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 go sf giants!!  Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,718  |
i dont want to sound like a total loser, but the truth is, ive never had a relationship with a guy. i really like this one dude, but i dont know how to approach him. im bad with 'flirting'. i dont know how to do it. anyone want to give me pointers? i want him to like me, not think im a weirdo or anything. please help!! thanks!
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Jun 17 2004, 05:16 AM
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go sf giants!! Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,718 |
how come no one ever replies to me? =[ please. i really need feedback.
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Jun 17 2004, 05:23 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 421 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,135 |
you could just tell him you like him. That way you'll find out if he has any of those feelings towards you.
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Jun 17 2004, 11:59 AM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
well there is no way of *flirting*... try to talk to him juss like you would a good friend... soon you might start flirting... juss be yourself!! if he doesnt like you for who you are... this guy is not good enough for you anyways!!
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Jun 17 2004, 12:20 PM
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 Quand j'étais jeune... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 6,826 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,272 |
How old are you? You think you're a loser because you never had a relationship with a guy? Do you think that girls who date lots of guys are cool then?
 If you're bad at flirting, then don't even try it, it'll make you look like.. you're trying to hard. Let things flow... |
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Jun 17 2004, 12:23 PM
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 Carried away Group: Member Posts: 356 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,462 |
Just bunch up some courage and go talk to him. Dunno, if he's in a sports team, ask him how they did, or if you both like the same... lets say, baseball team, you can just alwyas go up to him and say "How 'bout them Yankees?"
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Jun 17 2004, 12:31 PM
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 Ai = Love. No Duh. Group: Member Posts: 251 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,162 |
Just talk to him or something.
B/c once you do... I think it's easy after that!!  And then maybe, instead of you going up to him, he'll come up to you! |
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Jun 17 2004, 12:41 PM
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 why did i put this here? Group: Member Posts: 118 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,609 |
QUOTE(rae @ Jun 17 2004, 12:31 PM) Just talk to him or something. B/c once you do... I think it's easy after that!! And then maybe, instead of you going up to him, he'll come up to you! wut she said |
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Jun 17 2004, 12:55 PM
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 old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
Get to know him first =] Always works.
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Jun 17 2004, 01:05 PM
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 it's our chemistry Group: Member Posts: 1,151 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,775 |
It's fine to not have had relationships with guys before. Don't worry- that doesn't make you uncool. =] Actually, I gotta say, flirting won't help you here. Girls flirt all the time, and some are "better" than others. If you just flirt with him, you'll end up becoming another one of the crowd, undistiguishable to him. Instead try to get to know him first. The best conversation starter is simply, "*smile* hey, my name is..." Don't gab away, let him get some talking in, though. Guys like girls who are interested in what they're saying (and possibily themselves) so listen to him, smile, comment, and just let the conversation flow... Once you get to know him, you'll probably start to "flirt" naturally. It's simply how comfortable you are around him. And to be comfortable- be yourself! If he doesn't like you for who you are, he isn't worth your time. And if things don't work out romantically, hey, you've got yourself a new guyfriend, right? ^_^
Good luck, be yourself, and go for it! |
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Jun 17 2004, 01:40 PM
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 and then he died... Group: Member Posts: 338 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,047 |
therez nothing* wrong with never had any relationship b4. and you r not a loser. dont say that.
if you wanna get with this guy. tlak 2 him more often. and be yourself. if you are not so good at flirting. just let it flow. dont push it. raise up your confidence if possible. pretend if necessary. i have no confidence. but lots people say i look conceited. [like.. wow!] right attitude and be confident in youself. thatz really the way to get a guy to notice you. |
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Jun 17 2004, 02:17 PM
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 Chibi Dreamer Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,194 |
Just be yourself because if he doesn't like you for you then he isn't worth it at all. It's ok if this would be your first time to come on to a guy, there's always a first time for everything! Just act how you do with anyone else.
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Jun 17 2004, 03:43 PM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
when you're around him just try to stay calm and remember, be yourself!. just talk to him and keep on smiling. he'll flirt back.
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Jul 7 2004, 07:50 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
mayb u could like get to noe him more so u guys become closer friends nd c wut happens
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Aug 5 2004, 11:54 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 48 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,828 |
Hey, no worries! I've never had a relationship with a guy before, one that I'd count anyway. I had this problem a while back, how to approach him. Everytime I saw him, I would be SO scared. Btw, how well do you know him? I think it sorta depends on how well ya know him. Does he send you any "signals?" Like do you catch him staring at you all the time or always wanting to talk to you and help you and stuff? I think, the most important thing, is to think before you act. Think before you act and to follow your heart. I've got more ideas, but I've gotta jet now, my bro's kicking me off the computer. Urgh. Good luck!
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Aug 6 2004, 12:05 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
hehe
dont worry! i never had a relationship with a guy in that way before either. but when i did like this one guy. i acted myself and talked to him about sports too we were both interested in hockey and then i dont' call it flirting but we started to tease each other a lot and then he liked me back too! but unfortunately by that time i liked someone else 
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Aug 6 2004, 12:09 AM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
just be who u are, u cant make him like u if u guys jus dont click rite? if u guys click then u jus do... its ok if he doesnt like u back theres more guys... but be who u are thats the best cuz then... wen ur urself.. ur comfortable
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Aug 6 2004, 12:23 AM
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You know, you really don't need to flirt with him to talk to him.
Just thought you'd like to know that. - Moved to Relationships - - Chinkieeyedpnoi |
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Aug 6 2004, 12:44 AM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
strike a conversation with him,and then just go on from there. flirting is just something u do to "interact" with someone, there is really no "right" way to flirt.
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Aug 6 2004, 04:30 AM
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 life is short...and so am i.. Group: Member Posts: 176 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,316 |
flirting isnt something really written in a book. its just being around someone and talking, playing around, letting them see what a great person you are.......this may sound so corny but just be yourself.....and if you're shy....try to be a little more outspoken........but dont change who you are....smiling always helps too
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Aug 6 2004, 11:45 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,051 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,264 |
I've never had a boyfriend either, but I'm not a loser... at least I don't think I am.
 Just be yourself, and talk to him. Smile, laugh, and all the stuff that may turn him on. |
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Aug 6 2004, 12:06 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,102 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,162 |
Like others said, just be yourself.
Maybe start talking to him online first, then talk to him. Just show that you're happy you're talking to him and smile.
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Aug 7 2004, 04:17 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 39 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,286 |
no point of flirting if ur gonna do it badly....but if u really want to flirt ya gotta jus loosen up...and laugh at his jokes...but don't overdo it...be nice and sweet....but not TOO much....either he'll make a move or u will ur choice
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