If your girlfriend hooked up w/ another girl |
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 Jul 11 2010, 11:54 PM
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Would you be mad?
I don't think I would. I was thinking about it, and even though it's technically cheating, I don't think I'd be mad. Had it been w/ another guy, I'd be pretty pissed and shit. I think that the anger from cheating from a lot of people comes from the fact that you were intimate with another male, and that other males to a lot of people are seen as direct competition in a lot of regards. You compare yourself to them and think what do they have that you don't, or you think you're so much better in this or that area, and the fact that they won her for that night pisses you off. If it's with another girl, you're still the only guy she's with and that's okay to most. At least that's what I came up with when thinking about it. |
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Jul 12 2010, 12:07 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
why would it be different if it were with another girl? i think that's such a double standard. i see it as cheating. for example, if i was dating a girl and she made out with a guy, i'd be pissed as hell. or, if i was dating a guy and he made out with another guy, i'd be just as pissed. i don't see why there should be a difference if the person you're dating makes out with a guy or a girl. i'm not being very coherent right now since it's 1 in the morning and all i can think about is how hungry i am.
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Jul 12 2010, 12:16 AM
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 Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
bittersweet lmao
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Jul 12 2010, 12:21 AM
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 /人◕‿‿◕人\ Group: Official Member Posts: 8,283 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,927 |
QUOTE(misoshiru @ Jul 12 2010, 12:07 AM)  why would it be different if it were with another girl? i think that's such a double standard. i see it as cheating. for example, if i was dating a girl and she made out with a guy, i'd be pissed as hell. or, if i was dating a guy and he made out with another guy, i'd be just as pissed. i don't see why there should be a difference if the person you're dating makes out with a guy or a girl. i'm not being very coherent right now since it's 1 in the morning and all i can think about is how hungry i am. women get the long end of the stick in this situation, don't complain |
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Jul 12 2010, 12:30 AM
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 feed me your vices Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 154 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,800 |
QUOTE(misoshiru @ Jul 11 2010, 10:07 PM) why would it be different if it were with another girl? i think that's such a double standard. i see it as cheating. for example, if i was dating a girl and she made out with a guy, i'd be pissed as hell. or, if i was dating a guy and he made out with another guy, i'd be just as pissed. i don't see why there should be a difference if the person you're dating makes out with a guy or a girl. i'm not being very coherent right now since it's 1 in the morning and all i can think about is how hungry i am. I agree. Dating another person, no matter the gender, would still upset me the same way. I don't know why it would be different if I were a guy. I mean, wouldn't you be upset if she became more intimate/closer with her new girlfriend than she was with you? |
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Jul 12 2010, 02:45 AM
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/人◕‿‿◕人\ Group: Official Member Posts: 8,283 Joined: Dec 2007 Member No: 602,927 |
QUOTE(Kathleen @ Jul 12 2010, 12:30 AM) I agree. Dating another person, no matter the gender, would still upset me the same way. I don't know why it would be different if I were a guy. I mean, wouldn't you be upset if she became more intimate/closer with her new girlfriend than she was with you? long end of the stick etc. |
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Jul 12 2010, 03:01 AM
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 monster hunter Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,203 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,188 |
would be mad but not too bad
would probably have to show her who's boss afterwards in order to convey that i do not approve |
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Jul 12 2010, 07:12 AM
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Yes it's a double standard. No it doesn't bother me.
QUOTE(Kathleen @ Jul 12 2010, 12:30 AM) I agree. Dating another person, no matter the gender, would still upset me the same way. I don't know why it would be different if I were a guy. I mean, wouldn't you be upset if she became more intimate/closer with her new girlfriend than she was with you? I said hooked up, not dated. QUOTE(saintsaens @ Jul 12 2010, 03:01 AM) would be mad but not too bad would probably have to show her who's boss afterwards in order to convey that i do not approve And if she suggested a three-way, would you be down? This post has been edited by tokyo-rose: Jul 12 2010, 07:36 PM
Reason for edit: Merged triple posts. - Cristy
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Jul 12 2010, 07:31 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
just curious, for girls, what if your guy hooked up with another guy. not date, hook up.
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Jul 12 2010, 08:34 AM
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Yeah like just exploratory no emotional attachment.
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Jul 12 2010, 09:02 AM
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I see your point there, Like If my bf like just "kissed" another guy, I would prolly just be roughly confused to what happened, but it went more than that, I would prolly be a tad more upset. It depends on how someone sees it. your signifigan other might of done it to explore or either cheat.
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Jul 12 2010, 10:16 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
So, let's say, by hooked up, they had sex. If your girlfriend had sex with another girl, no emotional attachment, you'd be okay with it?
And even if it were just making out, why would it be okay for your girlfriend to make out with another girl, no emotional attachment involved, but not okay for her to make out with another guy, also with no emotional attachment involved? |
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Jul 12 2010, 10:26 AM
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I believe that is what I have conveyed in my previous posts, yes.
I also believe I made it clear why it would not be okay with another guy. Need I quote my first post? |
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Jul 12 2010, 10:37 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
That's the thing, why would you be okay if it were with another girl, but not another guy? That part, I don't believe that you've conveyed clearly.
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Jul 12 2010, 10:56 AM
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QUOTE(serotonin @ Jul 11 2010, 11:54 PM) I think that the anger from cheating from a lot of people comes from the fact that you were intimate with another male, and that other males to a lot of people are seen as direct competition in a lot of regards. You compare yourself to them and think what do they have that you don't, or you think you're so much better in this or that area, and the fact that they won her for that night pisses you off. If it's with another girl, you're still the only guy she's with and that's okay to most. I'm not saying that I want my girlfriend running around sleeping with other girls or whatever, but if it were to happen I don't think I'd be too terribly upset. I'm not supporting cheating or sleeping around, I just thought about it and decided I wouldn't be that upset. |
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Jul 12 2010, 11:11 AM
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I think it depends on the circumstances. "Cheating" to me is more of a betrayal of trust than a "what does s/he have that i don't?" issue. I think the act of cheating itself is just as bad whether it be with a girl or a guy. The only difference is that I'd probably feel worse about my boyfriend cheating with a girl because in that case, there's jealousy added to the mix. If he cheated with a guy, I would be upset, but I wouldn't get jealous because how am I supposed to compete with a penis? There's really nothing I can do about that.
But idk. I feel like this isn't something I'd be 100% on until it happens to me. |
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Jul 12 2010, 11:13 AM
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Well to throw on to the scenario, what if it wasn't hidden from you at all and she (or I guess he) told you about the event right after things happened.
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Jul 12 2010, 11:17 AM
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I'd probably be surprised and a little amused and curious as to whether he enjoyed it or not. Idk, if he was super into it, I'd have to re-evaluate some things, I think.
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Jul 12 2010, 11:19 AM
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 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
agree with steven. i wouldn't like it, but i highly doubt it would make me feel like shit to the same level as if she cheated with another guy.
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Jul 13 2010, 04:10 AM
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other females aren't fighting for the gene pool, so you can wave your dick around claiming dat ass
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Jul 13 2010, 08:45 AM
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QUOTE(aflyingcumshot @ Jul 13 2010, 04:10 AM) other females aren't fighting for the gene pool, so you can wave your dick around claiming dat ass yah other girls can't wave yo dick around unless you let them. they can't wave they dick around cuz them ain't got nuttin down there (unless they're Thai) |
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Jul 13 2010, 04:15 PM
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 Tick tock, Bill Group: Administrator Posts: 8,764 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,948 |
QUOTE(serotonin @ Jul 12 2010, 11:13 AM) Well to throw on to the scenario, what if it wasn't hidden from you at all and she (or I guess he) told you about the event right after things happened. Unless it's been clearly established that it's an open relationship, I'd be pissed. |
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Jul 13 2010, 04:56 PM
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I guess if your fine with your significant other being explorative, then there is really nothing to say, To the point that you're not okay with it and they don't care, I can see the problem there.
I would have to see It to believe it for me. (looking at both points to this) |
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Jul 13 2010, 06:28 PM
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Jul 14 2010, 07:06 AM
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I understand your point Steven.
Now, I think I'll be mad if my fiancé kissed another guy and I KNOW he'll be mad if I kissed a girl. I won't call it 'cheating' but a lack of respect. Then again, he isn't my "boyfriend" but fiancé (if that changes anything). |
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