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 Jul 20 2009, 04:03 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593  |
Hey guys, I haven't been posting or on cB for a while, because I've been having so much drama and stuff going on with my personal life right now. So basically, to make things short and simple.
So there's this girl who use to date my best friend back in highschool, and they've been apart for three years now. And this girl, I haven't talk to her in 2 years. So last Wednesday, she calls me up while I was working out at the gym. She said she was in town in Davis where I go to school. She wanted to hang out. I was kinda thrown off, because out of nowhere she pops up and calls me when we haven't spoke to me in two years. Apparently, she told me she's always had a crush on me since 10th grade. So yeah, I told her Wednesday night I couldn't hang out cuz I had a midterm to study for. Also, I didn't want to hang out with her, knowing she dated my best friend 3 years ago. So nothing good will happen. However, last Thursday night, I was at my friends kickback party, and I decided to text her and invited her. I had no intentions whatsoever. I just was just trying to have a good time at the party, and invite alot of people. So yeah, apparently I ended up getting really wasted and drunk, and my roommate had to take me back to the apartment to bed, and the girl followed along to look after me, while my roommate goes back to the party. So yeah, from there we were alone at the apartment, and we ended up having sex. So yeah, basically I been feeling like shit, and tried to ignore her last friday, but she told my other friend she really missed me and wanted to talk to me you know. So I decided to hang out with her on Saturday, and shes been at my apartment for this past weekend. We got into a huge argument last night because, last night in bed, we were making out, and then we stopped. I then said "well if nothing's gonna happen tonight, I'm going to sleep". She got really pissed, and cried, and said I was using her. We argued and talked over things for 2-3 hours up to 5am last night. We ended up just cuddling and going back to sleep. I don't know what to do with this situation. We both want to make it work going out, but the fact that shes my best friend's ex, really complicates stuff. What should I do? |
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Jul 20 2009, 04:10 PM
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 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
well how serious was their relationship? did they date for like years and he loved her or they just dated short term, it ended, and he doesn't give a f*ck about her anymore.
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Jul 20 2009, 04:12 PM
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 Ley <3 Group: Member Posts: 579 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 664,894 |
Wow that was long. She sounds like she's one of those needy girls. Doesn't really sound worth it. You f*cked her when you were drunk i think if you really wanted to be with her you would have made a move when you were sober. Tell her to loose your number, that usually works.
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Jul 20 2009, 04:13 PM
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 Sex, Blood, & RocknRoll Group: People Staff Posts: 5,305 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 596,480 |
QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Jul 20 2009, 04:10 PM)  well how serious was their relationship? did they date for like years and he loved her or they just dated short term, it ended, and he doesn't give a f*ck about her anymore. That's what I'm wondering. Just ask your friend. I mean 3 years should be enough to get over most any relationship, but if he has a problem with it don't go for it. |
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Jul 20 2009, 04:35 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
QUOTE(Tung @ Jul 20 2009, 05:03 PM) We got into a huge argument last night because, last night in bed, we were making out, and then we stopped. I then said "well if nothing's gonna happen tonight, I'm going to sleep". She got really pissed, and cried, and said I was using her. We argued and talked over things for 2-3 hours up to 5am last night. I don't think you should have said that. You were being honest, yes, but I'd have thought the same thing if a guy said that to me; I just wouldn't have cried. Definitely tell your best friend about this. You can probably leave out the part about how she's liked you since the 10th grade since then he might feel like his whole relationship with her wasn't real or whatever. Then again it's been three whole years, so maybe he won't even care if you tell him that bit. Good luck with all this. I hope everything works out in your favor. |
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Jul 20 2009, 04:46 PM
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 ◕ ◡ ◕ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,779 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,697 |
i didn't know you actually valued friendship
like everybody said above me, talk to your best friend. i'd hate to be last one to know or have them doing things behind my back. |
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Jul 20 2009, 05:34 PM
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Member Group: Duplicate Posts: 22 Joined: Jul 2009 Member No: 736,443 |
calm the f*ck down, guilt is a temporary emotion, in like 5 days, your gonna be normal
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Jul 20 2009, 09:48 PM
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 f your couch Group: Official Member Posts: 3,089 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 491,301 |
QUOTE(interpretation @ Jul 20 2009, 04:35 PM) Definitely tell your best friend about this. You can probably leave out the part about how she's liked you since the 10th grade since then he might feel like his whole relationship with her wasn't real or whatever. Then again it's been three whole years, so maybe he won't even care if you tell him that bit. Good luck with all this. I hope everything works out in your favor. this, QUOTE(gojira @ Jul 20 2009, 04:46 PM) like everybody said above me, talk to your best friend. i'd hate to be last one to know or have them doing things behind my back. and this. oh and next time the making out stops and you don't think it's going anywhere, just go to sleep. don't say anything like that. |
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Jul 20 2009, 10:14 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Designer Posts: 5,880 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 593,382 |
Dude its been three years. Talk to your best friend. Dont you think you guys are moving kinda fast? Sure you slept with her but you were drunk. Big difference when you sleep with someone and you are sober. Now shes living with you?
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Jul 20 2009, 10:39 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
tung, what everyone said, do it. talk to your best friend.
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Jul 21 2009, 01:03 PM
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 TooMuch Swagg Group: Member Posts: 378 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 645,693 |
i wouldn't give a f*ck . people tend to bother too much
your best friend && her went out 3 years ago... a long long time ago i wouldn't feel guilty... at all! |
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Jul 21 2009, 07:12 PM
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Senior Member Group: Banned Posts: 124 Joined: Mar 2009 Member No: 721,055 |
you are a huge puzzi boi
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Jul 21 2009, 10:40 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
Dump that stalker. Stop leading her on if your not interested.
Do tell your friend if it's ok to date her if you want more than just sex from her. Honestly, I think it's a bad idea. Never date your best friend's ex. |
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Jul 22 2009, 01:43 PM
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٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
Well I just got off the phone with him, and told him everything that happened. He says it's whatever, and he's really fine with it. He doesn't even care about it or anything. He's said it's been 3-4 years so yeah. He just said not to bring her next to him lol.
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Jul 22 2009, 01:59 PM
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 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,020 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,768 |
Which means he doesn't like it but doesn't want to seem like a bitter dickhead so he tells you it's okay.
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Jul 22 2009, 02:13 PM
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Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
QUOTE(Tung @ Jul 22 2009, 02:43 PM) Well I just got off the phone with him, and told him everything that happened. He says it's whatever, and he's really fine with it. He doesn't even care about it or anything. He's said it's been 3-4 years so yeah. He just said not to bring her next to him lol. Hmm, okay then. Topic closed? PM me if you want it reopened. |
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