friendship, just a bunch of ups and downs Options

[HaN4RaNg]

this friend i have is pretty cool but we have gone through some tough times. i feel like we're not getting anywhere in this friendship.. its like we build up our friendship to the point where i just think i cant live without him, but then we get into a huge argument that just crumbles everything up causing us to start over again. this has happened sooo much and im just getting sick of it. i hate getting into fights with him but when we're not, we're so tight with eachother. i dont know what to do with this guy .

[f00LisH_h3aRt63]

ive been in this situation too. my friend cicely and i are best friends but in the beginning of our friendship, i noticed that we fought a lot with each other. and the same feeling was when we weren't fighting we were close as hell. i got soo tired of it that i made the decision to end the friendship because all it was doing was giving me stress that i just didnt need. i told her that i didnt wanna be friends with her but she didnt accept it. so we had this really really really long talk about why we fight and all that kinda stuff. that talk seemed to help because 5 years later we are still best friends who yes still fight. so my suggestion to you is to just talk to your friend and try and figure out whats going on.

i hope this helps.

jackie

[Foolish Heart]

I agree with Jackie.

-hEaRt <3

[designergurlxx]

i agree with evry1...talk to this guy and ull work sumthin owt 2gether

[nlgrl]

talk to him... dont be scared or nervous^^ you dont wanna lose a good friend

[slurp]

as you say, in a friendship there are many ups&downs. having arguments may stronger or weaken your friendship, its how you handle it i guess. talk to him and try to work things out

[sheepy]

i noe wut u mean. try to talk to him about what you feel, nd sooner or later it'll b okay mayb just a misunderstanding.. maybe just try to go somewhere fun nd forget all the worries..

[LiL_RiZZLe]

friendship always has it's ups and downs...it's not perfect...but u should confront him and tell him y u don't like fighting with him...mayb he'll understand and mayb u guys won't fight as much anymore....

[conster]

well... dont think of the arguments as a bad thing.. i mean thats what brings u two so close.. argument is a type of communication u knoe?? i guess jus talk it out wit ur friend and see wut u guys can do

[xsweetdreams12x]

My friend with one of my best friends. We get into a lot of little stupid fights, and once we got into this MAJOR fight. Now we're okay, but I always try to work the initiative to make up.

IM him and talk. Don't try to hold back your opinion just because you don't want to fight. Just don't boast about it and keep acting like your way is the right way.

[babixlilac]

jus talk to him bout it..if he wanna do anything bout it

[*x____duckii*]

Just talk to him about it and tell him what you feel. If he does something like tells your secrets to someone else or abuses you all the time (verbally or physically), it's time to move on. Trust me, friends fight because friends care about each other Hope I helped

[Darkpekkle]

it seems that you have a very valuable friendship, so don't give up on it so easily! have a nice, long chat with him and talk out the things you argue about the most... and try not to raise your voice or make too many accusations against him, otherwise he'll get mad and won't listen to you. maybe you guys can reach a compromise and avoid topics that would throw you two into a big fight.

friendships are meant to have ups and downs, otherwise you won't learn anything from each other, and quite frankly, the relationship would be boring without the little arguments here and there. we're only human, so differences in opinion are normal.

[Luster Soldier]

Is he a guy that you can have a good talk with? If he has a bad temper then don't even discuss the issue with him. It's gonna result to a worse fight.

If it's giving you more stress than you want, end it, and find a friendship that you can gain happiness from.