sex Options

[Corianboi]

Face it guy's hormones are out of control when they hit puberty, and girls from a young age want boyfirends, and this is not everyone but the majority. Sooo if anything, you should support and educate the child...that is best...the biggest mistake parents make is that they forgot they were kids too.

[aud_chua]

i'd beat the living crap out of my kids if they had sex while they're piss drunk! lolz..!!
but seriously... i think that parents should talk about sex with their kids and explain what happens and like.. the consequences.. that way, kids can make an informed decision.. of course i wouldn't allow them to have sex when they're not yet 18... really now! i don't believe that all people are mature enough at that age. all i'm saying is that they should be responsible for their actions. i don't want my kid to have sex with someone then get in trouble, i.e. have babies or contract STD's. that's just wrong....
if the main issue in question here is pre-marital sex, i think that it's alright as long as they they know what they're getting into and that both parties consented to it.

[Spirited Away]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

Uh, that's all fine and dandy you believe in something, but don't be calling what other people believe in "shit".

I happen to believe in that "shit" for myself, even though I don't think that's going to be the case for me. Some people believe strongly in saving their virginity for someone special, and that takes a hell lot more will than giving into your physical desires.

[[i]LLMATiC]

ya my moms tells me that if im gonna b havin sex that i shud b responsible `nd have safe sex wit condoms

[princess2113]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

uhh i believe in that...its not sh*t

[flip_dorkette]

i think its completely fine. you SHOULD have sex when your ready. why miss your chance, if your in love.

im going to tell my kids that to.

i dont care about that waiting till your married sht.

i`d say the same .. and if i myself have any kids, i`ll tell them that it`s fine to have sex; as long as they`re responsible about it and i meet whoever they`re going out with to be sure that they`re not just gonna be fxcking some man-whore/slut.. i`m christian, but i`m not really into my own religion .. so yea.. i learn from everyday life instead of obeying something all these people say you should listen to.. sex after marrige? good choice.. good choice.. but i`d say it`s up to a person if they want to save their virginity or not. i think you should save yourself for someone you know you truly care for.. ((weather you`re married or unmarried you should at least feel like you`re sure about eachother)) but hey, that`s just my oppinion.. people don`t have to keep their virginity if they don`t want to.. .. but it`d be nice.. and i`d tell my kids that it`s up to them; but it`d be appretiated by most if they`d wait. it`s not exactly encouragment.. it`s approval and to the kid it`s a sign that they can be open about it; instead of being secretive.

[Guarneri]

puhahaha... even if my parents encouraged me to go and sleep around, I WOULDN'T DO IT.

why? cause i'm smarter than that.

[whomps]

sume parents tell their kids its ok to have sex when their ready.....do u think thats ok??? for parents to like...encourage them to have sex? will u tell ur kids thats ok???

It's not exactly 'encouraging' them to have sex. More like.. giving them the thumbs up when they finally decide to do it. I think that's okay.

[KaraBaby]

OK this is the way I think...
I think that that advice is good. If you know your parents are going to KILL you if they found out if you had sex then that's just a reason to keep it from them. Wouldnt you rahter know if your child was having sex than have her sneak around and do it behind your back? You should STRESS waiting until marriage. But don't threaten.

*trying to he helpful*

[sammi rules you]

They're not really encouraging it, they're telling you not to, actually. They're saying, "If you know you're not old enough or ready for the responsibility of possibly having a kid, then don't have sex." I'll be telling my kids it's Ok to have sex when they're ready. I don't wanna be like, "YOU KIDS WILL DIE VIRGINS BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HAVE SEX! RAWRRR!!!" cause that's just mean.

[pbear]

^ What Sammi said.
Especially since my parents have brainwashed me into the whole abstinence thing.
I want my kids to be able to choose for themselves.

[Spirited Away]

^^ Next thing you know your 10 year old will be humping his/her girlfriend/boyfriend because his/her Mom is so cool about letting him/her have sex when he/she is ready.

[xtiffysweetzx]

my parents never wanted me to have sex b4 im married...bein raised dat way doesnt necessarily mean ull grow up dat way..i mean..look at me..lol...but yeah...i think kids r gonna do it anyway...parents might as well teach them bout protection n STDs n wha not

[shawty_redd]

well parents dont exactly encourage their kdis to have sex. i know my friends' parents are like i dont like it but i cant stop you, just use protection. its not really encouraging them, but if someone wants to have sex, they will no matter what their parents say. the only person who can stop you is yourself. its not like the parents are like go ahead and have sex.

i completely agree

[Spirited Away]

Parents who say "have sex when you're ready" or those that do not dissuade their children from sex until they're older than 16 or 18 are basically saying "go ahead and have sex". The least you can do, as a responsible parent--or even as a mature adult, is to tell your children about the consequences of sex: STDs, unwanted pregnancy, whatnot.

[Guarneri]

that's bad parenting.

if you want to be a good parent and you want your kids to grow up and become respectable persons, then you should encourage abstinence right from the beginning. abstinence will teach self discipline, higher standards and morals, self-value, commitment, and etc.

guidance is what kids need. guidance is what parents give. telling them "when they're ready" is not guiding. kids don't know what being ready is.

[[i]LLMATiC]

If you think about it its not reallie encouragement . encouragement would b to buy them condoms.. my friends mom buys him condoms but yea i think its when there ready

[Chlorie]

no, i think that this is how aid and hiv got started....bad parenting

[Devastation]

sex is cool.

[Devastation]

and u posted on another topic about intellectual replies?
pertaining to topic: i believe in abstinence+

lol, intellectual replies dont always have to intellectual, sex is cool is refraining as either the thought of sex or in the process of it. sex pertains to either pleasure or need.

[Chlorie]

You go girl...abstinence all the way!

[elmogurly]

my solution...have sex when you get married. so that you can get married and say that your losing your virginity to someone that you have vowed to be with forever and ever. that's something special you can share with your spouse.

[Spirited Away]

sex is cool.

Not when your 11 year old is having sex with her 29 year old teacher.

[xmissrachiex]

i have many friends that believe in saving themselves for marriage, I respect this opinion but I don't believe in it. This opinion also includes not living with someone till you're married to them and I don't agree with this either. Marrying someone means spending the rest of your life with them, and I know that now, you can get a divorce as easily as you get married but that shouldn't affect the vows you make. Sex is a big part of a relationship and if you get married and find that you aren't happy with your wife or husband, too bad, because you're stuck with them.

This is why I believe that you should have sex when you're ready, not when you're married. If it means you're not ready till you're married, then fine, that's ok. But I don't think marriage should determine when you have sex. It should be you're own decision.

What if you're still not ready when you get married. What should you do then?

[princess2113]

Not when your 11 year old is having sex with her 29 year old teacher.

lmao