Asians.. Blacks.. the gap??, No offense.. Options

[dpl313]

Before I start let it be said that I'm not trying to be offensive.

For the Asian girls/women on this site has a guy ever called you stuck up or misleading? Just wondering, because I was having this conversation with my cousin, and we talked about characteristics of women of different races. He was saying how Asian women tend to be a little harder to get(relationship wise) and stuck up.

I thought about this for a bit, and I looked back on every experience I've had talking to an Asian girl/woman. Ironically some of the same patterns have happened in most cases. Like at times it'll end up to be they'll be into me slighty. Then it's always some bs excuse as to why they don't want to go any further. It never fails.. The ones I recall most are.. "my parents.. you fill in the blank." Then the one where they go with the other guy who treats them like crap to try to change them.

As my cousin said this.. it really had me thinking would an Asian male/female date a Black male/female, or is it something that wouldn't happen?

I dunno maybe it's because I'm Black, and in my area you don't see Asians and Blacks together. Even when I moved to a few other states I didn't see it either. Then I was thinking how Black people do get stereotyped sometimes by some members of the Asian culture. I had this one incident that sticks out. I was at this Chinese Buffet restaurant, and this Asian teenager kept staring at me like.. What are you doing here?? I guess I'm losing the theme of my point. I'm not looking to be bashed, nor am I looking for someone to say... You're a nice guy.. poor you, etc. I just want the truth.

[Gigi]

@ the racial hierarchy

i don't understand what it's based off of though or who's perspective this is based off? i mean is it supposed to be what men and women in general prefer? i get that you're not saying this is the ranking for how every single person feels, but i don't even feel it reflects generally either.

i don't think it's possible to make a ranking even in a general sense for all males, because from my experience the ranking would usually change up from one race to another. does that make sense? white women might be #1 to white men, but i don't think white women are #1 to every male (even in general)

i duno, i can't figure out a good wording for what i'm saying. so, in the end i'm saying i don't agree with the ranking. personally, i don't think it can be ranked, period. but even if i was going to attempt to do something as silly as rank women by race, it wouldn't reflect that order anyway.

I completely agree with this. I think there is some sort of "racial hierarchy" that exists but it's totally different for each group of people. You can barely mush people together into a single racial group as it is, let alone as an all-encompassing group. Tung's hierarchy might be right, but for who? What kind of people? Surely it's not the same for each group. And if you're saying that's the "general" hierarchy, are we assuming that there are more white people and therefore the whole scale is tipped? It's all quite silly.

It's like saying that generally, everyone on this planet is good at math because Chinese people are good at math, and there are a lot of Chinese people on this planet. All (possibly) true, but relevant? Not really. It's much more useful to look at the different cultural influences - i.e. WHY certain types of people differ in math skills in this example, or for interracial dating, WHY certain types of groups like other types of groups - rather than clump everything into a single generality.

[Sandraaa]

I only know one couple that a black woman and a white man. But technically that man is not white, he's spanish. I've met many where black women are dating asians and hispanics, and where black men date different races of women. I've met many couples that has a black man and a white girl. It's not very common that I've seen a black girl and a white guy together. Although I'm pretty sure it'll rise.

Spanish IS White. Spaniards ARE White. Latinos on the other hand aren't.

[*BOSS*]

@ the racial hierarchy

i don't understand what it's based off of though or who's perspective this is based off? i mean is it supposed to be what men and women in general prefer? i get that you're not saying this is the ranking for how every single person feels, but i don't even feel it reflects generally either.

i don't think it's possible to make a ranking even in a general sense for all males, because from my experience the ranking would usually change up from one race to another. does that make sense? white women might be #1 to white men, but i don't think white women are #1 to every male (even in general)

i duno, i can't figure out a good wording for what i'm saying. so, in the end i'm saying i don't agree with the ranking. personally, i don't think it can be ranked, period. but even if i was going to attempt to do something as silly as rank women by race, it wouldn't reflect that order anyway.

Its pretty much white and then everyone else. Well, pertaining to the US at least.

[brooklyneast05]

Its pretty much white and then everyone else. Well, pertaining to the US at least.

according to who though? you mean all black people, asian people, hispanic people, all prefer white first?

[*BOSS*]

To US society

[Simba]

didn't read a single thing but just wanted to say that I <3 muh s

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Spanish IS White. Spaniards ARE White. Latinos on the other hand aren't.

he's Cuban, so does that describe him as Latino or Spanish? I don't know the difference -__-.

[PurpleDaze112]

black guys are with everyone. Like, I've seen a blakc guy in every kind of relationship, black/white, black/asian, gay/straight, all that.

I don't really know alot of asian girls, but I guess they come like everyone else, tease or slut, whatever. It's weird how you never see a black chick with anyone else but someone black. I'd date any kind of guy. Race doesn't really matter.

[hi-C]

he's Cuban, so does that describe him as Latino or Spanish? I don't know the difference -__-.

Latino. Spanish = from Spain. Latino = from Central/South America (but not Brazil) and the Caribbean (i.e. the rest of the world).

[brooklyneast05]

seems every asian girl ive ever talked to said her parents would never want them to date a black guy. asian girls in my life as well as asian girls here on cb that i've talked to about this.



yeah i'm talking to you tina

[LittleMissSunshi...]

LOL. it's not our fault that Asian parents don't allow black people.. Heck my parents don't want me to date Spanish/Latino guys. They feel better with our own kind.. which is sad, cause they go traditionally. I never asked my parents about white guys, although they might approve because many of my cousins are married to white men and women.

[*BOSS*]

lol@jc keeping his options oppened

[Sandraaa]

LOL. it's not our fault that Asian parents don't allow black people.. Heck my parents don't want me to date Spanish/Latino guys. They feel better with our own kind.. which is sad, cause they go traditionally. I never asked my parents about white guys, although they might approve because many of my cousins are married to white men and women.

Your parents don't want you to date Latinos, not Spanish. You've never asked them about White guys so you don't know if they'd approve of you dating Spanish guys. Seeing as Spaniards are White. LOL. I'm sorry but it kind of irks me when people confuse Spanish people with Latinos. Spain is in Europe and Europeans are White. xD

[gojira]

if you want to get that literal, sure. her parents are still going to judge by their skin color. if the 'spanish' looks a least bit latino (kinda like how all asians look alike), her parents are going to disapprove.

[Sandraaa]

if you want to get that literal, sure. her parents are still going to judge by their skin color. if the 'spanish' looks a least bit latino (kinda like how all asians look alike), her parents are going to disapprove.

... Spanish people look White with a very good tan. My boyfriend is Spanish and trust me he's White, except when he goes to Spain for holidays, then he comes back tan. My boyfriend's mom is very White with red hair. LOL. Anyway, I understand that some of them look like Latinos but that's not the case in general. ;)

[LittleMissSunshi...]

Your parents don't want you to date Latinos, not Spanish. You've never asked them about White guys so you don't know if they'd approve of you dating Spanish guys. Seeing as Spaniards are White. LOL. I'm sorry but it kind of irks me when people confuse Spanish people with Latinos. Spain is in Europe and Europeans are White. xD

I never really asked for white people as in American whites. because many of my cousins are married to whites as in not Spaniards. down here in south florida, latinos and spanish are mixed together, cause they are freaking everywhere, so we kinda just call them all one race here. anywho, it's exactly how gojira said it.

[Sandraaa]

I never really asked for white people as in American whites. because many of my cousins are married to whites as in not Spaniards. down here in south florida, latinos and spanish are mixed together, cause they are freaking everywhere, so we kinda just call them all one race here. anywho, it's exactly how gojira said it.

LOL. Oh. Alright. :)

[DoubleJ]

LMAO@ JC CALLING OUT TINA

[kryogenix]

I see lots of Asians shopping at The GAP but not too many blacks

[hi-C]

I shop at the Gap

[SuckDickNSaveLiv...]

This is why I date latin chicks; the parents don't have a problem wit'cha boy.

[SuckDickNSaveLiv...]

I see lots of Asians shopping at The GAP but not too many blacks

I thought LL Cool J was a spokesperson for GAP, but I was thinking wrong. It was FUBU. Continue.