Wat should I do?, stay or break up? |
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 Jun 9 2004, 07:48 PM
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 i'm really confused and undecided guyz, i need some advice. I date this guy for almost 4 months and I have the feelings that i'm so in love with him, and it seems like he feels the same. The only problem is my parents don't like his parents becuz of previous MATTER between them. My parents of course freaked out when they know i'm dating him and yeah they were mad, want me to stay friend and have nothin' else to do with him. But i don't want to let go...  wat should i do? should i break up with him? either way i feel a lil regretful... love? or family?
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Jun 9 2004, 07:50 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
how old are you guys?? maybe you could be freidns and then when your parents get over this thing you guys could date again...
but then parents should never break a good relationship apart... |
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Jun 9 2004, 08:13 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 29 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,299 |
he's 22 n i'm 19
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Jun 9 2004, 08:32 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 213 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 12,800 |
honestly.. i think if u guys are in love .. or feel like u guys love each other.. then you guys should stay together.. but act like u guys arent going out until the parents get over the problems? ... then later on.. talk to them about it.. then .. let them think about it... iono thats my opinion!
- good luck! 
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Jun 9 2004, 09:19 PM
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wat if my parents would never get over ? i don't think they can't
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Jun 9 2004, 09:24 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
if i waz u i wouldnt break up with him. u shouldnt care wat ur parents think. the important thing is that u love him. if u break up with him over that, u mite regret it.
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Jun 9 2004, 09:33 PM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
KEEP HIM!! parents are nothing... its not like he dangerous or anything... they're having problems... not you right? sooo juss keep being in love!!
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Jun 10 2004, 07:20 AM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
there are a lot of mean parents who dont like the person u love... it's hard... or shud i say damn hard to get them like ur bf's parent... and ur bf's parent to like ur parent... it's hard...thats the most problem going on in korea lols newais if u love him, jus make it a secret.. and dont say nethin to ur parents like u are still going out... jus hide everything from them and later on let them know. i know it's bad to hide the secrets from ur parents, but if u love him and dont want to ruin the relationship, jus stay put.
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Jun 10 2004, 08:04 AM
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 jesus freak Group: Member Posts: 378 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,748 |
Hrm you know what, 4 months isn't enough to know if you really love a person. It takes a lot of time to really really know it. Not just feel it. But know it too. 4 months is too early. A lot of things could happen you know. So don't jump into any conclusions yet. You might make a decision you'll soon regret. If your parents can't accept him, leave them be. but be careful. maybe their not liking him has a good reason behind it. Give your relationship a time before you do anything serious like "stand up for your love". I've been in a relationship longer than 4 months and it took me a year to realize i loved the person =/ so yah. Only time can tell =P
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Jun 10 2004, 08:51 AM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
this is what happened last year when my parents found out I was going out.. my mom was talking me in to breaking up with him. I told her I did. but I never broke up with him, we're still together.
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Jun 10 2004, 04:37 PM
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it's tru 4 months doesn't determine anything. thanx u guys. I should let nature takes it course, and not worry too much, wat come will come, who knows i might break up with him over something before i know it, n worry about this is just killin' my brain's cells
rite now I just want to  him.
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Jun 11 2004, 09:07 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
your parents should learn to accept the fact that you should be able to choose whoever you want to date. if he makes you happy then stay with them. in this case they are not entitled to run your own happiness. they'll have to learn to squash the fact that they don't get along with his family and try to work out their differences.. but i guess it seems to me that even parents can still be mad immature *sigh .. good luck though and i hope they just learn to respect your feelings .
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Jun 11 2004, 04:25 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
Seriously...tell your parents to grow up. They are acting childish and they can't tell you not to date someone cuz of their parents. That's just not right.
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Jun 11 2004, 09:08 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 34 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,725 |
If you love him your parents will just have to accept that and put their hard feelings for his parents aside, maybe they just don't realize how much you care about him, if that's why makes you happy they should be happy for you.
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Jun 11 2004, 09:23 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 29 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,299 |
 here's the deal they start commin' up with reasons that i should concentrate on my study only(when at first my mom said she'll approve if i have a bf) they says they can't interfere me but yeah all they do is restrictin' me from goin' out, n i was like imprisoned in my house, whenever i ask to go somewhere it'll follow with a lecture about i'll be slutty n lose my virgin if i keep hanging out with boys(even though i am askin' to hangin' out with my girls)  wat the heck? that's how much my parents trust me.  sad
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Jul 9 2004, 07:58 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
well.. its sorta like the movie "the notebook" u should follow wherver ur heart takes you.
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Jul 9 2004, 10:42 PM
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 push the botton... VROOOOM Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,166 |
KEEP ON LOVING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Jul 9 2004, 11:13 PM
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 fragile Group: Member Posts: 1,044 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,807 |
if you 19 then do what your heart desires because your parents can only have a say but hey can't make ass the decisons in your life
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Jul 10 2004, 02:06 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 279 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,406 |
let your parents THINK you guys broke up..
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Jul 10 2004, 12:31 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 279 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,828 |
its pretty obvious that ur parents don't know how serious the two of u r...wudn't they want u to be happy? if ur bf believes that the two of u should stay together, then so be it...good luck.
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Jul 10 2004, 04:43 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
i wont care wut my parents say wen im 19 lols
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Jul 10 2004, 07:41 PM
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 lil azn supermodel... =] Group: Member Posts: 461 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,841 |
ur 19, ur old enuff ta make ur own decisions, screw wat ur parents think, this is ur life n this is tha path ur choosin...ur parents shouldnt interfere wit ur luv life n e more, ur an adult n not a lil grl n e more
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Jul 10 2004, 07:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,508 |
sounds a little like present-day romeo&juliet issues (but less dramatic). I say stick with him, but don't mention him around your parents. Why should their problems with his PARENTS (and not him) affect your relationship? each person is different, and just beacuse your parents dont like his parents doesn't necessarily mean that your bf is a bad guy.
hope everything works out. cheers!~
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Jul 10 2004, 08:51 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
parents shuld have no control over your love life. my parents told me to not go out with my boo when i first started going out with him, but to bad, im still with him..but they dont kno it..
 good luck! |
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Jul 11 2004, 02:38 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 851 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,718 |
ur parents shouldnt get in to this cuz first of all... its ur relationship, not theirs. and u love him, thats all it counts.
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