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 Jul 6 2004, 03:29 PM
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My mom expects me to be the best at everything (well mostly in school work and whatever) and when I can't she says some really mean things that make me feel horrible. Like today, I was writing something and she told me that my handwriting was really nasty and that if I don't learn how to write better I could neer get a job and no one would respect me and things like that. I know it doesn't seem like a big deal but it hurts and i just don't want her to keep saying stuff like that. I just don't know what to do
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Jul 6 2004, 03:55 PM
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aww.. I dont know. I wouldnt take it from them.. personally.. my parents r bitches. they expect too much.. so i just yell back.. so yeah..
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Jul 6 2004, 03:58 PM
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but when i yell back, it only makes me feel really bad for yelling. its like there is no way out for me and sometimes i just feel so lost. i don't really like talking to people about it so i just post about it to people who don't really know me
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Jul 6 2004, 04:04 PM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
well you should tell your mom... that no one is perfect and you are doing the best you can!!! she should be happy that you are at least trying!!!
but yehh my dad is almost similar to your mom.. but he isnt that hard... but i do think thay asian parents ask too much from their kids!! 
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Jul 6 2004, 04:31 PM
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 KUNG FU/JEDI MASTER Group: Member Posts: 354 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,433 |
Yea My parents Are Harsh on me too like "why can't u get good grades?" or "U GOT A "B"? why couldn't u get an A!" But I just totally ignore them when they say those things...
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Jul 6 2004, 05:14 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
i feel bad too... my mom wants me to practice piano, violin, flute, cello...she wants me to accomplish them all... it hurts her too...and it hurts me more...but im so busy and all i cant do all of them...sigh yeah well tell ur mom that u dont like wen she say stuff like that... cause it hurts u and that ur sick of it...just face it with ur mom. tell her that shes hurting ur heart
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Jul 6 2004, 05:38 PM
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 Quand j'étais jeune... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 6,826 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,272 |
Hah! I don't mean to be the bitch here, but I think alot of people have those kind of zealous parents who want their kids to be a genius in everything. Don't think you're the only one. What to do? Tell them exactly how you feel about it. If they don't listen to you the first time, do it over and over again.
I got belted (hit by a belt), slapped, beat up, and I got shoes thrown at me for "talking back", but my relationship with my parents are better than ever now all because I stood up for myself. Loving your parents does NOT mean letting them have their way all the time or shutting your emotions away for their sake. |
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Jul 6 2004, 05:44 PM
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parents are like dat...wan u to hab da 100 nd 80...i noe wat u mean cus my mom was nagging me bout dese dings too
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Jul 6 2004, 05:47 PM
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they expect too much... pisses me off..
and then they take advantage of you.. |
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Jul 6 2004, 05:48 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
tell her to go screw herself cause im sure w/e bad habits or genes or w/e u got from her so blame her. If your to scared, tell ur dad. if you dont wanna, slam the door in her face...thts wht i would do but then again my mom aint tht mean but still...i dislike my mother.
whateva 
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Jul 6 2004, 06:25 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
me n my mom yell alot bc she either has a problem with me or my friend. she has this thing with no friendship in school and all this other crap.. but i talked to her about it and i told her that i just needed some space and not to yell at me for small things... hope u figure it out
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Jul 6 2004, 06:28 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
QUOTE(LiNHy POO @ Jul 6 2004, 2:04 PM) well you should tell your mom... that no one is perfect and you are doing the best you can!!! she should be happy that you are at least trying!!! but yehh my dad is almost similar to your mom.. but he isnt that hard... but i do think thay asian parents ask too much from their kids!! Yeah, my parents are strict. Especially my dad. I mean, when I get straight A's, he says, "Good job", then goes on to whatever he's doing. Then..if I get a C+, he'll give me this whole lecture and says that I have to do better. Then there are other things that my parents say sometimes that just really hurt. 
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Jul 6 2004, 07:36 PM
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my parents are the same. they expect me to be great at everything and are extremely dissappointed when i don't fulfill THEIR goals. for me, i just ignore what they say and continue doing my own thing. my parents and i aren't very close, so i guess it doesn't really affect our relations in any way.
but if you are close to your mom or dad, i suggest talking to them and telling them that you're trying you're very best. and that the more they yell, the more it discourages you. tell them that you understand they just want the best for you, but yelling at you and making you feel like crap will not make things better.  hope things get better for you~
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Jul 6 2004, 07:50 PM
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 lil azn supermodel... =] Group: Member Posts: 461 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,841 |
QUOTE(JrockDollie @ Jul 6 2004, 4:29 PM) My mom expects me to be the best at everything (well mostly in school work and whatever) and when I can't she says some really mean things that make me feel horrible. Like today, I was writing something and she told me that my handwriting was really nasty and that if I don't learn how to write better I could neer get a job and no one would respect me and things like that. I know it doesn't seem like a big deal but it hurts and i just don't want her to keep saying stuff like that. I just don't know what to do OMG MY MOM DOES TOO that pisses me off so f**kin much, i mean lyk RESUMES R TYPED N E WAY n she ERASES wat i write n re-writes it, n her hand writin is actually lyk THis, she mixes around tha capitals n lowercase 
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