Depressed..., what do I do? |
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 Aug 4 2004, 09:28 AM
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I've been dating this guy for a couple days short of a year now...I loved him a year ago. I'm not so sure I do now. But I truely care about him and I've tried to breakup with him before and he took it very harshly. He still loves me...
It gets worse tho...I'm falling for his friend. I have NO idea what to do... *confused* 
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Aug 4 2004, 10:32 AM
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haha. Wow. That's messed up on your part.
You shouldn't have gotten back together with him. No matter how bad he took it. tsk tsk tsk - Chinkieeyedpnoi |
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Aug 4 2004, 11:58 AM
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There was a reason you wanted to break up with him.
Remember it? Good, now tell the guy that reason, and don't look back. As for his friend, well, stay away from him for awhile. You don't want to make things worse by immediately dating with your ex's best friend. |
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Aug 4 2004, 12:00 PM
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first of all...u shouldn't b stuck w/ sumone u don't love....mayb the careness and the love u feel for him is in a friend way...relationships r so hard to hold on to that the love is soo hard to keep between u 2...u need to break up w/ him...and do it gently...mayb tell him the exact same thing i jus said...and that ya jus wanna b friends...as for liking hiz friend...u went a little overboard there...u need to jus give it some time...cuz if ya really care about him, then ya gotta wait a while...if ya go out w/ him now, he might b seriously pissed and start spreading rumors about ya...so jus give it a while...hope this advice helps!
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Aug 5 2004, 01:45 AM
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i seriously agree with u!!..well yes u should be stuck w/ someone ya dont love..becuz nothing will turn out right..and if u don't love him nemore..than i say u should break it off w/ him..even if his feelings are hurt..cuz it's wrong on ur part to be havin a relationship w/ him if you don't even love him..cuz the guy all this time thinks you love him..when u really don't..so..the #1 thing to do..is to break up w/ him..and .. if you like his friend...i say you should just cool things down after you break it off w/ him..like say..a month or so..or whenever he's over you..and to make him over you..you should be his friend..tell him how you really feel..so he'll understand..don't just leave him hangin..the more u explain how u feel to him..the more he'll be ok w/ the break up..and be4 u go for his friend..i say u talk that over w/ him too..and see if he's ok w/ it..so everything will be fine with everyone..hope this helped! good luck!!
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Aug 5 2004, 02:56 AM
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 muted imperfections <3 Group: Official Member Posts: 3,295 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,260 |
this is a messed up situation you put urself in. but your gonna make more things a lot more complicated if you decided to start things with his friend. that'll seriously give you a crap load of drama.
 jackie
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Aug 5 2004, 10:20 AM
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This all seems alot more easilly said than done. I'm falling hard for his friend. I know his friend almost as well as I know him. We talk all the time.
And breaking up with Bryan is going to be super tough...plus I don't want to make a mistake and breakup with him only to find out that I was taking what we have for granite or something and I still love him. I'm confused.
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Aug 5 2004, 11:19 AM
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 Dark Lord of McCandless Group: Member Posts: 2,226 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,761 |
Suicide, mind-altering drugs, etc. There are many options open to you.
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Aug 5 2004, 11:44 AM
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Somehow I don't think so...
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Aug 5 2004, 03:00 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
uh... thats not right lol break up wit ur bf and dont see his friend for a while... its unfair to ur bf that u like his friend and not him
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Aug 5 2004, 04:37 PM
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By getting back together with him only becaue he took it badly, was a BIG mistake. You should've just told him that there are "plenty of fishes in the sea, and he's bound to love another."
The purpose of your life is not to please this guy, and stay with him until HE feels like breaking up with you. You should dump this guy no matter how hard he's gonna take it this time around. Don't date his friend, until it's clear your ex has gotten over the break-up. If you ask his friend out, you can probably mess up their relationship, and you don't wanna do that, right?! |
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Aug 5 2004, 09:36 PM
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Just broke up with him...not gonna date his friend tho...
So confused. 
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Aug 5 2004, 09:43 PM
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Good job. Why are you confused? I don't get it you should feel relieved. I hope he took it okay and you got out everything you need to say.
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Aug 6 2004, 03:34 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
you can't help who you fall for. if your heart isn't in it anymore than break it off with him. the longer you stay around the more it'll hurt him and you later. sooner or later he'll find out that you're liking his friend so you have to make a choice. if you feel he's worth it and you could have something great with his friend than go for it. but if you really respect his feelings and care about how he feels on the matter speak to him first about it and see what he has to say. but ultimately you should do what's best for YOU.
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Aug 6 2004, 04:20 AM
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hm well pretty messed up... shouldn't haf gotten bak 2gether wit him..
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Aug 6 2004, 11:38 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 81 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,576 |
Thanks for the advice! But I'm definatly not even going to tell his friend for awhile. This hurt Bryan pretty bad and I just can't hurt him anymore right now. I just can't do it.
Kara
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Aug 6 2004, 12:12 PM
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MiCHELLEY. Group: Member Posts: 164 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,846 |
uh oh . :] bad situation .
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Aug 10 2004, 11:09 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 81 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,576 |
definatly
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Aug 10 2004, 11:10 AM
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 who again? Group: Member Posts: 555 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,458 |
QUOTE(KaraBaby @ Aug 4 2004, 9:28 AM) I've been dating this guy for a couple days short of a year now...I loved him a year ago. I'm not so sure I do now. But I truely care about him and I've tried to breakup with him before and he took it very harshly. He still loves me... It gets worse tho...I'm falling for his friend. I have NO idea what to do... *confused* wait, you loved him a year ago? wow, dont tell him that, but your going to have to be honest, your b/f loves you alot then, its best to tell him already, before he gets more hurt. |
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Aug 10 2004, 11:17 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Eek.
Messed-upness... Well, since you said you broke up with him, that's just the first step.. Do you still have feelings for the other d00d? |
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Aug 10 2004, 11:21 AM
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well maybe you have to tell him that u dont have feelings for him anymore?
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Aug 10 2004, 02:14 PM
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dont forget to smiLe today Group: Member Posts: 336 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,095 |
maybe say this relationship isnt working out. dont go out with his friend iMMEDiATELY. give it a couple weeks so it wont be like you dumped him and went after his friend really fast.
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Aug 19 2004, 09:37 PM
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break up wit tha guy. & go out with hiz friend. tht eazy! hahaha
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Aug 19 2004, 10:41 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
You broke up with him? Good job. You hurt him pretty bad? Eh, he will get over it. He kills himself? YOur fault.
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Aug 24 2004, 04:25 PM
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 Mmm..Meat :D Group: Member Posts: 326 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,086 |
If you don't like him anymore, you should break up with him. It would hurt you if you continued to date because you know you don't love him and it would hurt you boy because he knows you don't like him.
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