Men fall in love quicker..., hm Options

[Melissa]

We just learned in my psych class that men fall in love quicker than women, and women fall out of love quicker than men.

This surprised me.

Do you notice this ever?

[marielamuneka]

hmm... just because you're out doing stuff with other people doesn't mean you're not in love anymore. if you break up that doesn't automatically make you not be in love anymore. guys can pretend/claim that they're over it (as well as girls), and screw whoever but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are no longer in love.

not that they are no longer in love..with them just that they dont care enough about them and they go out and f**k chicks/guys and shit.. they do stupid things. but doing things like that causes people to think you dont love them anymore

[Melissa]

Because... your claim is too far-fetch.. or not your claim but the professor's. Culture, region, ethnics, religion, did these people even fall in love? Do they even know what love is? The list goes on.... lol you can't generalize the human race like that, there's too many variables.

I read the article... I laughed at it.

Just because we analyze American students in a specific campus... doesn't mean the rest of the world is gonna follow through with the same results, that's just horrifically laughable, to death.

No one has to research this... this is a big laugh. It's generalizing the human race as a whole for goodness sake. Unless you're Hitler's soul stuck in a female's body, then please I'm sorry, you're sooo right, don't put me in the oven

lol, it's useless to argue with you since you're obviously so single-minded that you don't even bother to look at the whole picture. You're so stuck in your idealistic definition of love that you can't even see that what they're talking about is not your poetic, Godly, what-have-you type of love, but the tendency to get into relationships.

And please, that wasn't the article. It was an abstract.

And the claim isn't mine nor my professor's. It was made in '76 (I believe) and hasn't been disputed to be false yet.

[illriginal]

lol, it's useless to argue with you since you're obviously so single-minded that you don't even bother to look at the whole picture. You're so stuck in your idealistic definition of love that you can't even see that what they're talking about is not your poetic, Godly, what-have-you type of love, but the tendency to get into relationships.

And please, that wasn't the article. It was an abstract.

And the claim isn't mine nor my professor's. It was made in '76 (I believe) and hasn't been disputed to be false yet.

Psychology is just psychology. You can't read a person's mind... you can't tell if they're tellin truth, how can it hold truth when the study would have to be done every year on every person. Time changes, culture changes, generations in general change... my only argument is simply that, "there's too many variables to make that statement legitimately true" bah I give up... I'm not even tryin to argue, I'm being as realistic as possible and you're tellin me different.

[Melissa]

win!

jk. I get what you're saying, I just disagree. Everybody has different opinions, I just think it's fun pinpointing yours since you posted after like... every individual post. This was never meant to get into a god/psychology discussion. lol. I was just studying for my midterm, thought that statement was interesting, and decided to post it up.

[AimeeLynn]

I might actually agree with this. So many of my guys friends had girl friends and majority of them the girl dumps the guy not the other way around. I think when the boy dumps the girl is only if the guy is a man whore lol.

But again it just depends on the person.

[superstitious]

Oh I'm not sure about that. From what I've seen, it's quite the opposite. At least it's like that for a while. Now, if a guy even starts muttering anything resembling "love", I run. I run far, I run fast. I just get the hell out. hahaha

[AimeeLynn]

^Not being mean or anything but I agree.

[aaayotiffany]

with the people i know, i've always known for guys to fall for the girl first. this happened to a lot of my guy friends, they supposedly "fell" for the girl, but then later on, dumps her.

like this good friend of mine was dating my best friend and he was the first to say 'i love you', she was always iffy about it and they were going out for almost 2 years, but then he dumped her because he fell "out of love" with her. so it really varies.

but a lot of my guy friends are whores. lol. so i think my comment doesn't count. but personally, i think it just depends on the person. i also heard that if a guy says 'i love you' supposedly he really means it and i heard that supposedly it means that he loves the girl more.

[Tramatize]

I've only fallen in love once, I am still young though.
But I did fall in love fast. Like the third time I hung out with her.

[Joss-eh-lime]

yeah i have noticed this

but it depends on what kind of love.
talking about fun "love ya" hugs&kisses love, then yes i believe men do
but live together forever marriage love, well, women probably fall into that kind of love faster.

I think when the boy dumps the girl is only if the guy is a man whore lol.

omg i so agree with you! haha thankss that made my day

[Sprague]

The data suggest that women are more cautious than men about entering into romantic relationships, more likely to compare these relationships to alternatives, more likely to end a relationship that seems ill fated, and better able to cope with rejection.

This seems very plausible to me. Several women, not generalizing to all the women, are very cautious about entering relationships because they always have their past relationships at the back of their head. What if this won't work, or what if there's someone better, or what if I'm not ready to settle down? Several men, on the other hand, skip into several different relationships after one crashes and burns. Though a lot of my male friends spent a ridiculous amount of time mourning after their lost girlfriend.

Although, there are some women who find it difficult to cope with the loss of a male significant other, as well. So like its been reiterated in this thread, it all varies on the type of person they are. But I do generally agree with what your psychology text book says.

[cmac]

Hmm, "----" I wouldn't exactly say guys fall in love quicker but in my opinion, and in my experience- its always the guy who slips the 4 letter word first.

[towntown2]

I can't speak for other girls and boys on this board..

But I personally fall out of love quicker than my partners.
Out of like at least.

[datass]

i've read or heard somewhere that when a guy loves a girl, he loves the girl more than the girl loves the guy.

[hi-C]

I can definitely believe the findings. My (ex-)boyfriend has been telling me he loves me for months. He's suggested/asked me a couple of times to marry him, each time I've said something to the effect of "HELL NAW, I'M NOT READY FOR THAT SHIT." I told him again last night. And then he hung up on me, basically.