falling in love with a close friend.. Options

[L00d]

i'm not rushing love at all. to be honest, i've NEVER had a girlfriend in my life, and i'm a senior in highschool right now getting ready to graduate and never kissed a girl.. never done ANYTHING. i gave up so much for her thinking she'd be someone that i'd finally end up with after all this time but i guess i was wrong =\

i talked to her a while ago about it, she said the reason i'm still single is cuz i need to start talking to more girls, and stop being so shy around them, and told me that i should stop falling for my close friends.. but i can't help that, they're the ones i care about and i feel that if i just skipped that whole friendship thing then the relationship wouldn't turn out as well.

and then there's my english teacher for example, he's 21 right outta college, just broke up with his gf last month and has been going out with this girl that he's been best friends with for 2 years, and two weeks later after hooking up they're already engaged o_O

maybe one day something like that can happen for me.. cuz there hasn't even been a single spark in my life and it just sucks =\ sigh.. i guess when i finally find someone it'll be well worth all that wait...

[L00d]

also i guess it's cuz no girls really know the true me.. the caring and understanding side.. she's probably the only person that knows me that well, other people just see me as another shy white boy =\

[aj637]

the thing is your insisting so much from her to be your girlfriend that your seriously pushing her away. ( i dont know her story ) but from waht you tell me it seems like that. i mean it is great to tell all your feelings to her becasue you want too and she does deserve to know but obviously she only sees you as a friend right now and she is right you do need to find yourself other friends (girls) to socialize with. i mean it is very hard to trust people now a days but thats the only way you can fix your problem finding that person you want to spend the rest of your life with. i mean your sitting there dwelling upon not having her that you are missing out on other girls who will probably like you more than her (maybe start a relationship) i mean it all goes down to how you want to react to it. if you want to be patient and wait for her than go ahead but you are not doing any good to yourself just thinking all of the "what ifs" and the "maybes" i mean you have to see waht the rest of the world offers.

also i do know how you feel (partly) ive been single for 2 years now going to 3 years. and it sucks beucase i am waiting for that person to come and sweep me off my feet like prince charming but i am also living my life to the fullest and meeting guys going places wiht friends and so forth. i'm smart enough to know dwelling upon what you wish to have is a waste becasue you may never know what you are missing. also the only way you can feel love is if you put yourself out there. yes that means you need to stop being the shy white boy and get to know these girls more intimately (maybe some) but you get the idea right??

[L00d]

yeah, i only told her how i felt about her once. now i've pretty much given up on her and all the feelings i had for her are gone.. i just finally realized it was time to move on i guess

[d1nonlyqty]

well if you waited for her for two years.. i think waiting a litto more couldnt hurt.

[aud_chua]

*pats shoulder*
sigh.. i know how you feel.. even though i'm a girl, for some odd reason, i actually told my best friend (who is a guy) that i have feelings for him.. after that, he kinda just went away a bit.. that's what really sucks..
like.. the best relationship would be built on a foundation of friendship.. most people would want that.. but others just don't get it.. they want it to be like those romantic scenes where it's love at first sight or some other bull like that..
i guess your friend just doens't feel the same way or is afraid.. (i'm sorry if this interpretation is wrong.. i just took a quick glance at your posts.. )
but anyway.. don't worry!! there are other people out there!! and i'm sure there's someone who's more willing to go into a relationship with you..
cheer up and drink some sake to ease your mind.. (or some alternative) heheh...!
peace!

[EddieV]

welcome 2 my world

[tiffsezgrr]

sometimes relationships work out better if they are a close friend at first....sometimes not =T

[angel-roh]

yeah... me and justin... we are reallie one close friends...but we end up lovin each other^^;; hehe nd' look at us...we're going out!! haha we've known each other for the last 6 years!^^ nd' start goin out on february 11, 2004!!

[LoST SouL]

i think im startin 2 well at lest i like him...

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

i understand how you feel .. it's happened to me before too .. well you did give her a hint once and she knew that you liked her more than a friend .. it doesn't seem that she's giving the same signs .. i'm sorry there isn't much i can say to help here .. there is a chance that one day she might realize what's right in front of her and you'll have a chance of being together .. hopefully not too late .. well just try your best to be strong .. and hopefully things will turn out your way .. good luck!!