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 Feb 18 2009, 07:33 AM
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 Onen i-Estel Edain, ú-chebin estel anim.  Group: Official Designer Posts: 425 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,128  |
Okay, so this guy (I don't actually know if we're dating anymore) basically-sort-of told me that he wasn't into me anymore. The problem is that I really really like him - he's an amazing guy except that he has Aspergers.
I gave him a little leeway because of his condition but I couldn't stand it anymore because he just kept getting mad at me and I was always apologizing so I confronted him about it. He basically blew me off and I don't know what to do now... I like another guy apart from him, the problem is that guy is also very taken. He's really in love with his boyfriend and I'm pretty sure that the extent of his feelings for me is probably friends. If I was being conceited, I'd say he probably thinks of me as a little brother. I don't know who I should choose or what I should do... |
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Feb 18 2009, 10:17 AM
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 55KAMG's<3 Group: Member Posts: 232 Joined: Sep 2007 Member No: 577,506 |
its cuz you're filipino.
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Feb 18 2009, 06:47 PM
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Onen i-Estel Edain, ú-chebin estel anim. Group: Official Designer Posts: 425 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,128 |
*snorts*
But the two guys aren't. |
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Feb 18 2009, 09:26 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
Honestly, I don't think you should go after either. It's more obvious with the one who's already taken. You don't want to be that guy who is flirting with him and overstepping your bounds. If you care for the either guy there really isn't a reason why you can't be in their lives. You just may have to be in their lives on different terms. If the first guy isn't interested in you and you can't put up with the unpredictability of his moods that come along with being with him then maybe you two should just stay friends. Or part ways. No matter how much either of you try to convince yourselves, things won't change. It's a part of who he is and if you expect that to change then you're not only being unfair to him but you are setting expectations for him to meet and when he cannot meet those expectations things will only get worse.
I hope I don't sound harsh. |
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Feb 18 2009, 11:59 PM
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Onen i-Estel Edain, ú-chebin estel anim. Group: Official Designer Posts: 425 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,128 |
It doesn't really matter now about the first one. He's already ignoring me.
And the other guy is my best friend... It's just that I really like both of them... I can just be friends with the second one but I just can't stop thinking about the first guy. |
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Feb 19 2009, 12:38 AM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
i think you need to find out which one that makes you happier. if the first one makes you uncomfortable, then that's a problem. 2nd one is with someone else, and makes you feel good.. but you have to realize that you can't be with that person.
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Feb 19 2009, 08:52 AM
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Onen i-Estel Edain, ú-chebin estel anim. Group: Official Designer Posts: 425 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 653,128 |
Okay. I'm on talking terms with #1 right now. Kind of.
But #2... I'm kinda scared for him He lives close to where the Australian bush fires have hit And he hasn't come online since vday And he mentioned he was packing or something Sooo yeah... |
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Feb 19 2009, 02:44 PM
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DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
So the second guy doesn't live near you?
I think you need to give your emotions a rest. Treat them both as friends, not as romantic interests. Even if you did end up with one of them your mind would still be on the other. Someone who's deserving of you (and who you deserve) will eventually come into your life. And you wouldn't want to be tied down in a mediocre relationship when he comes into your life 
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Feb 21 2009, 01:10 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 80 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,948 |
Meet someone new.
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Feb 21 2009, 01:45 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
^agreeed :]
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