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 May 7 2008, 08:40 PM
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Life is a real pain right now. Losing friends, grades are dropping, finals.. blekk. There's a few things bugging me right now that i seriously need help with. Whoever gives me advice I would like to thank them very much in advance since I probably won't have lots of time to do it later. Anyways..
So I liked this girl. She was like my best friend and she made my day everything time I saw her without knowing. Before i got with my previous girlfriend I liked her but I just thought it was a little crush. Then after i broke up with my girlfriend, she was there like a true friend. I began to like her again. Not just a little crush or anything, but I liked her more and more by the week. Soon enough my ex girlfriend found out and told her. I was surprised, because it happened to me a few times, but my ex girlfriend saw me as her best friend and it shocked me. So my best friend just stopped talking to me. It's like we saw each other and saw each other as we were both invisible. I don't even know if we're still friends, and if we are.. I know it just not the same. I actually can say that I love her. I want to keep trying but it seems kind of pointless know. I don't really know what to do.  Please help. Thanks.  |
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May 7 2008, 08:49 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
the ex needs to get over it. she was obviously jealous and did what she can to make the other friend back off so she can be back with you. trust me, girls are VICIOUS.
here's what you should do. find out what your ex told your friend. for all you know she could've told your friend that you absoluetly hate her. next you should tell the ex to back off until you figure things out. then you need to find your friend and have a heart-to-heart. say everything you want and need to say. if that friend doesn't feel the same, i hope she would say that so that she doesn't hurt you. i kinda had this happen with my best guy friend. i pretty much fell in love with him and when i finally told him it was such a relief and now he's told me that he feels the same(but i'm in a relationship...so that causes whole other problems! lol) anyways, i think the friend started ignoring you because she was either scared or had no idea what to say to you. either way just take a deep breath, get through finals and stuff first then do what i suggested above. you really will never know the truth to anything unless you ASK QUESTIONS. good luck! 
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May 7 2008, 08:56 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
...ye ye wat a NUB...
 just go slap dat bietch ex gf of yurrs...and tell hurr to fuk offf..!!  then..just askk dat gurll u crushinn andd takkee hurr out date..and havee picnicc at nicee beach o sumthing...and telll hur whyy fact u likee hurr madee hur change mindd aboutt talkin 2 u.. o maybee gurll justt wanna b frendd and not gf..and it mightt b awkwardd for youu 2 if u continuee liking hurr as yur friendshipp goess along...ye tell ex..to GTFO yo face..!!
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May 7 2008, 08:59 PM
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 isketchaholic Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,977 Joined: Apr 2007 Member No: 516,154 |
your best friend could be thinking that you're rebounding on her. of course, no one knows whether or not that's true besides you, so if it's not the case, talk to her and tell her that's not the case.
ignore your ex-gf, she did what she did and you're not going to be able to change anything by getting into an argument about it; you would just be prolonging something that doesn't need to be given any more attention to. move on. instead, focus your attention on how you can fix your friendship with your friend. all prospects of a potential relationship needs to be put off until you pull everything together in all other aspects of your life: grades, finals, whatever, and most importantly your friendship with her. you need to clarify your position and find out the reason behind her elusiveness. |
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May 7 2008, 09:00 PM
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 We're Over 9,000!!!1! Group: Human Posts: 307 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 352,435 |
what sweetest-emotion said. and you should try to get your mind off of it. maybe even try talking to this girl with maybe, "hey, so i don't want to lose you as a friend and i don't want to make things awkward with us because i care about you as a friend. i would rather keep you as a friend and never be able to have you as my girlfriend again than lose you as a friend or lover completely."
and to that ex of yours.. tell her to MYOB. MIND HER OWN BUSINESS. she be jealous up in hurr. |
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May 7 2008, 09:06 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
Everyone above me has given good advice, so follow what they said. Good luck. I hope things between you and your best friend can be repaired.
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