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[WishinguponmySta...]

I have been going out with this boy for about 7 months. I met him through a friend and we hit it off good, well I thought so. The first week we went out I really couldn't be with him because my parents wanted to meet him before I drive with him. He wanted to pick me up from work because I work late nights. My dad said he couldn't but he still came to visit me. I called him after I was done and he said he was going to the mall with his ex girlfriend! I kinda got pissed at him because I know how she is and I thought she would make a huge move on him and he would go for it, cause he still likes her. Well then the next day I worked all day and it was like from 12 to 10 and I called him to tell him I was on my dinner. He said he was already there and for me to come down. Well when I came down he wasn't alone, he had his ex there AGAIN, but the thing that really pissed me off was she was wearing his hat.... .......I think my boyfriend got the hint after I walked away and would not talk to him, because he hasn't talked to her since, or atleast that I know of. That was just in the beginning of our relationship. There are so many other things he did but he didn't care about my feelings or what not. One time I was baby sitting my nephew who wasn't even a year old and I slept over, well he texted me at 3 in the morning to tell me that he is getting high with a girl he likes. I wouldn't talk to him for two days and I bitched him out, but then he got the nerve to get mad at me for bitching him out. I ask him if he did anything with her but he said no. Lately I have been getting in these bitchy moods and taking it out on him, but when I get like this he will ignore me and treat me so meanly. I mean sometimes he will ask why do I look the way I look, and that I should lose some weight, but he says he is trying to help, when it just hurts my feelings. I know I am a lil big I weigh about 160, but its not really fat its just like a thing in the family, I can't freakin help it! I am like afraid to wear anything like shorts or a bathing suit because he might say something. Well anyways, yesterday I saw him looking at this girl and I said something and he wouldn't talk to me, he turned the music up in the car and ignored me, he dropped me off at my house and just left. I mean this isn't the first time I've seen him, and sometimes he will even tell me she is hot!! I am not kidding, he would be like wow she is really hot, or he tells me he would like to talk to her. So he came back after he left and we fought. I yelled at him about how he makes me feel so low and I feel like I am nothing to him and if he loves me so much he wouldn't look at other girls, well his repsone was I can't help it I am a guy!!!!!! That is no freaking excuse!!!!!! He told me I have issues and he knows I am depressed and that I am on meds. He blams it on my meds and doesn't take any responseiblity. I told him I wanted to break up because he wanted to too. When I was at work he came in and told me he couldn't stand not being with me I said ok and that we should talk later. After work he picked me up and brought me flowers. We never did talk. Then this morning I couldn't find my phone and found out that I left it in his car. He texted my sisters address telling me that he was going to the animal rescue lege. That kinda pissed me off because he told me he was going to come over in the morning and be with me before he goes to work. Now he said he will come over at 3 a half an hour before he has to go to work to change. I really don't know if I can take this much longer. But whenever I go to break it off I get totally upset and want to be back with him and I will end up going with him. I wish I could change his ways but I tell him about it and its like it never even sinks in. :sigh: sometimes I just wanna kill myself to get it all over and done with.

[Levy2k6]

if i were you.... i'd do something about it.

and i think u posted this in the wrong section...

[*krnxswat*]

moved to relationships.

If I were you, I'd break him with him. Isn't it obvious he doesn't care about you? (Sorry for the harsh words). He still likes his girlfriend. There's nothing you can do about it. Just break it off.. until he gets over her or something. I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

[rnrn897]

whoaaaa... when u guys talk to each other is it kinda like - bitching? in realtionships.. u gotta work problems out with each other [not bitching] -if u already tried..and he doesnt want to then.. fuq it, break up with him . _ .
he doesnt seem to take u seriously

*ooh : try doing wut he does and see how he feels :T

[WildGriffin]

omg, just break up with him.

seriously.

don't disillusion yourself into thinking you can change him, cause that'll just leave you in a crappy relationship.

jesus christ..the answer is so simple yet you still beat yourself up over it.

**I read your xanga just for the fun of it....and all I have to say is "wtf"? Your xanga idolizes this guy. Are you just looking for pity or something?

[mouse_3k]

well if hes makin u feel so low and all, u shouldnt be with him. u deserve someone better. plz, find someone better. I dont want him to do something stupid tht will make u feel so low, it would hurt u. this guy sounds like a ass

[Levy2k6]

tell him "BOY, GO MAKE ME A SANDWICH"... if he doesn't get you one... then it wasnt meant to be.

if he does, atleast you know he brings u food.

[WishinguponmySta...]

lol thats funny, but he would do that if I told him, he cleans up after me and does the dishes at my house.

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

just break it up with him- i mean the onli time he was nyce to you was when he didnt have you. seriously he doesnt seem to care and if he does he wouldnt ignore you! seriously i advise you break up and evn if he wants you back just say no, itll be better off eventually, or righht away

[sandra]

at the moment, u are not happy being with him. instead u feel like breaking it off b/c he doesnt care. u should break it off cuz the relation isnt going well. there should be no bitching involved, try talking it out with him. in this case, he ignores u so that bbbad. break it off, u shouldnt be upset or anything

[Brneydgrl]

OK, woah! Wayyy to many things wrong with what you explained. Please sweetie, break up with him, because plain and simple this is abuse. Abuse doesn't always have to be hitting. PLUS, if you are with him and he gets caught with weed, surprise! Ur going to jail too.

I know I'm being harsh, but this mirrors the relationship I stayed in for 2 years, and when I finally broke up with him, I was a mess, literally. In counseling. Plz sweetie, get out now.

And I used to be 30 pounds overweight. If you feel like you should lose it, talk to your doctor and do it. But never change for someone else. It seems like this guy knows that you'll go back to him every time, and he's just using you for kicks.

I'd be more than happy to support you, find me on AOL at brneydgrl185, or email at sami_blade@yahoo.com. I know what it's like, and you don't have to live this way.

[talentedbabe04]

i think you should break up w/ him and just forget about him. he obviously is not a good boyfriend. and from what you wrote, he sounds pretty stupid. you could find someone else to love and he wouldn't treat you like sh*t lol or if you want revenge.. you could get a really good friend and treat your boyfriend how he's been treating you. but i think you should really just forget him and move on. he's no good. just let his ex have him.. i hope you can get over him.

[> [ a k i k o...]

Listen to us and break it off with him as soon as possible. Have you heard of the the abusive dating cycle? well..sorry to inform you but your relationship kinda falls under this topic.

so first stage is the "honeymoon"-- he'll be really nice to you and all that crap
then he'll become possessive and mean, putting you down and such ( calling you fat)
then you find that you are mad at him, but you can't break up with him because he tries to win you back with the flowers and gifts.
the last stage is violence: I mean, he has already shown these signs and I don't want you to get hurt. He might hurt you. I mean, he has already emotionally.

Anyways, you're better off single. I bet you were much happier when you were single and didn't meet him. NO guy is worth it if he hurts you emotionally or phyiscally. A relationship is suppose to be understanding and helping each other. Not calling each other names and puts down. And NOT "cheating" on each other. Obviously this guy has some major problems. for example: he can't committ himself to anything, he can't keep track of this life, he's not there for you, and he cheats and puts you down. BREAK IT OFF!! before it gets worst or something worst happens.

Meet some better people

[laur3nw]

move on with your life
im sure youll be much happier with someone else who actually does care for you
its not worth staying with him if he always hurts you like that

[*Azarel*]

omg, just break up with him.

seriously.

don't disillusion yourself into thinking you can change him, cause that'll just leave you in a crappy relationship.

jesus christ..the answer is so simple yet you still beat yourself up over it.

I concur.

[conster]

break up wit him, at least go on a break... hey its ok if he checks out other girls.. yeah well i would side wit him on that one.. u knoe wut u do? go check out guys, whether ur really doing it or on purpose do it anyways and ur reason is cuz im a girl =)

if a guy cant respect u wit ur looks and who u are... he aint worth ur time