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 Dec 8 2008, 06:41 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Validating Posts: 169 Joined: Oct 2008 Member No: 692,220  |
Today is a weird day at school.
I did an unintentional experiment about self-image. Today i looked decent because i had a new haircut and slimmer jean while i was wearing my typical converse shoe and sleeve. Before that, i was wearing bad jeans and had an nasty Asian afro hair. i looked hideous. with this fresh, new, and clean look, people are noticing me more. my tshirt design was selected to represent this 2008-2009 club tshirt. when i was performing a piano recital in front of everyone, i heard more claps than ever. People actually start talking to me in my classes, joking around, and giving me attentions. My teacher passed by me to say,"hi". All of this happened today.  THIS.IS.SUCH.A.WEIRD.SUPERFICIAL.DAY.EVER. what a world we live in ... Do you ever had a day when you receive more attractions and attentions just because you looked different or better? |
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Dec 8 2008, 06:55 PM
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 in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
Sometime around 11th to 12th grade, guys started opening doors for me. I mean, everyone does keep the door open usually when someone is close behind them, but every once in a while I come across a guy who opens the door fully and waits for me to go first.
I'm not one of those bitches who gets insulted at chivalry, but it still feels sort of weird that it happened out of nowhere, and I'm not really sure why. But I'm thinking it has something to do with image. Haven't really noticed any difference with girls/friends/teachers though. I do get a lot more stares when I get a new haircut, like the time I got bangs, but it could just be because I looked so different, not because I looked any better. |
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Dec 8 2008, 07:11 PM
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 ◕ ◡ ◕ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,779 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 416,697 |
pics plz. i look ugly everyday, it's effortless. i loves it.
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Dec 8 2008, 07:12 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
QUOTE(giraffe @ Dec 8 2008, 04:11 PM)  pics plz. |
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Dec 8 2008, 07:15 PM
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 Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
QUOTE(Gigi @ Dec 8 2008, 06:55 PM) I'm not one of those bitches who gets insulted at chivalry, but it still feels sort of weird that it happened out of nowhere, and I'm not really sure why. But I'm thinking it has something to do with image. AY, girls like you make confuse me, 'cause when I'm working with girls I can't decide whether I should open doors for her out of politeness/chivalry or let her open the door herself to respect her independence. |
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Dec 8 2008, 07:34 PM
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in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
^ Go for the happy medium, like, just keep the door open but don't open it FOR her. I think that's just common courtesy though, I would do it for anybody. If you do open it for her, then a girl who doesn't like it will obviously be insulted, but a girl who doesn't mind it (someone like me) will still feel a little bit weird. It's always a bit awkward, maybe that's why girls don't like it. But I just say thank you and go in. I mean, get a grip, he's just opening the door, not making a move on you.
 Generally I go for the "whoever gets to the door first" rule. If I happen to get to the door first, I'll open the door for myself and keep the door open for the guy. If the guy gets there first and he's not a jackass then he'll go in first and keep the door open, or he might just let me go before him. I don't mind either way. I would never get to the door first, wait for the guy to catch up, and EXPECT for him to open the door. |
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Dec 8 2008, 07:43 PM
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Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
QUOTE(Gigi @ Dec 8 2008, 07:34 PM) Generally I go for the "whoever gets to the door first" rule. If I happen to get to the door first, I'll open the door for myself and keep the door open for the guy. If the guy gets there first and he's not a jackass then he'll go in first and keep the door open, or he might just let me go before him. I don't mind either way. I would never get to the door first, wait for the guy to catch up, and EXPECT for him to open the door. Ha ha word, that sounds about right
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Dec 8 2008, 07:44 PM
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I really think it's a mental thing. When your satisfaction and perception of yourself is higher (i.e. today w/ your haircut, etc), your awareness increases, you carry yourself differently, etc. So of course, people are going to notice and react; in turn, you're more aware of these reactions towards you, thus you feel like you're on top of the world.
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Dec 8 2008, 07:49 PM
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 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,155 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 95,404 |
^ That's exactly what I was going to say, but in better words haha.
I don't think I've ever really experienced/noticed that I got more attention because of how I looked... but yeah, whenever I feel good about myself I just end up having a better day. |
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Dec 8 2008, 07:59 PM
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Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
WALK AROUND WITH A HUGE CAMERA ALL THE TIME AND THEN SEE HOW YOU FEEL
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Dec 8 2008, 10:05 PM
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Senior Member Group: Validating Posts: 169 Joined: Oct 2008 Member No: 692,220 |
^
then why do you have it, if you have a problem with it?  QUOTE(Gigi @ Dec 8 2008, 06:55 PM) Sometime around 11th to 12th grade, guys started opening doors for me. I mean, everyone does keep the door open usually when someone is close behind them, but every once in a while I come across a guy who opens the door fully and waits for me to go first. I'm not one of those bitches who gets insulted at chivalry, but it still feels sort of weird that it happened out of nowhere, and I'm not really sure why. But I'm thinking it has something to do with image. Haven't really noticed any difference with girls/friends/teachers though. I do get a lot more stares when I get a new haircut, like the time I got bangs, but it could just be because I looked so different, not because I looked any better. what about image? |
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Dec 8 2008, 10:31 PM
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Photoartist Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,363 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 399,390 |
those were tears of joy
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Dec 8 2008, 10:36 PM
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in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
QUOTE(Whinoa @ Dec 8 2008, 07:05 PM) what about image? ...what? I just talked about it. It's there. |
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Dec 8 2008, 10:40 PM
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After I lost weight, people were telling me how pretty I was. Literally. One woman said, "Look at how pretty you've gotten." Heifer is lucky I like her.
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Dec 8 2008, 11:45 PM
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 Sex, Blood, & RocknRoll Group: People Staff Posts: 5,305 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 596,480 |
^ That's such a backhanded complement. It's like what, opposed to the other day when I was ugly?
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Dec 9 2008, 12:24 AM
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Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
^ Exactly!
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Dec 9 2008, 12:26 AM
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lol
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Dec 9 2008, 12:31 AM
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Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
^ ... who the f*ck are you?
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Dec 9 2008, 12:32 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 75 Joined: Dec 2008 Member No: 702,547 |
lol
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Dec 9 2008, 12:48 AM
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 Live long and prosper. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 5,525 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 478,024 |
^
 QUOTE(ArjunaCapulong @ Dec 8 2008, 06:15 PM) AY, girls like you make confuse me, 'cause when I'm working with girls I can't decide whether I should open doors for her out of politeness/chivalry or let her open the door herself to respect her independence. Just say this: SHUT THE f*ck UP YOU DUMB f*ckING c**t IM THE MAN UP IN THIS BITCH AND I FINNA OPEN THE f*ckING DOOR FOR YOU WHORE WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT.*smacks the bitch*  You got to stand your ground son. |
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Dec 9 2008, 01:03 AM
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Amberific. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,913 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,772 |
QUOTE(letsallgethigh @ Dec 9 2008, 12:32 AM) Sounds like I struck a nerve. Or not?
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Dec 9 2008, 01:51 AM
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 Drank wit your boy Group: Official Member Posts: 1,711 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 649,997 |
QUOTE(giraffe @ Dec 8 2008, 08:11 PM) pics plz. Before and After Fixed. |
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Dec 9 2008, 02:17 AM
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people treated me different when i started lifting. after i made significant gains. i've definitely noticed that....
but sometimes i get bullshit comments from girls now, that i didn't get before...  "you work out too much" "in the gym AGAIN" i had a girl assume i was all big headed and shit before she even knew me. wtf is that shit about? lol im just goofy old evan, all the while i still think im the skinny guy with a lot of work to do. yet it seems some chicks have some weird ass baggage about stuff i didn't realize before... very interesting. lol like one time, i was at the gym with this girl i met not too long ago, i was in the free weights and she comes over her: "why are all these mirrors here, i would hate all these mirrors around while working out" me: you should see it here when its busy, there's lots of people who loooove looking at these mirrors her: yeah right i bet you love these mirrors around, i bet your just like them. me: haha... no (is what i was thinking) but i just ended up saying something sarcastic. and then we went to wendy's, and she would make comments like "can we eat here, or are you gonna have to run it off?" my mouth said "ill have a baked potato, and have a little jog around the restaurant and ill be good" but my head was like " " it got really annoying lol i dunno.[/end rant] sorry cb. ill stick to my one line posts. |
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Dec 9 2008, 02:31 AM
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in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
^ I do know this guy who makes it a habit to mention, at least once a day, that he works out. And we absolutely don't give a shit. Not to mention if you look at his actual body...there is nothing much to be proud of. That's like the exact opposite of your problem though. I do do the whole "are you going to run it off" thing to my brother because he's such a girl about keeping his figure
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Dec 9 2008, 02:38 AM
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L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
like i hate even mentioning that im at the gym, the only time i do is when im at the gym and i get a text saying "whacha doin!?" im like "
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