Is it wrong?, dating one guy, love another |
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 Oct 22 2008, 10:17 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Validating Posts: 60 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 134,567  |
I started dating this guy, Guy A, about 3 weeks ago.
Before we started dating I had been with this other guy, guy B, for about 7 months. We never had the title of gf and bf, but we were exclusive and everyone knew it. We're GREAT friends, but he said he started to not like me at the end of the summer, so we decided to just be friends. Now I'm dating Guy A. He's really into our relationship and he really likes me. The thing is, I'm in love with Guy B. I'm a senior, and Guy A is just a high school boyfriend to me. Nothing serious, but an attempt to get over Guy B. I like Guy A, I really do, but my heart is with Guy B- and I don't see that changing. Is it wrong to be with Guy A when I still love Guy B? I'm still a major part of Guy B's life, but I think he still just wants to be friends. I don't know. Advice? |
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Oct 22 2008, 10:32 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 944 Joined: Jul 2008 Member No: 663,413 |
I would say, if Guy B said he is over the relationship and he just wants to be friends.. try to get over it too. Just stay friends and hey, maybe in the future you two might actually get back together. But try to get some space.
As for Guy A, It sounds to me like your taking advantage of him. I dont really like the whole idea of a rebound guy. Because if you stay in a relationship with Guy A, and you only like him as a high-school crush, then you may hurt him more than you think. Anyways, I have to get off this site and study for my midterm I have tomorrow morning!! |
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Oct 22 2008, 11:28 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
I think you need to get over Guy B first and foremost before getting into another relationship.
I've been in that sort of situation. I was with this one guy that I was on and off with for years. In between I'd date someone else and then cheat with that guy and get back with him just to end it and start the cycle over again. I'm finally over him but I've broken hearts and strung people along the way which isn't something to be proud of. It's not fair to enter a relationship without anteing up the same amount of yourself. |
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Oct 30 2008, 10:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 271 Joined: Feb 2008 Member No: 624,580 |
QUOTE Is it wrong?, dating one guy, love another Yes you're going to hell! |
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Oct 31 2008, 11:31 PM
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rawr? Group: Official Member Posts: 2,705 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 285,858 |
look, guyb isn't worth it.. you say your heart belongs to him.. but does it really? i mean, if it does, wouldn't you be with him right now? don't hurt guyA's feelings.. he seems like a nice guy. i think you like the fact that guyb wasn't really in a relationship. you guys were acting, but not really like official.. do you get what i'm saying?? like you just want him and have feelings with him because he gives you excitement in your life. and guyA is just a boyfriend.. you have to choose if you want a boyfriend, or you don't. cause guyA is your choice if you pick boyfriend and guyB is your negative..
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Nov 1 2008, 01:28 PM
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 Crimson&Cream Group: Member Posts: 97 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,708 |
Agree with dosomethin888
You really don't need to be in a relationship. Take your time to actually talk to these dudes and try to get to know them before getting attached. Don't rush it! |
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Nov 1 2008, 03:41 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,095 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 171,080 |
if you have to ask if it's wrong, chances are it is.
NEXT QUESTION! |
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