Dr. :santa: Options

[brooklyneast05]

well i had to make a new thread since TJ ruined my last one. we're starting over.

i've decided to be the self proclaimed relationship expert of createblog's relationship forum. if you need advice, just post your problem here and i will guide you through your trouble waters and relationship hurdles.






NOTICE: don't ask me about mr. compatibility. this thread isn't mr. compatibility. if you have a problem with mr. compatibility's production speed then go find someone else to be him. i'll do it when i want to and i won't when i don't.


this is Dr. , don't get the two confused

[brooklyneast05]

hey you edited my post

[DoubleJ]

haha I did lmao!

Well here is the situation:
Let me start of by saying that I have the utmost respect for my friends. I think of some of them as blood. Well my boy is "messing" with this girl. They aren't a couple but they are I guess you can say a tad more than just friends? Well in any event over the past few days I have come to realize that I have feelings for this girl and she has admitted to me and to one of our friends that she has feelings for me too. What do I do?

[brooklyneast05]

haha I did lmao!

Well here is the situation:
Let me start of by saying that I have the utmost respect for my friends. I think of some of them as blood. Well my boy is "messing" with this girl. They aren't a couple but they are I guess you can say a tad more than just friends? Well in any event over the past few days I have come to realize that I have feelings for this girl and she has admitted to me and to one of our friends that she has feelings for me too. What do I do?

oh that's a sucky situation. i don't even know if there's an answer to ones like that.


i think you should be careful cause you're on dangerous territory here my . objective number one should be to figure out what they are. you might think you know, your friends might think they know, but really no one does besides the dude and this girl. which means there's almost no way around going through one of them to figure this out. i don't know your relationships with them. if you're really close to this dude then maybe you can straight up ask him what the deal is between him and this girl, how much he likes her. if that's not a good idea, then i would go through the girl since you already know she's on a similar page to you. she can let you know how much "more than friends" her and your friend are. although that can be awkward too so you might just get stuck...

maybe you'll luck out and find out that they aren't as tight as you thought. if you find out it doesn't look safe then i think you should take a step back and think more about it. you realized only over the last few days you had feelings for her. you don't wanna jump in and f*ck up good friendships just because you had a little crush on someone. it's easy to have intense feelings that seem like a big deal but then it quickly fades and you realize it wasn't that legit. also if he's just messing with her, he might be done messing with her before long and move on to the next one. but in the event he feels like she's more than a girl to play with, you have to figure out whether there is enough there between you two to risk upsetting him.

if you discover more and more than you really like her then it's sometimes worth going for. if you just wanna mess around with her too then i would just drop it if i were you and find someone else with less complications. you can only mess with a friends girl if you think something big time is gonna come out of it, like a real legit long lasting relationship. legit legit this is a bad situation to make a mistake in homie

[DoubleJ]

you are completely right. I know that they are just friends with benefits. He is in love with his ex and she wants something more than a relationship but not with him. She has expressed her desire to stop f*cking with him but she can't seem to stop....Idk...I am really feeling her but I might just have to leave this one alone.

[brooklyneast05]

her not stopping f*cking around with him is making the situation worse. i mean if she would just stop you would probably be in the clear (somewhat) because he would be preoccupied worrying about his ex problems


especially if she doesn't show an equal interest in you i would drop it. i mean she needs to stop f*cking him if she wants you much lol ya know

[DoubleJ]

I know completely! Thanks my

[-DressYourEyelid...]

ok dr. - i want to have a threesome with my ex-girlfriend (i am bestfriends with her) and my fiance. i know he wants to indulge in, err, my fantasy.but he's hesitant just the same. we've done stuff with other people, but it has been a long time.
how do i talk him into it/make him feel comfortable with it? should i give up on this fancy?

:)

[Simba]

Sorry Dr. , but Dr. is stepping in...

[superstitious]

This thread is getting kind of freaky. Threesomes and college professor f*cking. You've got your hands full, .

[brooklyneast05]

ok dr. - i want to have a threesome with my ex-girlfriend (i am bestfriends with her) and my fiance. i know he wants to indulge in, err, my fantasy.but he's hesitant just the same. we've done stuff with other people, but it has been a long time.
how do i talk him into it/make him feel comfortable with it? should i give up on this fancy?

:)

nah you shouldn't give up unless he comes out and says straight up he's not interested in it at all. if a dude doesn't wanna do something sexually, he'll typically make it known he doesn't want to do it. you should talk to him about it in detail. dudes like details, tell him everything you want to do. also guys are selfish mother f*ckers about sex so don't spend too much time stressing that it's all about you. which it kinda is cause it's YOUR ex and YOUR fiance, it's centered around you. is he intimidated because it's your ex specifically? if so that could be harder i suppose.

This thread is getting kind of freaky. Threesomes and college professor f*cking. You've got your hands full, .

i know wtf

[-DressYourEyelid...]

You've got your hands full, .

[Teesa]

also guys are selfish mother f*ckers about sex so don't spend too much time stressing that it's all about you.

[brooklyneast05]

that's good advice

[Teesa]

how does this smiley disagreeing with your advice? hmmmmmm?

[brooklyneast05]

you're right. i take back my

[Teesa]

always being so difficult

[Simba]

broye is bitter cause kanye still with amber rose

[brooklyneast05]

yeah i almost refuse to post her on our blog.

[batman]

Sorry Dr. , but Dr. is stepping in...

Have you seen the movie "He's Not That Into You"?! If not, rent it or download it. SRSLY, he's probably just in it for your body (you are young and attractive in his eyes), and is probably hoping that his wife eventually finds out so he can leave her...


No strings attached is fine. You might be seen as the bitch by others, but a gotta make ends meet (in your case, make grades MEAT) and satisfy her sexual desire once in a while. As Drew Barrymore's character Mary said, "It's exhausting..." (although not exactly in the same context).

EDIT: p.s. if he's paying, might as well stay at the Hilton.

LOL he's only 30 so its not that far of a jump, right? i'm pretty much in it because i think he's strangely attractive and i find the situation sort of thrilling; def not expecting him to leave his family for me fasho.

i disagree with Dr. . i thought bradley cooper and scarlett johansson's characters were the worst in that movie. i liked every one else's story line way better than theirs. why would you want melissa to be in their position? everyone in that love triangle ended up miserable! don't go rent that. if you want to go rent a chick movie, then rent bride wars > he's just not that into you. anne hathaway & kate hudson > he's just not that into you's entire cast imo. that has nothing to do with your situation though. actually scratch it, rent a movie you can invite your teacher to come watch with you ok?

it's going to be hard to work it out where you can slip him a key that he already paid for in advanced.....but if you can do then props to you.

<3

[hypnotique]

ok dr. - i want to have a threesome with my ex-girlfriend (i am bestfriends with her) and my fiance. i know he wants to indulge in, err, my fantasy.but he's hesitant just the same. we've done stuff with other people, but it has been a long time.
how do i talk him into it/make him feel comfortable with it? should i give up on this fancy?

:)

God, i would never ever EVER have a 3way with my bf and my exgirlfriend. I just cant deal with him touching all over someone i already touched.
3 ways in general with boyfriends are waters my ship doesn't like to sail personally.

[DoubleJ]

update: I told her how I felt...

[brooklyneast05]

what happened

[DoubleJ]

well it's kind of hard to say at this moment. I think she is stuck on him for whatever reason, but I also think she is coming to the realization that they aren't even together and she is just holding on to false hope.

[creole]

DOCTA DOTCA, I'M AFRAID TO OPEN UP TO HIM ):

[brooklyneast05]

DOCTA DOTCA, I'M AFRAID TO OPEN UP TO HIM ):

i need more information on the situation

Serious question. If ex shows me nudes, do I -

a. Be mature about it
b. Spam

be mature about it. when it comes to ex vs ex battles, karma does exist.