Help! I have a friend and she's in trouble..., She's being pressured. Options

[luminax3]

I'm friends with a really good person. I will not mention her name though, oh and it's not me lol. But yeah. Anyways, she's 16 and she has a really good boyfriend whom I met, and he's the sweetest guy ever to her. He treats her so well and he's such a gentlemen. But they have not had sex yet. But lately people at my school have asked her questions like "Would you ever blow a guy?" or "Would you ever give head?" Usually she'll just say no. That she does not like it. She doesn't find anything gross and knows that it's a very loving feeling for a lot of couples. But she doesn't wanna do it. And her and her bf talked about it and he doesn't like the idea of her putting that in her mouth. He doesn't want her to do it and she doesn't wanna do it so everythings peachy right? Well not really. Because just the other day a guy had insulted her and disrespected her saying "Your really stupid. You know your gonna suck a guy off one day. So stop saying you wont. Your making yourself look stupid and you'll never get a guy to love you." And her friend told him to piss off and stuff but ever since then. She keeps thinking she's not normal or anything. And ALOT of times she would follow her heart and do the things she wants to or whatever she's comfortable with. Her bf got really pissed though and he wanted to beat the guy up. And he told her that its ok. that he'll never do something like that and that everything will be ok cuz its him and her. not him, her and other people. She trusts him so much but sometimes in class she'll think about it too hard and wonder if she's wrong for this. and i dont know what to tell her.

Oh and she's not one of those immature wishy washy girls. She's very mature for her age and she knows what shes doing.

Positive advice please? No "tell her to do it. its normal." kinda crap.
thank you.

[hypnotique]

Moved to relationships

[Melie]

no, your friend has every right to not do it. and if her bf is ok with her not wanting to do it, and HE is not the one pressuring her then she should have nothing to worry about. those people in school are just trying to make a big deal out of nothing. she should stick to her ground and keep doing what she has been.

[misoshiru]

there was already someone who posted almost exactly the same topic on this. are you her friend, her twin? what?

[aaayotiffany]

i've never and i don't want to ever give a guy a blowjob. i've talked about it with all my past boyfriends and even my current one. i don't like that. they don't pressure me, which is good. if people are telling her that she's not "normal", they need to fxck off. there's nothing wrong with not wanting to do it, its just a decision she made with herself. and if her boyfriend [WHO IS THE ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS] is okay with it, then its fine. there's no problem.

and if she says she'll never do it and in the future she does it, oh well. it doesn't mean she's a horrible person for doing something she said she'll never do. people do that all the time.

[luminax3]

there was already someone who posted almost exactly the same topic on this. are you her friend, her twin? what?

who?

[luminax3]

no, your friend has every right to not do it. and if her bf is ok with her not wanting to do it, and HE is not the one pressuring her then she should have nothing to worry about. those people in school are just trying to make a big deal out of nothing. she should stick to her ground and keep doing what she has been.

its just sometimes she gets really upset. and alot of people that claimed to be her friend are the ones telling her shes stupid for not doing it.

[misoshiru]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=201022

[aaayotiffany]

its just sometimes she gets really upset. and alot of people that claimed to be her friend are the ones telling her shes stupid for not doing it.

then they're not her friends. they need to respect HER decision.

[tilaaaaa]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=201022
^

Sound familiar?

Your friend & this girl are going through a very very similar situation.

Maybe if you read comments from there, you can tell your friend she has nothing to worry about.

[mizzkewl06]

she's not alone on not wanting to do it. she's totally normal. somethings aren't for everyone. if she's as mature as you say she is she'll see that and not give it any more thought. and if her boyfriend is okay with her not doing it, then she shouldn't even stress it (she should be glad he's not some prick just like the guy harassing her). what she does behind closed doors is no one elses business but hers and whoever she does whatever she does with. she'll deal with the consequnces of her decisions so tell her to just ignore those stupid comments.

[luminax3]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=201022
^

Sound familiar?

Your friend & this girl are going through a very very similar situation.

Maybe if you read comments from there, you can tell your friend she has nothing to worry about.

i dont know anyone named samantha.

[illriginal]

meh let them f**k.... that's what everyone says. they should get to know each other's body.. it's better for their knowledge. trust me... letting them have sex is the best thing that'll ever happen to them. it'll relieve stress, it'll cause a lil depression, but who cares? it's SEX?!?!? YAAAAHOOOO!!! SEXY TIME, SEX, SEX, SEX... LETS ALL DO IT!

[aaayotiffany]

meh let them f**k.... that's what everyone says. they should get to know each other's body.. it's better for their knowledge. trust me... letting them have sex is the best thing that'll ever happen to them. it'll relieve stress, it'll cause a lil depression, but who cares? it's SEX?!?!? YAAAAHOOOO!!! SEXY TIME, SEX, SEX, SEX... LETS ALL DO IT!

lmfao. wow.

they'll do it when they're "ready". they have plenty of time. they're still young.

[illriginal]

lmfao. wow.

they'll do it when they're "ready". they have plenty of time. they're still young.

NO! We can't oppress them... they live in America... f**k religion and it's f**kin moralistic rules!! Fornication is always needed, it's the answer to everything!!!!!!!

50 cent does it, tom cruise does it, hannah montana does it, EVERYONE DOES IT!!! wooot sex for the win!

In fact, if you DON'T do it... Brittney Spears will commit suicide. And all us teeny boppers don't want that to happen, right?? SO LETS ALLL FORNICATE IN THE NAME OF BRITTNEY SPEARS!!

[tilaaaaa]

Your friend should stick to her choice. Oral sex isn't for everybody. Just because a majority of women would consider it, doesn't mean ALL girls do it. Your friend is going through peer pressure. And eventually it'll pass.

That's what kind of what happened to the girl I showed you. Except she didn't let the pressure get to her that much, and neither should your friend.

[S-Majere]

I really feel for your friend, she's obviously being pressured into considoring doing something that normally she wouldn't.

But they have not had sex yet.

There shouldn't really be a "yet", sex is not a necessary prerequisite to a relationship - it's a natural part of one and something that teenagers feel way too pressurised into doing before they're ready.

It's great that this boy is treating your friend well, but that's not enough on which to throw away any inhibitions and give in to these other teens who're making fun of her for not being sexually active.

THERE ARE PLENTY OF TEENAGERS THAT HAVEN'T HAD SEX. Your friend is not alone.

Remember that if your friend decides to go ahead with any sexual activities, than she should make sure that she is practising safe sex and that she knows all of the consequences - both physical and the emotional.

[datass]

society is so damn messed up now. everyone has presumed that sex is part of any relationship now. you date, you didn't have sex, youre not normal. what kind of concept is this? tell you friend that they are the ones with the real issue.