availability policy Options

[batman]

One of my friends thinks that anything's fair game as long as there are no kids involved, i.e. she could flirt with a married man so long as he doesn't have children with his wife.

Anyways, X and Y hang out a lot. A lot, a lot. Like all day and all night, a lot. Y has (or had,... it's pretty unclear) a girlfriend, but barely mentions her name. X just had an epiphany and realizes that she really, really likes Y. X doesn't really know what to do. M (me) tells her to bring up the girlfriend to see where they stand. X doesn't want to. X plans to just keep spending a lot of time with Y. M doesn't like that plan.

The way I figure... she already likes him so much and she doesn't really know where they stand. He has this girlfriend of about a year or so, but she says he's only mentioned her once in the entire time she's known him. The more time she spends with him not knowing how things are between them, the more she's gonna like him, right?

Meh. I'm telling her to back off a bit until she knows what's up, but my other friend's telling her to go for it.

What's your policy about dating/flirting/etc with someone who's technically 'unavailable?'

[smash]

i don't mess with guys who are taken. the way i see it, he's just trying to have his cake and eat it too. even if he breaks up with his girlfriend, who's to say he won't do the same thing to your friend? it's just not right.

[hypnotique]

i don't mess with guys who are taken. the way i see it, he's just trying to have his cake and eat it too. even if he breaks up with his girlfriend, who's to say he won't do the same thing to your friend? it's just not right.

I also dont bother with people who are on breaks with their bitches or people who have been with someone sexually in the last 3 months.

[kryogenix]

I don't care if there's a ring on your finger, I flirt with them all, men, women, children, clergymmen, the animals in the park, monster trucks, don't matter to me, watch out cause I'm coming after YOU

[Gigi]

NEVER with someone that's "unavailable", no matter how available they seem despite being...technically unavailable. If that made sense. It makes things way overcomplicated and you get left in the shithole if it goes wrong. I'd rather be with a guy who considers me to be more important than whatever other relationship he's in.

[maliciousmagg0t]

i have to be honest that i dont really care if they are with someone or not. the whole point of dating is to shop around before you buy. see what guys your into and arent into. i mean if you have a good idea then so be it. but this is also why you need to stay friends with your ex's so you can have friends with benefits after you break up. lol. :)

but really though, i dont mess around with girls who have boyfriends, if they express interest in me then i ask them where they stand with their boyfriend and if they dont like them then i tell them that they need to talk it over with their boyfriend (communication is the key :D) before the try and hook up with me. i've been cheated on and didnt like it at all, it was around the time i was about to buy her a promise ring too so im glad i didnt do that! so anyways....... lol

there is this girl i like, liked her for a while and im start to lose interest (relationship wise) because she is dating this guy that she doesn't really like. when she's hangin out with me and all her friends she wants to stay out all night and he calls to say that he's comin to get her and she gets pouty the rest of the night. she's already told me that she likes me but im assuming the likes the sense of security she has with this other guy because he's like 28 i believe and she's 19 lol... so yeaaa... the live together and what not but that doesnt stop me from flirting with her, i think she deserves better than that guy whether its me or not idc. i'd prefer it if she dated me lol, but i dont think she needs to be with someone who doesnt want her to hang out with her friends all the time, or spies on her or tries to be overly controlling. but wutever, this further proves my theory that girls love assholes so apparently i need to stop being the nice guy lol.

[Tomates]

If i have a friend who is flirting with a guy who is already taken, then i would tell her to back off. Not fair to the other person imo

[fameONE]

It really depends. I'm no angel. I've been with a married woman before. There's a backstory, but the bottom line is; it happened. I tend not to pay any attention to women who are unavailable. The simple fact that they're physically or emotionally involved with someone else practically makes them invisible unless there is some sort of history there. I'm either cold and distant, not showing women the time of day (or talking to people in general), or I'm in a good mood that I become a lot smoother and charismatic than I realize. Without any advances, and if boundaries are respected, I suppose all is fair.

[iDecay]

NEVER with someone that's "unavailable", no matter how available they seem despite being...technically unavailable. If that made sense. It makes things way overcomplicated and you get left in the shithole if it goes wrong. I'd rather be with a guy who considers me to be more important than whatever other relationship he's in.

Word.

Mmmm, I can't say I've never messed around with someone who was unavailable, but I can say I don't do it anymore. (Long story, do not want to mention.) I don't do anything with guys if I know for sure that they're in a relationship. I don't care if they've been in one for 3 days or 3 years, they're off limits to me. If they are going to give me more attention than their sig. other, they probably would do the same thing if I was with them. I don't want a guy like that.