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 May 17 2008, 03:47 PM
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 na-nancy  Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179  |
so my boyfriend tried to kiss me on the lips for the first time and i
was so not ready, i was surprised and i felt him coming towards me so i got scared and turned his face away. > < i felt so stupid and i didn't know what to do.... i am not ready for it, YET...but omg... i don't know what to do..i think he was kinda sad afterwards..and probably thinking that i don't like him the same way.. but i really DO..i like him ALOT...but it's jut that i'm not ready for the first kiss yet..and YES, i never ever kissed a boy before. i don't know what to do anymore...=( any advice? |
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May 17 2008, 07:47 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 7 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 650,194 |
I think you should just talk to him about it. I mean a relationship should be open and comofortable. just be like oh hey sorry about last time, i'm just not ready for it yet. be chill about it. and im pretty sure he'll be alright with it. Relationships they take time and as time goes by it grows more and more =) so no worrries!
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May 17 2008, 08:29 PM
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 DDR \\ I'm Dee :) Group: Mentor Posts: 8,662 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,020 |
^ I agree. Does he know that you haven't kissed anyone before? Because I would recommend that you let him know. Don't make it a huge deal, and he probably won't think that it's a big issue. Most guys don't... and if he does than you know that's not a boy you want to put your lips on, haha. Just let him know that you want to take things slow. It might even be a turn on for him
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May 17 2008, 09:12 PM
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 The Illustrious Mari C. Group: Member Posts: 586 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 26,671 |
I agree with everyone elses responses...everything's fine, it's normal...just put it out there that it's your first time, you do like him, but you got caught off guard with the kiss & just try the kiss again when you're both ready
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May 17 2008, 09:24 PM
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 yo yo yiggidy yo. Group: Official Member Posts: 1,606 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,591 |
awwwwwwwwww, thats so cute. i remember my first kiss. but this isn't about me, lol. so yeah. hmmmm, you should try talking to him about it. tell him that you don't want to embarrass yourself and you want it to be meaningful.
 he would understand.
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May 18 2008, 01:03 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 648,583 |
well if you're not ready, then you're not ready. kisses are different for everyone. some people think it's a really precious thing while others might think it doesn't really matter. you don't even have to talk about it with him. kisses come naturally... when the timing and atmosphere is right, then it'll eventually happen.
i remember my first time i was over at my ex bf's house and we were on the bed and then i was just so excited so i kissed him on the cheek. and then afterwards he kissed me on the lips after i hinted to him that i wanted him to kiss me on the lips. |
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May 18 2008, 09:34 AM
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 Marissaaaaa! Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Jan 2008 Member No: 612,652 |
I did the same thing.
It was embaressing but, whenever you're ready! |
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May 20 2008, 04:46 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
haha, that makes me feel so much better!
but no, we haven't brought it up..so yeah.. uhh, i'll just wait until the right time comes, because to me kisses are precious..im serious, i even keep track of how many kisses i give him (on the cheek) and keep track of how many he gives me!...so yeah...> < i know i'm a weirdo, but it's just me i guess. but, yes..i'll wait until the time is right. =) thank you everyone!!! |
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May 20 2008, 07:38 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 717 Joined: Mar 2008 Member No: 636,551 |
QUOTE(NATTLEUNG @ May 17 2008, 05:47 PM)  I think you should just talk to him about it. I mean a relationship should be open and comofortable. just be like oh hey sorry about last time, i'm just not ready for it yet. be chill about it. and im pretty sure he'll be alright with it. Relationships they take time and as time goes by it grows more and more =) so no worrries! ^I agree, also! Just talk to him about not being comfortable kissing him yet. Tell him that you think kisses are precious, and should be cherished. An open communication is the key to any relationship -- just let him know how you feel about it, and apologize if you think you hurt his feelings. I consider kisses precious, too. I've kept count (I feel silly admitting it xD) of how many kisses I've had with my boyfriend, too. It isn't weird, trust me. :) Good luck with your situation. And remember not to be pressured into anything you aren't ready to do. :) |
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May 22 2008, 04:53 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
of course...i know i should never get pressures into anything.
> <...yes, i'll wait until then..whenever it happens when i'm ready. =) i want it to be special. |
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May 22 2008, 05:21 PM
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 t a c o s Group: Member Posts: 1,187 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,122 |
i think you should start with an e-kiss, work your way towards text msg kissing, then over the phone kissing. you'll be on the fast track to making out with a window in between your lips.
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May 26 2008, 10:51 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
he'll probably be a little more cautious when he tries again, but when you are ready for it you should tell him you're sorry for what you did but you weren't ready then.
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May 27 2008, 02:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 5,166 Joined: Oct 2007 Member No: 585,858 |
wenn u kizz... gitt likee bunchaa spitt inn u mouthh n justt slidee alll da spitt inn hee mouthh.. hee ginnaa gitt turnn onn fo sho.. no liee..
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May 28 2008, 04:11 PM
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 "Did I scare you?" Group: Member Posts: 179 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 468,620 |
Aww..
Well.. I cant say anything because everyone has basically said it. Ill just post saying I agree with everyone, so you can be sure. :) Take it steady. :) |
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May 28 2008, 05:43 PM
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Baby - Im BAD NEWS ! Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: May 2008 Member No: 647,669 |
QUOTE(na-nancy @ May 22 2008, 10:53 PM) of course...i know i should never get pressures into anything. > <...yes, i'll wait until then..whenever it happens when i'm ready. =) i want it to be special. Aww super sweet ! That happened to me once when I first met my ex bf. We were at the park and we was talking about our next "date" and he tried to kiss me out of nowhere so i just turned my head ... I was kind of embaressed because I was so not expecting him to do that .. LOL When I got home, i got a text from him ( with his goofy ass) saying " Why didnt u kissed me ? Im feelin you but i know you aint feelin me" ... Lol and I explained him so yea he understood perfectly. 
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Jun 10 2008, 03:48 PM
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na-nancy Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 538,179 |
awwww.
he finally kissed me on june 6, 2008. =) we were at school after a field trip for our multicultural group, and he took me where we were alone in front of the school. he told em to close my eyes because he had something to show me.. so i closed my eyes, and he was telling me: "nancy, this is one of my favorite places...nancy, i love you." and he kissed me quickly but softly on my lips while my eyes were still closed. XP i was really surprised, but i saw it coming soon that day..haha. but it was really sweet and cute. =) i was speechless after and told him i love him - and i meant it. =P |
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Jun 10 2008, 05:04 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Aww
 Have fun while it lasts.
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Jun 12 2008, 05:12 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
Just when the time is right for you hold his hand and look into his eyes and nail it!
Ugh my first kiss was bad. For yours it's going to better |
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Jun 16 2008, 08:19 PM
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 amberlynn♥ Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: Jun 2008 Member No: 658,704 |
like everyone else said just tell him that your not ready for that yet.
but when you are it will be an awesome experience well mine was and I'm pretty sure yours will be to whenever your ready |
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Jun 17 2008, 12:09 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(na-nancy @ May 17 2008, 04:47 PM) so my boyfriend tried to kiss me on the lips for the first time and i was so not ready, i was surprised and i felt him coming towards me so i got scared and turned his face away. > < i felt so stupid and i didn't know what to do.... i am not ready for it, YET...but omg... i don't know what to do..i think he was kinda sad afterwards..and probably thinking that i don't like him the same way.. but i really DO..i like him ALOT...but it's jut that i'm not ready for the first kiss yet..and YES, i never ever kissed a boy before. i don't know what to do anymore...=( any advice? f**k what these people are saying. You're a teenager. You've got this notion in your head that shits gotta be so perfect and romantic. My first kiss was with some girl when I was seven. It's not like some troll is going to pop around the corner and cut your tongue out. Think logically. A kiss isn't much. Just a pre game basically. Foreplay. So get it through your head that you're ready and that it's not a big deal because believe me. It's not. A kiss is a kiss. No talking, just kissing. |
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Jun 18 2008, 01:18 AM
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 we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
good job u killed his confidence.
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Jun 18 2008, 01:42 AM
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Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
I didn't kill his confidence. Sorry if I'm not going to partake in this hippie babble bullshit. I'm going to give her my straight answer. From experience.
And there was no way where I tore her down in anyway. I'm simply telling her that a kiss is the most common form of physical affection besides handshakes and hugs. And grab ass. But even so, there's nothing to be afraid of. Stop trying to interpret my shit. It wasn't intended for you anyway. It was intended for the OP. |
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Jun 18 2008, 10:59 AM
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we jerkin' Group: Member Posts: 2,408 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 210,730 |
^i was talking to HER mr defensive player of the year.
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Jun 18 2008, 01:38 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
She has been kissed by the bf and they are in looooooove. Obviously it will last forever, so this topic is no longah needed.
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Jun 18 2008, 03:10 PM
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 Lets Get Dead Group: Member Posts: 381 Joined: Apr 2008 Member No: 641,562 |
QUOTE(Kontroll @ Jun 16 2008, 10:09 PM) f**k what these people are saying. You're a teenager. You've got this notion in your head that shits gotta be so perfect and romantic. I don't remember mine...I know who it was with, and where it happened, but other than that, no idea. I'm pretty sure I didn't realize he was going in for the kiss though and hugged him. lol 
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