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Moving on ... ?
DaCandy
post Aug 28 2008, 07:13 PM
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whistling.gif So yes, Im trying to move on and somehow forget the past.
Not that simple.
I been cheated on but I didnt got my heart broke or anything but ... [mellow.gif Who am I trying to fool ?]
Anyway, like I said before Im trying to move on and I met this guy shifty.gif and he's sweet, caring & has a great look [ YES ladies don't act like look doesn't count ! ].
We have some boring friends in common [ those who are like .. a pain in the ass ! ] and I think that's the reason why he doesn't make a move.
Our friends are like " OMG YALL LIKE EACHOTHER !!" && stuff like that. I always get like " What's wrong with it? GROW UP ! " But he gets all shy .
Their in their 20's but it seems like they're in middle school. GOD !
Well either way, on last sunday we watched a movie together and its been sweet being around & talking to him . But since yesterday I dont know what happened and he sudently changed.
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PLUS my x out of nowhere started to text me and telling me we need to meet and talk about things. I dont have nothing left to say, because I already did . " BYE " Why doesnt he leave me alone once and for all instead of keep trying to pulling me back & make me remember all the stuff we've been through ?
Anyway as for the other guy, Im really getting into him but since yesterday seems like he's pushing me away.
DAMN.
 
towntown2
post Aug 28 2008, 08:12 PM
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Mais je ne l'aime pas
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Okay.
So you're confused.

Well, some exes have harder times letting go.
Maybe he wants to rekindle the romance?

If relationship stuff is getting you down, it could be your heart telling you to take some time and be single.
 
espressive
post Aug 28 2008, 09:26 PM
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and so it is
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your ex might be want to talk about things so that it will bring closure to the relationship for him, except i'll find it uncanny if that was true considering he was the cheater. but i speak from experience that having a perfectly calm conversation about unanswered questions and such that weren't discussed in the relationship can be relieving for people that want to move on. it puts an end to running around in circles in your head, trying to think of answers to these questions.
on the other hand, your ex could be just trying to maintain a friendship with you. but truth be told, breakups are easier to get over when you don't see that person for a period after the breakup - not until you're ready. if you keep on seeing him, you get this constant reminder of what was, what could've been, and this doesn't help you 'moving on' mindset. you need to take a break from him and find yourself; focus on getting yourself together. and you seem to know that, but your ex doesn't. so TELL HIM. if he's a good friend who truly cares about you, he'll understand if you tell him that you some space right now.
as for the other guy, wait it out. it's still too early to tell =] dont jump to conclusions!
 
DaCandy
post Aug 29 2008, 09:21 AM
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I really wish he was just trying to sit down and talk about it so he can move on as well or even just trying to keep a friendship , but Im 99,9% sure that's not it. He wants me to go back with him at all cost, because even after i broke up with him he was all the time trying to get back with me, he left for the summer && i changed my cellphone number but now he's back and misteriously got my new number and now he's bugging. I just want to forget about him and move on but he's not helping at all. And I told him that 100 times . Like when I broke up I wasnt violent. I was calm, he already knew what happened and why we was breaking up . I did talked to him and told him why I didnt wanted him to call me or text or whatever so its not like there's unanswered questions.
He's just bugging.
 
espressive
post Sep 1 2008, 09:31 PM
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and so it is
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don't answer his calls or reply to his texts. he'll get the message eventually. that's the bitchiest way to get the message across, but he's obviously not listening to you. i mean, you've told him that you wanted some space for the time being so you can regain composure and stuff right? and like i said earlier, if he was just being a caring friend, he would respect your decision. but he obviously isn't listening to you or respecting you as a friend, so if you want him to stop contacting you... don't respond! in essence, just ignore him mellow.gif
 
Insurmountable
post Sep 1 2008, 11:40 PM
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Cornflakes :D
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Current Guy:
Tell him how you feel, make time to hang out and try getting closer, get to know each other.

The "X":
You need to just straight up tell him that you've moved on and you don't want to go back to the past and only look at the future and you don't see him in it.

Well thats of course if you don't want to be with him anymore.
 

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