I can't stop thinking about him, I should stop.. Options

[islandkiss]

a little over a month ago my bf broke up with me. we've been going out for a yr.. he was my first bf and stuff.. ever since the break up we decided to stay friends. everything to me just feels so different. I never really stopped loving him..

I'll admit, our relationship wasn't all that great but it still felt wonderful..

What I don't understand is how could I still love him even though he hurt me.. so much? he's already moved on, I want to tell him how I feel.. but apart of me just doesn't want to let him know... I feel so lost and desperate. He hasn't been online in like.. forever.. I feel like calling him but I don't know what I'll say or how I'll react. I've been thinking about him.. constantly.. I don't know what to do.. I know I should let go.. but I just can't..

[conster]

take ur time... its only been a month, and its summer time so jus kick bak relax.. eat and sleep =) lols its not gonna go away unless u do it urself, its really upto u... meet some new friends and stuff.... thats how i got my mind off. the new friends i made are so corny but they are so cool lols and they make me laugh and i eventually grew out of it.... remember its over, theres no more turning back u can only reminise and tahts about it.. i hope u feel better

[xsweetdreams12x]

Wait for him to come online. If he doesn't in like a couple weeks or so, tell him how you feel.

But I agree with conster. It's the Summertime. Be happy. Eat, sleep, have a good time.

[ThePrincessofTKD]

take ur time... its only been a month, and its summer time so jus kick bak relax.. eat and sleep =) lols its not gonna go away unless u do it urself, its really upto u... meet some new friends and stuff.... thats how i got my mind off. the new friends i made are so corny but they are so cool lols and they make me laugh and i eventually grew out of it.... remember its over, theres no more turning back u can only reminise and tahts about it.. i hope u feel better

^^ pretty much it.

but another way to get over it, is to talk about it to your friends and tell them how you feel. then maybe you can tell him and HOPEFULLY he`ll try to make you feel better.

[babixlilac]

take ur time... its only been a month, and its summer time so jus kick bak relax.. eat and sleep =) lols its not gonna go away unless u do it urself, its really upto u... meet some new friends and stuff.... thats how i got my mind off. the new friends i made are so corny but they are so cool lols and they make me laugh and i eventually grew out of it.... remember its over, theres no more turning back u can only reminise and tahts about it.. i hope u feel better

yupp get a job..go shopping...meet some new guys

[dhv]

yup... agreed w/ all of u guys ^^ enjoy the summer! have fun! go to the beach or something...

the same thing almost happened to me/my ex... i was w/ her 4 a year... i broke up w/ her and she couldnt get over me... she couldnt tell me, but it was obvious that she still liked me a lot... but then summer came... shes goin 2 summerschool... shes havin fun and met new guys

[Qbangrl]

Listen,I was in the same situation.Trust me.It will get better over time.Try to hang out with your friend or do something constuctive to get your mind off of him.It will work!

[islandkiss]

^ the problem is, is that whatever I do.. I always end up thinking about him

[xtremeliquid]

Just call him.

[someflipguy]

Your young so you should go out and explore new things...dont leave yourself restricted to loving one guy! Cus, I am not sure if he is really thinking about you

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

well 1 year..thats gonna be hard to get over...you'll need more time than 1 month... haha my friend name gloriene has the same situation....but shes like super depressed and constantly thinking about him and has a foolish hope things will be ok...haha all her xanga post are the same sad pathedic things..and shes like... crazy depressed.lol dont be like her ,it gets on ur friends nerves...just give it time... there are other people out there.... ?hate the thought of being with someone else" ? - usher - burn lol. itll pass just give it time

[sheepy]

awww sry to hear kellly >___<
hmms cant stop thinking of him ... *thinks of idea* try to call him, im pretty sure hes gonna listen. nd i dink u should tell him how u feel so mayb its easier for you to move on. jjust letting it all out. i hope something works out. nd its only been a month .. nd its not wrong to think about ur first love either.

nd also hes not online cuz hes comp is getting rebooted or something..

[silver-rain]

yeah, i know how you feel, i'm going through almost the same exact situation. but my ex doesn't want to be my friend- i can't stop thinking about him and almost everything reminds me of him. but don't worry, just hang out with friends and focus on other things. or, just call him and tell him how you feel.

[hybrid]

Yes, give it time. Or Just tell him what's really on your mind.. he'll listen, hopefully,

[Darkpekkle]

yeah, i know how you feel, i'm going through almost the same exact situation. but my ex doesn't want to be my friend- i can't stop thinking about him and almost everything reminds me of him. but don't worry, just hang out with friends and focus on other things. or, just call him and tell him how you feel.

^ my ex doesn't want to be my friend either. oh wells, what can you do really?

Anyways, just keep busy, get a part-time job, hang out with your friends, meet some new people, and eventually, you'll stop thinking about him. Of course, it won't happen with the snap of your fingers, but just give it some time (it's only been a month- i know, i know, it feels like forever =/).

it's sad to hear that he's already moved on, but it means that you should start moving on too. i know it's easier said than done... but try your best to NOT think of him... like... everytime you start thinking about him, just tell yourself to stop. and make yourself think about happier thoughts.

i don't know if you should call him or not, since that might make him feel a little awkward and guilty. right now, the friendship between you two is probably not as good as it was before you guys started dating (it's always awkward after the breakup... but will get better as time goes on). so one false move, and you could lose him forever. wait a while, and see if you feel any better. if you still feel bad, then i guess you could... talk to him about it. hope he understands and will try to help you and not push you away.