How do you tell someone you love them?, Because I really don't know how ... Options

[ichiban]

Okay there is this one guy, John, he is two grades older than me, and I want him to know I like him, but I don't know how to say it. If I tell him straight up, he's either going to laugh or feel sorry for me because well, I would only tell a person I like them straight up if i have impressions he likes me too .. but JOhn hasn't shown any impressions he likes me ... he's my friend and such .. but .. I don't know whether I should tell him or not. And if I should, HOW??

[Baptismapyros]

Not to crush your hopes, but a two-year gap at your age is pretty big. Whatever you do, just be careful.

[*CEP*]

Two years isn't much. So don't worry.
The thing is, you need to be confident. You're just telling him that you "love" him. It's not like you're asking him to marry you.
Chill out, if he starts acting weird, he probably doesn't deserve you.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[emptyminded]

Two years isn't much. So don't worry.
The thing is, you need to be confident. You're just telling him that you "love" him. It's not like you're asking him to marry you.
Chill out, if he starts acting weird, he probably doesn't deserve you.

that so true

[jennica]

well, u know him...so start by asking him wat type of girls he likes...if u think u match his description mayb give him a go...if u still aint sure...think how hed react ta sth he thought was stupid...den decide whether ur strong enuf ta risk it...keep it real...n belive in urself HAHA OH f**k DAT SHYT!!! lol

[*krnxswat*]

Flirt with him. Give him some hints. See how he reacts.
Anyways, don't make such foolish conclusions. It's not going to get you anywhere.

[Just_Dream]

Flirt with him. Give him some hints. See how he reacts.
Anyways, don't make such foolish conclusions. It's not going to get you anywhere.

agreed.

Plus, maybe this "John" guy is shy or something? Maybe he's scared to show how he feels about you in case he thinks the same as you, that you'll reject him.. You never know... And maybe he's also afraid that what he does might ruin the great friendship you two share.

[xjjajeengx]

well... it depends. since your really young (like me xP) and since he's two years older... gawsh... i mean if we were talking about you being 24 and him being 26, that would be no biggie... but... AISH! haha i ono... if you really love him then you should tell him just like... straight out. but dont tell him like randomly "i love you xP" just be like "i like you" like wen the time is "right" *hinthint* keke but seriously... you should just stay single and free i mean.... i WISH i was single and free x] you dont want to get involved.... i dont regret not being single... but i miss it!! x]] haha jkjk well just be careful. and if he starts laughing and crap, then hes a damned bastard for all i care.

[painfultears]

well... it depends. since your really young (like me xP) and since he's two years older... gawsh... i mean if we were talking about you being 24 and him being 26, that would be no biggie... but... AISH! haha i ono... if you really love him then you should tell him just like... straight out. but dont tell him like randomly "i love you xP" just be like "i like you" like wen the time is "right" *hinthint* keke but seriously... you should just stay single and free i mean.... i WISH i was single and free x] you dont want to get involved.... i dont regret not being single... but i miss it!! x]] haha jkjk well just be careful. and if he starts laughing and crap, then hes a damned bastard for all i care.

Hehe, agreed. Love is a big step and going out is a bigger step.

[conster]

but then ur jus telling him u like him not that u love him..do u? well if u think hes gonna laugh at u, then its not worth it telling to him... its not like hes the only guy alive rite?

[ichiban]

but then ur jus telling him u like him not that u love him..do u?

Huh? lol .. well i don't really know if he'll LAUGH or not .. it's just things I saw that happened to other ppl .. once my friend tld a guy she likes him alot .. and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

[*krnxswat*]

and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

What a... #$!$%

[Baptismapyros]

Alright. Here’s my 2 cents on this. Two years is a HUGE difference when you’re in high school. Each year you change, and that amount of change is an immeasurable difference. What you expect out of a relationship is completely different than what it was two years ago. A seventeen year old, has a completely different concept of a relationship than a fifteen year old. It is true that age differences become less important when you people finally reach college and your personalities begin to solidify. That’s when a two to three year plus difference is acceptable, because your identity as a whole stops changing. But in grade school, my answer is hecks no. If you’re in high school, imagine yourself dating someone in middle school. As a college freshman, I refuse to date anyone in high school (even high school upperclassmen), because life experiences in college has created an extremely large gap that can’t be simply bridged easily.

You being younger than your love interest, this relationship has a great potential of harming you. He is at a different stage in life than you are. His concerns do not and will not match yours. Should you attempt to conform to his, you will cease to grow as a person and that’s one of the worst things he could do to you. As long as you date him, you will lose time in which you can change yourself into the person that you wish to become. Basically, all I’m saying is that you are pursuing a relationship would stunt the growth of your personality because you will consistently give up opportunities of growth in favor of conforming to an ideal in your head of the girlfriend that he wants. If he dates you, I can safely say that he does not care about you if he does not consider the age gap.

My recommendation is for you to date someone your own age, someone that you can grow with. That’s an aspect of a relationship that’s important at any age, however in high school age differences of more than a year make that aspect nearly impossible. Another thing. Don’t be too quick to say that you love someone. Bahhh I’m too lazy to explain why. Take care.

[forgottentears]

Im going thru the same thing... just that im in hs... its hard....im still thinking on how to tell him. good luck =] have faith in yourself!

[k00alah]

it depends on what kind of love you're feeling.. if its puppy love.. then you dont need to worry about it coz its not a big deal.. but true love takes a long time.. you need to make sure that what you feel is true and if it is.. then just open up your heart to him/her.. tell them what you feel and if they feel the same way.. then ther eyou go!

[x3chrissyx3]

first ya gotta distinguish between "Love" "Luv" and "Like" - it's complicated to tell someone you love them...but then again...some people take it a different way, just say it and see how he reacts. People arent dumb, if you're being obvius you like him, chances are he knows already. When I liked someone...and dint know if they liked me...I made a new sn and IMed the guy, and said I searched for ppl...and asked ASL...that whole deal...and then when he says the location you can be like OMG ME TOO! just say a different town name, and ask him his...and if he tells u...be like, yeah..my cousin (your name) goes there. and you get the deal...

[dat_da_busit_hai]

hmm i dont kno i usaly tell them stright up n we go out 5 secs later

[Melissa]

about the high school age difference...

a lotta freshmen go out with juniors n upperclassmen!!!

hmm....i've never told the guy i liked that i liked him. maybe thats why i missed out

[conster]

Huh? lol .. well i don't really know if he'll LAUGH or not .. it's just things I saw that happened to other ppl .. once my friend tld a guy she likes him alot .. and he just ended up laughing his head off and tellin her to go away

lol i meant like... do u really love him that much? well if u dont know if he'll laugh or not then i guess its worth a try... so if he does laugh u'll kno wut kinda person he is

[aj637]

my advice for you is when or if you tell that person you love him always prepare yourself for the worst of things so you really wont get heartbroken all the way...GOOOD LUCK!!!

[d1nonlyqty]

o mangs.. i hab no idea.. i have never said it to anyone.. so i wouldnt know..
i would say it when in the moment though.

[xoxtammynguyenxo...]

it depends...like are you close to him? u shouldnt get too attachted like if...u know..he doesnt like u tho

[Mireh]

Take it slowly, and give him hints. Flirt with him. Schedule dates...the possibilities are endless.

[S0ULd0UT]

uhmm it really depends..
GIVE HIM HINTS AND FLIRT WITH HIM..!

[xjjajeengx]

xP so wat happened ichiban? did you tell him yet? POST IN HERE im waiting for a reply haha anyways

i agree with all the opinions in here. so smart you crazy people! and chrissy? i think your advice on distinguish love between like is awesome most relationships go to an end cause of not being able to distinguish love between like.