How to deal with a Breakup? Options

[swishersweet]

I broke up with my ex-gf about a week ago. I was really sprung over her, which is weird since i'm the one that dumped her. I'm trying to get over her since I've already made myself look like a fool. If you know what I mean..

What should I do?

[shanaynay]

why did you break up with her in the first place?

[Tomates]

just talk to her again.

[espressive]

so when you say "what should i do?", are you asking for ways to get over somebody or are you asking for ways to get somebody back?

[swishersweet]

why did you break up with her in the first place?

bcuz i hadn't seen her for 3 weeks and she never ever called or text me in the 2 months that we were in a relationship.

so when you say "what should i do?", are you asking for ways to get over somebody or are you asking for ways to get somebody back?

i've already tried getting back with her so that's not going to work; i made myself look like a total fool when i did that.
just getting over someone in general.

[Tomates]

like i mentioned above just talk to her, and i also want to add to be curteous and sensitive to her. If she is upset then lashing out wont help, girls are sensitive and sometimes things cant hurt more than what you intented to say.
Just keep that in mind

[miyashu]

hang out with your friends more, play video games/or whatever you like to do, or talk to another cutie :D.

[swishersweet]

like i mentioned above just talk to her, and i also want to add to be curteous and sensitive to her. If she is upset then lashing out wont help, girls are sensitive and sometimes things cant hurt more than what you intented to say.
Just keep that in mind

oh man.. i've already talked to her once. and... as you said not to do. i did. i wish i had ur advice earlier b4 i did that.

should i keep making myself look desperate and call her?

[Chii]

You need to just keep yourself busy, there's no use trying to get back with her. I don't think anything can be salvaged since it's pretty much ruined beyond repair.

You should focus on school and your friends. Break ups aren't the end of the world.

[Tomates]

oh man.. i've already talked to her once. and... as you said not to do. i did. i wish i had ur advice earlier b4 i did that.

should i keep making myself look desperate and call her?

both times i said you should talk to her...

[swishersweet]

i know wat u said.
i said i've already done that and made myself look like a fool.
the question was rhetorical.

[libertie]

What helps me is being around other people and staying focused on other things. Make sure you let them know that you're getting past it and that they can treat you normally, because if they don't you'll just feel worse and you'll feel like you're bringing everyone else down with you. Don't dwell on it, also. It won't help. Just try to distract yourself and get used to the fact that you aren't together anymore.

Sidenote, if she seemed distant and wouldn't talk to you it's probably because she wasn't into it either. Breaking up with her was probably the right thing to do, and that would explain why getting back with her is pointless. Don't let her try to make you look like the bad guy, just understand that you needed to break up and don't make a fuss over it.

[loveneko]

I broke up with my ex-gf about a week ago. I was really sprung over her, which is weird since i'm the one that dumped her. I'm trying to get over her since I've already made myself look like a fool. If you know what I mean..

What should I do?

Cut the conversation and calls and contact. Find someone else to keep your mind pre-occupied. Its the fastest way to get over someone. I've done it plenty of times, and Im in the process of doing it now.

[swishersweet]

Great advice and input libertie.
Thanks.

There are some other problems I have with her too, but I think I can solve them.

[espressive]

errhm if you already tried contacting her and made yourself look like a fool, then perhaps it's best not to initiate contact with her again for a while. i'm not saying you shouldn't EVER, but honestly, sometimes it's just easier to wait until your emotions die down before you go to that person again. not seeing/talking to somebody for a while does wonders! another you can do (okay, it sounds lame but desperate times calls for desperate needs) is journal. you're probably filled with rollercoaster emotions at this point and you need somewhere to "put" them. now sometimes, that may be in the form of talking with friends, but friends may get wary if you bother them too much. so just take out a piece of paper and write down how you're feeling or even write a letter TO her (but don't send it, obviously). also, make a playlist of songs that make you happy and play it when you're feeling icky. better yet, take that playlist out for a jog. Jogging really clears your mind, helps you to lose weight, and releases happy hormones! it's a package deal, i tell you.

here are also a couple of things to avoid. facebook/myspace are the devil. do NOT go on them or any other blogging site. i know you want to, and once you do, you're gonna be creeper and look at her site. do not scroll through your phone for old texts/voicemails. let's not bask in self-pity.


hope that helps. but really, let's face it - the first week of a breakup is gonna suck, no matter what you do but it's suppose to. and really, sometimes wallowing in self-pity helps. it's okay that you do that for like the first day or two, but the reality of it is to recollect yourself and move on. i assure you, things will get better with time.

[Joss-eh-lime]

if shes nice, then be friendly but keep your distance
if shes a b tch, then ignore her.

[fameONE]

Drink away your sorrows. Drown your insecurities as a man in a bottle of yor hard liquor of choice and bury your feelings.

I'm kidding.

Swallow your pride and apologize for slighting her. Own up to any wrongdoing, then present your feelings. If she rejects it, then count your losses and move on.

[applejaxkz]

How to deal with a Breakup?

Drugs and Alcohol is always the answer.

[Harp]

Eat some icecream, take a bubblebath, and call up your closest girlfriends.
Always works for me :]

[so0o_contagious]

go smoke a joint. jk.


surround yourself with people you love. that always takes my mind off things. keep yourself occupied. if you sit around at home eating icecream or some shit you'll never be able to get her out of your head.