my story, *sigh Options

[soulovely]

there is this guy that i've seen around, started to talk to, and am getting to know. he works right next to my work place. i'm starting to develop some feelings for him. haha... only thing is... i also have a feeling that he might be gay. i don't want to be stereotypical or anything, but there are so many reasons why i think he is gay.

here's a question for the guys:
how would you feel if i (or any other girl) asked you if you were gay?? (even if you're not)

haha i don't want to just ask him if he is gay, and i'm sure he's not going to tell me out in the open if he is.

question for the girls:
should i go out in the open and ask if he is gay?

i don't want him to feel insulted if he isn't gay and i ask him. that would be embarrassing as well. and if he is gay, then cool. i'll still be his friend and all. haha... but i just want to know if he is or not.

maybe i'll just wait and have him tell me himself. lol

[toxicwaste]

here's a question for the guys:
how would you feel if i (or any other girl) asked you if you were gay?? (even if you're not)

It would be awkward... I would probably think every other girl would see me this way. But you must be in an awkward situration.

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[hair products]

i get a lil mad if someone does ask. nothin against gay people cuz i work with them all the time and they're really cool. there's just nothin about me that screams gay. and someone goes out of their way to ask like... wtf? i dunno. it's.. weird to explain as it is.

[pikimoo]

Tell him you like him. If he says he can't like you because he's gay.. well, then you know.

I don't make any sense right now. Good night -.-

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

well im a dude and im not gay,so if u would have asked me that i would have been insulted, and if u did ask him and he was gay,it would be awkward.

heres ur answer... DONT ask him , ask around,ask one of his co workers or someone that knows him that u know, ask around but not up front

[*Azarel*]

I don't think you should ask him if he's gay. He might be insulted. Just get to know him and be friends. If he's comfortable and close, he'll tell you if he's gay (or not). Just my two cents.

[someflipguy]

Yeah the best thing to do is tell him your feelings...and if he is straight up with you about him being gay...then theres your answer but if he likes you maybe he is just a little feminine..

[Cynthee]

question for the girls:
should i go out in the open and ask if he is gay?

Well...I think you should ask him something like, "Do you have a girlfriend?"

And if he's gay, and he wants to admit it, then he'll say something like, "No...I don't go that way..."

Or something like that! xD Or...if he says yes, then you'll know he's not!!

Of course, he could always say "no" and leave it like that...

[xsweetdreams12x]

Don't ask him, "Are you gay?"

The better solution is to ask him if he'd like to go out. If he says no, then ask why. If you guys are becoming close friends, he may confide in you and tell you the truth.

[mizz_mithy]

ask him out and see what he says. id he doesn't wanna tell you he's gay that's his buisnees.

[soulovely]

lol thanks you guys and girls. that was a weird post... i've never been in that situation before! most guys i've been with, i've met through friends who tell me facts about the person as i get to know him. his co-workers didn't know a lot about him. some even had crushes on him too... but also thought he was gay. i dunno, i'm pretty blunt, as people told me, and this is one thing i couldn't be blunt about, which is good, i guess. but me and Aaron, that's his name, are going out on Friday.

[toxicwaste]

lucky ole aaron to go on a date with such a lovely girl.

i tell you for sure i'm not gay. how about a date with me? lol

[laur3nw]

question for the girls:
should i go out in the open and ask if he is gay?

dont ask him straight out if he's gay...maybe you can make a conversation about gays or something, but dont make it obvious. its a good idea to let him tell you himself too. haha
if i were a guy i would feel weird and a little offended..i dunno

[conster]

i think u should jus get to know him better and u'll find out urself

[sunni_banana]

hmm i guess this is my idea on this....err i guess if you feel awkard and scared about asking him...i think you should ask him out to like a movie or to a resturant or something..and if he is gay (or not) then he'll answer if he's gay or not..if he says yes..then i guess he's not gay..if no he mite tell you he's not...but make sure you ask him out in a way that allows him to be 100% sure that it's in a romance type of situation best of luck! hope i helped!

[defjam_gangsta]

Greetings!!

being liberal as we may be, it's kinda on da offensive side if ya were to ask him if he was gay. how abt dis. continue ya 'friendship' wit him. get to know him better. once ya guys are comfortable enuf, make some moves to him. drop hints to him. make him realise ya wanna somethin else out of dis 'frienship' ya having wit him. and if he is really gay (as in happy), i think he would be delighted to have ya around. but if he is really gay, take it tat ya got another gay fren on top of other gay frens ya might have!! look on da bright side aight?! no matter how dark it may be!!

CHEERS CB!!

[party_pnai_pride]

just ask something casual relating to his sexual orientation. a question like who do you prefer better: pam anderson or halle berry? sumin like that

[dahding]

depends on how the guy is. if he is easily offended about his masculinity or whatever, uh..don't say anything. ask around, u kno, like friends or co-workers or whatever and see if u can find out that way. personally, i would be a little offended if someone asked me that, but it wouldn't get to me.

yeah.

[sunshiNe_sweeTi_]

question for the girls:
should i go out in the open and ask if he is gay?

heres ur answer... DONT ask him , ask around,ask one of his co workers or someone that knows him that u know, ask around but not up front 

[sweetdreamsx3]

Oooh OOhs! This happened to me recently, but like it was on AIM. Heheh. Well, I sent him a picture of a girl and I was like "Do you think she's hot?" And he answered "Yes". So...yeah..

I don't think you should ask him if he's gay though. It was really hard for me to ask the guy, so I found some other kind of way to ask. Maybe you can ask his co-workers who are girls? Err..what sunshine_sweeti_ just said. Lol