you get married, it's so much more meaningful than if you were doing it previously.
Plus, what if you're stuck with a baby? Most of the time, you're on your own when it comes to that. But also people believe what they like, so that's only my opinion. |
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Mar 13 2004, 12:33 PM
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I understand all of this..But when can you be sure that you met ur second half??? And as to marriages, more and more of them are conculed with divorce..
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Mar 14 2004, 10:24 PM
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 specail jello Group: Member Posts: 236 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,143 |
i think that u should wait. If u love them and they love u they should respect u enough to wait with u.
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Mar 14 2004, 10:25 PM
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 and so it is Group: Human Posts: 1,304 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,085 |
i'd rather not, considering i'm Christian and yea. but nowadays, evrybody seems 2 b doing it (u can't help but feel a lil bit intimidated!) i dunno, i'm gonna TRY and not hav sex be4 marriage but u nvr know....
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Mar 14 2004, 10:28 PM
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Sex is just a small part of any relationship. You gotta master the others before even thinking about it.
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Mar 14 2004, 10:32 PM
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I don't think its ok (and I am speaking for myself) to have sex before marraige. If you ARE gunna have sex before marraige, you should at least make sure the person is the one your gunna marry.
And me being religious person..yea... and then theres the chance if you get pregnant... *rambles on and on* When you have sex with a person, its like giving a part of yourself to them (*being sappy and poetic*) |
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Mar 14 2004, 11:31 PM
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A-OK by moi!
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Mar 15 2004, 02:22 PM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(conair @ Mar 14 2004, 10:28 PM) Sex is just a small part of any relationship. You gotta master the others before even thinking about it. very true. |
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Mar 16 2004, 03:59 PM
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QUOTE(tkproduce @ Mar 9 2004, 12:45 PM) i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway. tax benefits, sign of loyalty, fidelity etc. |
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Mar 16 2004, 05:02 PM
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rookie Group: Member Posts: 723 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,291 |
QUOTE(kryogenix @ Mar 16 2004, 8:59 PM) tax benefits, sign of loyalty, fidelity etc. exactly. and who's going to know if that loyality/fidelity is actually true or not? |
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Mar 16 2004, 08:58 PM
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 i don't know where i am Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,169 |
QUOTE I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married. So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong. isn't that kinda early to be having sex?  whelp. i don't think you shood have it till after marraige, cuz then if you get pregnant or something...EEK!
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