He cheated.., please help me out Options

[LittleMissSunshi...]

awh, you don't derserve him at all. you shouldn't even take him back! i wouldn't, and if he said he loves you, he wouldn't have been with her at all. i'm sorry girlfran, but you gotta dump him!

[heyo-captain-jac...]

Give him a week or two. If he slips up at all, dump him.

[emberfly]

If you're a stupid person, give him another chance, it may have been a mistake, but you must realize that if he did it once, he'll will do it again.
One very important thing is if you are having sex. If you are, you're putting yourself at risk for STDs and HIV if you stay with him. If you're not having sex with him, then it doesn't matter much and you dump that bastard anyway.

Fixed for correctness.

[Rachel]

Damn girl, have some self-respect. The man has cheated on you for over HALF of your so-called wonderful relationship. You deserve more than some half-a-man-mother-f*cker who can't keep it in his pants. IDGAF if he is your "rock", he obviously wasn't feelin the same if he strayed and kept it up for 10 WHOLE MONTHS. I mean come on now, how can you even fathom letting him stick around? Why? So he can be good for a few months, meet some other slut (or perhaps return to slut #1) and start it all up again?? Jesus, you are only 17. Life goes on after high school relationships. There are plenty of other guys out there who will love and care about you enough to not cheat, plus they probably have bigger dicks.

(PS speaking from experience, and yes, all the others have had bigger dicks and better sexy time, not to mention better loving in general).

[hypnotique]

Damn girl, have some self-respect. The man has cheated on you for over HALF of your so-called wonderful relationship. You deserve more than some half-a-man-mother-f*cker who can't keep it in his pants. IDGAF if he is your "rock", he obviously wasn't feelin the same if he strayed and kept it up for 10 WHOLE MONTHS. I mean come on now, how can you even fathom letting him stick around? Why? So he can be good for a few months, meet some other slut (or perhaps return to slut #1) and start it all up again?? Jesus, you are only 17. Life goes on after high school relationships. There are plenty of other guys out there who will love and care about you enough to not cheat, plus they probably have bigger dicks.

(PS speaking from experience, and yes, all the others have had bigger dicks and better sexy time, not to mention better loving in general).

Amen girl

[AyeVickaye]

Why stay with somebody that hella hurt you and lied to you? He's not the only one for you. drop that nig.

[CO0KiE]

My boyfriend of two years cheated on me 3 months into our relationship and forgave him. He would hang out with girls and it drove me insane, but he couldnt avoid being around other girls. He cheated on me again 7 months into the relationship, but he didn't have sex with her. I forgave him. A year and a half into the relationship he kissed another girl, I forgave him for it. 23 months into the relationship, he told me that he had sex with another girl, and that he was so sorry and that he loved me and that he wouldn't do it again. I left him immediately.

If you're a forgiving person, give him another chance, it may've been a mistake, but you must realize that if he did it once, he'll probably do it again.
One very important thing is if you are having sex. If you are, you're putting yourself at risk for STDs and HIV if you stay with him. If you're not having sex with him, then it doesn't matter much and you can stay with him.

How could you forgive him so many times? Was it hard? Did you guys.,... do the whole "break up and make up" thing, where the couple goes on break for a little bit then gets back together again?

[CO0KiE]

Damn girl, have some self-respect. The man has cheated on you for over HALF of your so-called wonderful relationship. You deserve more than some half-a-man-mother-f*cker who can't keep it in his pants. IDGAF if he is your "rock", he obviously wasn't feelin the same if he strayed and kept it up for 10 WHOLE MONTHS. I mean come on now, how can you even fathom letting him stick around? Why? So he can be good for a few months, meet some other slut (or perhaps return to slut #1) and start it all up again?? Jesus, you are only 17. Life goes on after high school relationships. There are plenty of other guys out there who will love and care about you enough to not cheat, plus they probably have bigger dicks.

(PS speaking from experience, and yes, all the others have had bigger dicks and better sexy time, not to mention better loving in general).

His privates don't matter to me.. What matters is him.. I know, I'm only 17, yaddayadda, but there's no age for love. You can learn to love at any age. The pain doesn't lessen. The pain doesn't fade or go away. Just because I'm 17 doesn't mean I should just not give a damn.. It hurts. And.. a relationship means nothing without trust.. he said he's going to prove to me that he cares and that he'll earn my trust back little by little..

[Stuckie]

His privates don't matter to me.. What matters is him.. I know, I'm only 17, yaddayadda, but there's no age for love. You can learn to love at any age. The pain doesn't lessen. The pain doesn't fade or go away. Just because I'm 17 doesn't mean I should just not give a damn.. It hurts. And.. a relationship means nothing without trust.. he said he's going to prove to me that he cares and that he'll earn my trust back little by little..

And you answered your own question

[forthesakeof]

it's a simple leave them. you can do better.

[sweetdreamsx3]

15 months - 10 months that he cheated on you = you only dated for five months and even though five months weren't faithful.

If he was so sorry and loved you, he wouldn't hurt you like this. Actually, if he was even sorry at all, he wouldn't have continued to see the other girl for 10 months. If you can't trust him, there's no need for second chances. I'm sure if you gave him another chance, your trust in him would still be very low and you'll probably be suspicious.. and there's no way a relationship could form out of that.

They used to always hang out, and it made me unconfortable, so he said he'd stop hanging with her so much,
he won't even sacrifice that for you, so find someone else. Drop that bitch.

[Tsukuyomi-No-Mok...]

honestly he ain't worth ya time if he really cared for you he wouldn't have done it n the first place.
and for the record you don't NEED anyone don't ever let ur self ever NEED someone cause you came in the world alone and u exit alone
you can just make things easier in life with another person but other people are privilaged to be in your life they aren't vital pieces that without them your nothin. this guy though you two have had relations and all that he srewed it up so don't give him a second chance to do it again

[vietbabiiix3]

He's just an ass.. Move on =[

[*BOSS*]

you should invest your time into another person. my friend arjuna capulong is single and ready to mingle =]

[illriginal]

Hey, my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 15 months. (One year and three months in February) But just a few days ago (Sunday) I found out that he had been cheating on me FOR TEN MONTHS! TEN! Those months, those times that we spent together, everything, he was sharing. He was with another girl. I knew who she was. He told me that he didn't even like her back then. And I asked him again, why would he do that? Why? Especially if he wasn't even attracted to her? And he said he didn't know how he felt towards her, and he didn't want to tell me. He doesn't want me to leave. I think I'm giving him a second chance.

ROFLMAO! EPIC!

When are women going to realize that young men only want ass... and they get played so hard. Welcome to the 21 century.

It is drilled into the minds of young men that sex, drugs, and money is the only way to earn self-respect & respect from others.

[Stuckie]

^Sad but true. Its like read into my adolescent mind

[Impressive]

You've have officially been chopped and screwed!

SCREWED SCREWED.....

You've officially been made a fool!
As the picture suggests...This will not end well.

[ForgetThePast]

Cookie, I am going through the same thing. I dated my boyfriend for two years, long distance seeing each other on every break and holiday (he lives in the same city/state as my family), I was planning to move there next month to be with him. We were planning on getting married, he bought me a ring, having kids, buy a home. We had our cells phones on one bill, that is how I caught him cheating. The first time was October 2008. I received the phone bill and found out he was talking to all these girls all hours of the day/night. I broke-up with him, he cried, begging and pleading and calling and calling: please give me another chance, Im sorry, I love you, I screwed up, I made a mistake. I took him back, two weeks later, caught him again making plans with a girl to hook up for the weekend. I broke-up with him again,two days before my Thanksgiving visit. He waited three hours outside my mom's house waiting for me to arrive again begging, pleading, crying. And because I LOVED HIM, I took him back and now eight weeks later we are back to square one, October 2008 all over again. Each time my heart was ripped out, my world was turned inside out, I could not eat, sleep, or function. Before each incident my gut feeling alarm was going off and I would ask him whats going on, what's wrong and each time he would assure me everything was fine. Your instincts are always RIGHT, follow them regardless of proof. This time, I cancelled his phone, changed my number, halted all plans for a move. My heart can't take it anymore. What I discovered is that a person who cheats is insecure and selfish. His inability to remain faithfull had nothing to do with me, I am beautiful, I am smart, I am great in bed, he has unresolved issues within himself. True love is selfless. Real love is not feelings or things, real love is a decision to commit your life in its entirety as a selfless act to another person. Cookie, you can go back and give him a chance to redeem himself but be prepared for a possible repeat and you need to ask yourself do you want to go through this all over again. Only you can decide for yourself the course of action to take. Until he resolves his underlying issues why he cheated, the love he offers will lead you down a path of destruction and death. In this instance, I would advise to follow your head and not your heart. I'm on day 11 and my ex-called begging and pleading, I love you, I can't live without you, you are all I want, you are all I need blah, blah, blah, I decided, I want no part of what he has to offer. I deserve better and I will have better.

[fagget]

So I guess you should change your avatar and headline, then.

I mean, it's not really love. I mean, the feeling's not even mutual. Get over it.
Be the pathetic teenage attention-wanting girl you are and stay with him, because he's the only that ever made you feel special. Or move on and stop crying and listening to sappy love songs and thinking you're the first one to say "It seems like every song is how I feel."

[atiajay]

sweety honestly, the best thing u can do right now is tell him to give you time... you need time to think things over and come up with a choice thats right for you. In the end baby girl u only u urself and u. 10 months into your relationship isnt just a mistake, he knew exactly wat he was doing to you, and never once did he stop to think how he was hurting you? so why should you think about his feelings of forgiveness now? look just take some time to think things out and during that time let him prove to you he cares if he doesnt care, he'll give up and its gna hurt like hell but hey... at least u'll have known the type of "love" he really had for you... good luck