love is overrated, !!! Options

[*Kathleen*]

it won't matter how old you are because it will all end in heartache.

Mmm my good friend has been going out with her current and first boyfriend for four years now. They started when they were about twelve. They truly love each other, and they're quite happy with each other. I know tons of older couples that love each other a lot, and that certainly isn't heartache.

On the other hand, I completely agree with you. I've had about three or four relationships, and only once did I say those three words. And I truly thought I was in love with him. It wasn't the second day I said it, though. More like a couple months. The next relationship after that, he told me he loved me, and I even told him I couldn't say it...

[POonSKi]

u know wat.. i think we should. we need to experiened wrongs to learn from it!

[SupraS15]

u know wat.. i think we should. we need to experiened wrongs to learn from it!

Yeah I agree... you gotta have some experiences before you can even say what love is... and if you don't date and stuffs then you won't really know what to look for in someone. Plus with my first gf... I thought I loved her... but with my current gf... i can see that this is love now cuz it's on a wholllllllle 'nother lvl than with my first gf... you gotta experience stuffs to learn stuffs... XP

[ghjgfkgfk]

u know wat.. i think we should. we need to experiened wrongs to learn from it!

the pain isnt worth it

[dani41790]

well to me love isnt overrated. well yea i agree with some of you wen u sae that its dumb that people say "i love you" after like a few days. and you should know that love doesnt always end in heartache. maybe to some it does. but not every1. you'll probably not think that love is overrated once u find that one person u plan on spending the rest of your life with because they r the one for u.

[queen]

gah.

why do people even get a s/o when they are so young?

please. that person you're dating right now isnt going to be the person you marry or anything like that. so why do we waste time dating again...?

you say "i love you"
lie number one. its called infatution.
after too many "i love you"'s
you break up.
say goodbye.
reality check, please.
it's over.
you're hurt.
you don't speak to them again.
you were so depentant on this person to make you feel better, but when it's gone you don't know how to react.

oh wait.
3.
2.
1.
it happens again.
great.
you say the same thing, but convice your self he/she is "real".
but really? infatution.
get that word in your head.
you're not so perfect anymore.
its over again.
you feel worse.

'you plus me' won't always equal forever.

young people really shouldnt date.

wow someone's cranky ;x haha. love is gained through experience...

would you rather have a 12 yr old marry the guy she's dating?

[pikimoo]

I think it's good to date. Because by the time you're old enough to get married, you know what kind of person you want by making past mistakes with others. But I think it's stupid when someone has more than 3 bfs/gfs per year. My friends date like 15 guys in a month

And the whole 'I love you' thing really depends on the situation. Some have been friends for so long... and well, yeh.

[dahding]

ok. r u sure its: love at this age sucks! love is bad bad bad at this age!

or do u mean: "luv 4eVa" at this age sucks?

or how about: "i can't seem to get someone to care about me so i'm going to bash everyone else that has a gf or a bf"?

sorry if that last bit sounded cruel, but a couple of my friends were like that a while back because me and two other friends (that were girls) had a gf or a bf.

see, love, thats like...u kno it. when u fall in love, u just kno. which is why i never asked out another girl before because i just didn't give a damn about them.

when ppl are always like "i LuV u 4eVa babii!!!!" or whatever, now that is what u should be bashin about. i mean, ppl like that are usually ghetto (no offense to my gangsta homies and whatever, but its usually tru...) and they end up breaking up after 1 week-3 months. which i absolutely hate cause the girl usually ends up hurt or whatever and the guy just blows off the girl like it ain't nothin.

o whatever. u get my point. if u don't. well, that just bites for u.

[wHoOt_Iz_DeZzy]

well i dont see anything with saying i love you... or dating... when we say i love you .. its just a way that you're expressing your feelings for that person... of course its not going to be forever... we all know that... but then again... this isn't true love we're talking about... its puppy love... and by getting involved in a relationship... you're risking yourself of getting a broken heart.. you know you aren't going to marry that person.. but you should try and make the best of it while it lasts... it just sounds like you've had a lot of problems with "Love"... and u have to rag on everything... no offense... but it sounds that way... and besides... if you date when you're older... it doesnt get any easier... it gets a lot more serious... and a lot more drama... maybe thats why teens date... cuz we just dont wanna worry about marriage... or kids... or moving in together... its just about having fun with someone you like... or in ur terms... getting hurt... but hey when you REALLY like someone you take risks...

[Darkpekkle]

Well, people date in hopes of finding "the one." Yes, a lot of the times the "I Love You's" are all false and it all ends in heartbeak. But it's all part of the learning experience. You figure out what kind of person you want your s/o to be. You correct your past mistakes... stuff like that. And yea, it annoys me too when I hear people who have only been dating for like 2 days and know little about each other, say "I lubbb/wuvv you always and forever!!!" but eh, they'll learn as they grow older to use the word "love" more wisely and really mean it.

P.S. I don't mean to be harsh-sounding or anything, but like those before me, it does sound like you've had a terrible experience with "love" and have been made very bitter by it... but yeah, don't bash everyonee who is in a relationship, because hey... you never know, maybe those two kids really are in love.

[whywasisostupid]

i kno i wont b with the guy im with forever. i alreadly kno im not going to marry him. love right now is really just a fling. go out, dump, go out. the only real dating happens after high school

[sandra]

love is like a rollercoaster, there are ups and downs

[ghjgfkgfk]

wow someone's cranky ;x haha.  love is gained through experience...

would you rather have a 12 yr old marry the guy she's dating?

1. i was not 'cranky' when i wrote that. i get cranky when people assume that i was.

2. no, in fact i would rather have a twele year old not date.

3. yes, i am bitter.


edit//
i don't think anyone really got what i was saying.
when you say ' i love you' (GAG ;X) it's not love,its infatuation
that's what i was trying to say

[sheepy]

well.. i guess you are right.
but den deres someone that i really think i love. and i am willing to spend the rest of my life with him.

[ghjgfkgfk]

Well, people date in hopes of finding "the one." Yes, a lot of the times the "I Love You's" are all false and it all ends in heartbeak. But it's all part of the learning experience. You figure out what kind of person you want your s/o to be. You correct your past mistakes... stuff like that.

learning experience my ass.

don't waste your time 'learing' about love, you have your whole life (after your teens) to learn this shit. you're supposed to have fun. don't waste time with love already.

save the 'learning love' time for when you are older.

i blame the media.

[x3chrissyx3]

I don't think love is completely overrated. Okay, when you've had a bf or gf for like, a week and you're saying "I LOVE YOU", that could be legit, considering you could have fallen in love beforehand, but when a 12 year old says it or something, I begin to question. You're right, in most cases when people say it THAT soon it's really not the real thing. I've had my bf since HS, and I'm deeply in love, and I actually do plan on marrying him. Most people I know who say love is overrated turn around and are like, ya know...I really wanna fall in love. it hurts sometimes...actually it KILLS sometimes, but ya know, in my opinion I think it's worth it.

when you find someone you TRULY love and who truly loves you, you'll think differently.

[Criminal21]

Wow. That was beautiful. Indeed I agree. But I won't give it up completely